Hello Everyone,

It has been a long time since I have added a journal entry and all I can say is that I am sorry I have neglected to update this account for so long. I want to say THANK YOU, to all of you that continue to respond to my previous entry about the "friends fiends" here on this site and for sharing your feelings with me. Each and every message and your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

There are so many accounts on this site from people here for the "wrong" reasons and so few of us here for the "right" ones. Many of us become frustrated with all the games, fakes, players, money chasers, etc. that sometimes it is hard to justify continuing to use this site. It takes so much time to dig through and find the diamonds that are hidden within the all the lumps of endless coal. However, I want to encourage all of you to continue to persevere. I have found and come to love several people from this site, and have developed some very wonderful cherished long term relationships from the time I have spent digging. So please do not give up, I do believe this site even with all the problems does allow people to actually find the ones they seek. So keep digging!

I also want to say, that a lot of things have changed in my life since this account/journal was last updated. The entire structure of the House of K and the people in my life have changed. I will eventually get around to updating everything to show all the changes. However, at this time, if anyone wants to contact me about a position for consideration please do. I will be considering all applicants and look forward to hearing from you soon.

May all of you find the many blessings you all deserve from this coming holiday season, and as always, my best to you all in this life, lifestyle, and finding someone to share it all with. Mistress K, Master of the House of K.

Hello everyone...

So, I have a question for the general public. I would like to ask anyone that responds, please keep the main answer brief... please feel free to then say anything else you would like after in your email to me. I will be posting the brief responses with no idenity info for all that read my journal to see.

When you come across a profile that have 50, 100 or more "friends" photos on the profile and you have a friend request from this person, What impression does it give you? 

My answer....

If someone sends me a friends request and I have never exchanged word one with them, then I see row after row of "friends" on thier profile, I consider them an insecure person trying to tie themselves to as many people as possible to give off the impression that they are "awesome" when they are not.

I don't need all those photos to show others I am a real, experienced and creative Domme... I back up my reputation with my actions in person.... not on a computer screen.

Updates to follow with any answers I get from others....

Responses worthy of posting...
Thank you for all your comments... but to those that just say four letter words.... I won't post them.... the rest will be below as they come in.

From a woman in AZ:
"Worse than the people with a million friends (which just reminds me of the popularity contest that was High School), is the people who 'admire' you.  There is no way to get rid of them and everyone who admires you is so totally wrong for what you are looking for, I think they are all smoking something!"

Hi again, OK OK OK....

I just need to make this clear one more time. Please contact me and get to know me. Please do not just see a picture and add me to your favorites list. This lifestyle is about respect, trust and honor. Show you have those qualities.

Now, if you don't read this and add me anyhow, here's the process:

1. I will send a nice message asking to be removed and telling you exactly how to do it.
2. I will wait to know you have read the message and if 24 hours goes by without a response and your profile coming off my Admirers tab, then
3. I will block you from ever being able to contact me for any reason.

If you are serious and are interested, then getting off to a bad start with me by adding me to your favorites list without even having shared one word with me in conversation will mean that I will immediately question your ability to truely serve and mean you will have a more difficult battle showing me you are sincere.... so I suggest you just don't do it... period.

Contact me, talk to me, get to know me, and if things gel then I will give you permission to add me... I feel that is my right as a person... not as a Domme... no one wants to feel stalked, or like others are "oggle"ing thier pictures for inappropiate ends... so please just be respectful.

Mistress K

PS.  If you do not read the original message sent with my request within a seven day period, you will be blocked from contacting me as if you just refused to remove me... sorry, but I will not accept being ignored!

Hello all,

I know several people have been waiting for responses to emails as well as waiting for my comments on last weeks topic....

I am so so sorry but a severe migraine, required more then just my normal imitrix rx, so I have been out of touch, not to mention that I am now also on a course of antibotics.

