What we wrote to someone (although they decided not to show up)

"...there is an aspect of this that we enjoy helping people and we are indeed safe people, so to speak, we are honored to be able to help you fulfill your fantasy. 

The other aspect is it is hot and exciting to plan this out. So we are enjoying our part in this as well. 

There is no part of this that is going to be 'too much' or 'head case'. We (dawn and I) looked at ourselves years back and decided that as long as causes no one harm and is honest, then it is ok. We've been lucky to be able to try some things that are on our fantasy list. 

So, don't feel like you need to hold back. We will first help you understand what you need to do to feel comfortable that we are not going to do anything beyond what you want to happen. But then we are going to open the doors and explore whatever fantasy road you want to travel" 

Not too long ago, I was at a play party, watching a half dozen scenes going on around me. One person was being flogged, another tied up, yet another having needles poked into them….
As I wandered around, I thought about how I play, and how I really didn’t fit in.

I’ve been thinking about it for some time now, and why I don’t (can’t) play like other people, and if it…well, means anything.

Before I go on, here is the disclaimer. For this to make sense, I have to describe how I don’t play. And if that is the way you do play, do not hear in what I am saying that you are doing things wrong. You are not. You and the top/bottom are having fun, enjoying yourself, getting what you need out of it. So there is not right or wrong. There is what I can and can’t do.

The thing that I seek in play is a sense of the trance state. It used to be dom and sub space, but those ideal have become less (known/popular) in the recent years with many people.

It isn’t enough to flog you for the sake of flogging you. I am skilled at it, I can do it well, and you will enjoy it. But for me, if you are able to hold a conversation with someone else during our scene, or when we are done you are clear eyed, or you don’t think about it the next day, it isn’t a scene that will feed me.

I have likened it to dancing. We can meet at a club, both go out on the dance floor, do the moves, and have a good time. But I don’t do that.

I want to grab you from the wall, take your hand and lead you into the middle of the floor, and sweep you off of your feet. To take you in my arms and lead you in a dance, where you no longer have to think or react, but to just allow the dance to happen. And that puts me in the same space, leading our joint dance, creating a joint connection. To allow things to be esoteric, our energies mingle, vulnerabilities open, we bleed desire into each other. Thought becomes mute and the scene transcends toys. We merge in the dance. The idea of conversation or who is watching or what is on TV tonight become things that are not part of us.

Scening, like other aspects of intimacy, are sacred to me. And, in writing this, I’ve found that key that I need in a scene – the intimacy. Not sex, not physical penetration, but intimate penetration perhaps is the way to describe it.

This kind of energy – be it sex, scene, or in a conversation where the world goes on hold while we merge mind and thought and words – is what I want in our dance. The trance, the energy, the connection that lingers….

So, care to dance?

The argument over what the term Master means used to be 'Master is a title that should be earned' vs 'I'll call myself Master when I deem it appropriate, it isn't up to you'. We did not argue that Master meant 'responsible in a power exchange relationship', it was just a point of when it is appropriate to use it.
Now though, most of the 'I am a Master of a slave' conversation on is followed by 'so how can I sexually use/sexually humiliate/sexually make him or her more slave-ish', and the focus is bedroom activities. This has been going on for years, of course, and for some it has always been this way - that some see M/s as a sex only activity. But in the past, the first comment in response was normally 'you are talking about bedroom stuff, M/s is about power exchange, in and out of the bedroom'.
This does not appear to be the case as often anymore, as culturally - via porn, porn advertising, the rare TV appearance of a Mistress - continues to bring the focus of M/s as sexual only activity.
So, the question is...is it time to (accept change) and move my terminology toward Owner/property?

Dan

I am looking for a slave (or a submissive who wants to see if being a slave is right for them) to serve me. This will likely be a short term situation, expected to last for at least 4 weeks.

My primary slave is scheduled to have some surgery and will be limited as she recuperates. I’ll need someone to assist our house during that time, either as a part time situation or, in certain circumstances, have you as a live in if you seek that option.

Service is to include those consistent with a personal servant, such as basic house & maintenance chores, as well as other service related duties. These will be carried out in an M/s fashion with a focus on leather protocol.

In exchange, you will be trained in proper service protocols, leather tradition, mindfulness, service from the heart, and leave our House as a more knowledgeable person both regarding service and yourself.

BDSM play is optional. If you want play, we can include it as part of the reward for good service. Sexual play is optional as well, depending on what you are looking for. But understand that the situation is not centered on play, but on service.

Gender/appearance/age/experience unimportant.

Please feel free to ask around about me before you reach out. I am well known in the real time community in Ohio and in other area.

If interested, please contact me via a message

Thanks,
Dan

Just back from Tease in Canada, and CampOut in WV. We met lots of wonderful people! Now time to slow down for a little bit. :)  -- dawn

Soon we will be attending TEASE in Canada. If going, look us up !!!