Collarspace

I'm a Dominant man in the Bay Area, with some experience but always more to learn. At this time, I am looking for a submissive woman to play with, to serve me and to give me an opportunity to explore some of my darker sides. Domination is a fundamental part of me and I take it seriously - in the sense that I know that there is an exchange, that in return for being given power, control, it is my task to use them wisely, for the pleasure and comfort for everyone involved. Yes, of course that means for my own pleasure - as long as that also offers pleasure, satisfaction, something that the submissive needs or wants. That pleasure may be hidden underneath a surface of pain or humiliation, of course, depending on the needs and desires of the submissive. Fundamentally, BDSM is not, for me, an excuse to get my way - it is a tool to be used for mutual fun, closeness, pleasure, and fulfilment. Different people obviously need and seek different things; so it's difficult for me to give a list of what I would offer a submissive who might be interested. Generally, I care about people close to me, and that means helping and guiding those who need guidance, offering support when someone is weak, being tender and loving when you need that ... as well as being commanding and demanding when that is appropriate! I very strive to be a good Dominant, a good Master to anyone who would serve me. And that means everyone offering each other something they need, and accepting those gifts from one another. Now, all of this lovely cuddly stuff I've written above does not in the least change or soften the fact that I like being in control, in command, being served, obeyed; disciplining an unruly sub, using her body for my pleasure, including such traditional things as giving a good flogging, and more! It just means I want to do all those things with someone who also wants them and enjoys them. If you find any of the above interesting at all, or even if you just want to comment or have some conversation hit me up