I promise everyone I will in the next day or two get those comments input.... I will be responding my the emails.... from old friends, new ones, and the people I have yet to read... I have nearly 4 pages of new emails to read though... so be patient I will respond to friends, add comments to the new people that want to talk about the topic, and if your email is one line, or just a few words like... "nice picture" or "would you consider me" etc... I'll just apply my policy as stated in my profile... tty soon....

Mistress K

My first response to the journal topic comes from dex64. You may use this in your topic if you like. By having his permission I believe that copying this text from email and using his name remains in line with CM's policy although this will be a learning experience for me and one I am looking forward to since this might actually take off well.... so

He writes:

I believe that people tend to make the issue of respect more than it needs to be. I know you want to hear more, to expand on an individuals belief of what respect means to them, both for themselves and in the way they treat others they interact with in their daily life. But to be honest, respect is a simple subject that can be stated equally simple:

Treat people as they should be treated.

Now there is a lot of discussion that can be generated from this statement, because everything snowballs from it. Kind of like the statement is at the very top of a pyramid and all flows down from it. But those can be saved for a more protracted discussion at a later time.

You may use this in your topic if you like.


Thank you dex64 for your input... I plan on adding my own comments about the topic this evening. If anyone else wants to comment please just send your input to me with your permission to use it or not and I will add it here.... Mistress K

Hello All,

I have an unwanted admirer. Collarme, currently, does not offer me any way to remove this person from my life. So, unwanted actions, and even stalking type activity can't be blocked....

I am left with only one choice.... perhaps taking the road less traveled, or maybe the moral road, will over time teach this sad lonely person that there is more to this life, and this lifestyle then they understand at this time.

I am thinking about starting a weekly, or even more often topic, depending on how much I enjoy it, or how much of a response I get from others on this site. If any of you respond with comments about a topic I start... please include in your email permission to add what you said to the topic either with or without your screen name. I think chatrooms are great for certain reasons, but I really think that this idea could actually be of use to many... and perhaps even teach my sad lonely unwanted admirer that their actions are perceived in a manner different then intended.... and maybe just maybe in time will come to understand this and if my deepest desires come true... will learn something in the long run.

Coming soon, to my journal, my first topic. Respect: How to have it for yourself, and others and How to apply it in both the vanilla world and within this lifestyle. 

Mistress K

Just redid all my photos on collarme... once they are approved... you will see the newest pictures of the playroom along with some newer pics of me as well.... and remember, the playroom is open to all my TNG and APEX friends to use, just contact me to arrange it. Mistress K

I just wanted to take the time to wish everyone I love out there, much Happiness, Health, Love and Wealth in the coming New Year..... Happy Holidays to all... and to all a good night.  Mistress K

Hello all,

For a while now, I have been talking to a male sub and this morning before heading out to meet this man, I took some pictures of the play room. I thought it would be nice to show this sub that I have spent hours upon hours talking to in the last 2 to 3 weeks, what I have put together. Sooo, with my slave of 4 years in tow my laptop and the pictures we headed off to the agreed upon location. HE never showed, and instead of maybe meeting my future house boy, my slave and I had a nice brunch.

(BTW it's exactly this that makes it so much harder for the real subs/slaves to be believed as real and not just treated like they are a dime a dozen)

Anyhow... since I promised everyone some pictures of the new room a while back, I thought I should load them into Collarme. While doing this, I messed up and actually replaced my primary photo with one of the new ones, that means that currently none of my photos are showing, but once Collarme approves the new photos they will all be back up along with the new ones. 

.... enjoy! Mistress K

Hello All...

OK.... pet peeve time.... to all those out there that wish to contact me... or any other person on this site, I recommend that you address them properly for the best possible outcome for your efforts.

I am a lifestyle Mistress.

I am not a Queen… Although, I do have blood within my veins from the very first ship that brought settlers here, The Mayflower, I do not believe any of the many strong woman in my lineage, were of royal blood and since I know I was born a biological female and still am a full bodied female…. I do not fit into the criteria of the other definition of “Queen” either… I apologize to all the gay males that take offense to that term. (BTW, I dislike it used that way even more)

I am not a Goddess…. I am not of Greek or Roman descent. I believe in God and there is no mention of a Goddess in my religion.

I do believe that all whom enter this lifestyle are entitled to define themselves how they like. I respect all the people I come across who I believe deserve that respect and address them how they like… Albeit a female that names herself Master, to a male named Mrstres (and yes that is an R and only one S… as he spells it) and most especially a wonderful TS named Goddess….  Because that is how they choose to see themselves in this lifestyle.

I am Mistress K…… if you seek my respect, my friendship, or to serve me… You will also refer to me as Mistress, or Mistress K.

Rant over…. Have a good day all…. Mistress K

Sometimes you just have to laugh....

someone wrote me today and the letter was filled with typos, I just had to laugh, here is the best example...

herrass correctly spelled is harass, something which you are trying to do to me and not "sucK"eeding at very well. Oh but I should tell everyone, she  can spell all the four letter words correctly... hmmm that tells me she has at least a 6th grade education.

Oh but wait it was "her" "ass" she made a fool of!

I am sooooo not impressed with this woman/women that keep trying to get under my skin.... I must say it's not working, and notice I don't block you from emailing, because I continue to enjoy each and every email you send. Keep them coming, or admit your beat! Because the patterns from my crops leave beautiful marks. Mistress K

Today I was at the Dr's office, not an uncommon event for me... I'm there once every other week... what was uncommon was what the scale said. Now mind you, like most woman I dislike the scale and usually only get on it once every few months. Today, however, was a good scale day... because it told me that I've lost 15 pounds. Which means that the changes I've been making to my diet recently and the fact that my clothes are getting loose is a reality and not just wishful thinking. So, I plan to continue what I am doing and hopefully in a few more months I will hear the same thing I heard today... because it felt GREAT!

I was reminded recently, that a Mistress is in some ways like a mother.... a hand that guides just as a mother guides and raises her child. After thinking about this more I started to think about the song... Teach your Children Well.... The true test of a Mistress is how well trained her slave is... my only hope is that others feel this way too. Mistress K

Happy Memorial Day, I just want to say thank you to all those that contacted me last night and this morning.... your comments, insights and support mean the world to me. I am just glad that in my effort to right the wrong done unto me that a "mistress/poser" was outed. I wish Collarme allowed me to tell everyone whom she is, as well as the names of the bogus profiles that she also uses, but alas they do not.... But I will tell you this, the main interest of this person is cuckold... so should anyone, from anywhere wish this information, please just contact me. AND BEWARE, she has reactivated her main profile and two of the bogus ones since last night.... People like this should have thier IP banned from CM so that only those true to this path could be left here to actually find what they seek.... hoping no person is ever taken advantage of by a poser.... Mistress K

I am now perplexed... it seems that the profile of the "mistress" I have talked about today has now been deleted. For which I am actually regretful, rather then correct an error she decided to run, and that is disturbing. Yet... today.. all day of the 30 or so people that have contacted me and the countless people that have looked into my profile after reading the message only 5 have taken her side. One female switch, and as for the rest... all 4 other profiles have been deleted. Now.... tell me why would a the profile of a  (something used to adhere to CM policy) Goddess something, a Mistress something, yours something male slave and love something male slave... why would all 4 of these people delete thier profiles almost at the same time? Why am I perplexed.... I wonder... were these all her... under different names? Can anyone tell me the truth?

Good Morning All,

I am sending this message to each and every person on the public friends list of the "mistress" that I recently had interaction with.... perhaps my actions at this point are a bit aggressive, but I feel you all should know the type of person you are showing the world you are friends with.
 
It is rare that I find someone that is such a rare jewel, perhaps after you all read the following.. you will feel the same.

Two days ago I noticed a female Domme added me to her favorites list.... I sent the following email:

Dear Ma'am.... thank you for your interest in my profile however I do not seek Dominat woman, so please press the x in front of my name on your favorites list and remove me.... Graciously Mistress K

Now, I see that to be fairly reasonable....  I received this:

I have my reasons to have you in my favorites and I am NOT interested in being your slave

Now, I responded by sending this.....

I am sorry.... but was there a problem with my request... as I find it offensive to be added by total strangers and have written as much in my journal... is there a reason that you have not honored my request.... Mistress K  

Seeing as she said she had her reasons, I wanted to know what they were... makes sense right?

I get this....

GET OVER YOURSELF....

and just to piss you off I have just subscribed to your journal and blocked you....

Now... I wonder how many of you will feel this to be honorable actions of a person actually seeking to be respected within this lifestyle? The profile in question is (removed to comply with CM policy)

I make my plea to all of you.... do you find these actions respectable? Do you want to continue to publicly show your friendship with a person who acts so dishonorable? Or perhaps, one or two of you that are really close to this person could show her the error here and help me.... perhaps I will finally be removed from her favorites list and unsubscribed from my journal.

Futher, I would be happy to talk to any and all of you in the future, I live this one life that I have been given as honorablely and respectfully as possible and will continue to do so.... Mistress K

Posted for all that I know and others to read.... I have no reason to hide my actions, nor fear others opinons of those actions.

To the one that serves me so softly, effertlessly, unselfishly... you have been by my side now as of today for 3 complete years. 

Your slave heart beats in synch with mine, and for whatever the reasons we came together, I could never have hoped for so many blessings as those you have brought into my life.

You have learned and grown by my hand, reached for and acheived new limits, and continue to look foward to more.   

To the next adventure... your owner, your Mistress K

In life, especially in this lifestyle, few things are ever as good as you expect it to be, the fantasy in your head and the real event just never quite match.

Yesterday, a goal my slavesan and I have worked on for many months finally came to full circle. 

All his training, all our thoughts, all the conversations, all the steps we took, mine in his preperation and his on the journey of a slave, to grow, to push his limits, to open his mind.

We were the lucky ones, our goals, our dreams, this fantasy... could not have been more perfect.

And to the one who helped in this wonderful event, my respect, my friendship, my slave, We will never be able to thank you for what you have added to our lives.... Thank you just does not say what it  meant to us.

To everyone else out there, I truely hope that your journey in this lifestyle, the people you are involved with, and your dreams come true as well.

To my little one... from the baby so many years ago, to the slave you have become at my feet, our next dream is awaiting. Mistress K

Hello all,

I am now well into my third year with my slavesan, and for whom I could not be more grateful to God that he brought us together. Our bond, respect and relationship all the stronger as time passes.   I am also glad that Deren joined my life and that I can share my knowledge and thoughts with him, to the future, we know not what it holds but it is ours to figure out. 

There will be many changes in my personal life soon, all good I hope!

I still look for that perfect blend of "boy" and sub to be a live in 24/7 slave  and a female for my personal care and that touch only a woman can bring to my life.  If you are interested then please feel free to contact me. 

I look forward to all the new things life has in store for me... Mistress K

Having just entered a new year, I want to say something about life and my desires for this coming year. It's often said on new years eve... "one is silver and the other gold" Well, as I approach the end of my second year with my slave, I want him to know, he is the goldmine of my life. He's served me both above and beyond the call since accepting his collar, and he brings joy to my life daily. To all the others out there, I seek a silver lining to add to my life as well... a slave that is a step above the rest that will become my right hand... and you must be of high moral character and a devoted slave. Do you think you have what it takes? Well contact me and prove it... Mistress K

Hi all,
Please read my entire profile, I know it is long but it may explain to many of you why you have not received a reply from me.
Anyone that is not age appropate is deleted. Anyone without a photo is deleted. You go into my bulk mail box and I never read your email.
I have tried to explain as much as possible in my add so that I recieve serious replies only. If you are curious great, but if you are straight, please move on. If you want on-line domination, please move on. 
I am serious about my lifestyle, I would hope that you are too. Mistress K

Hello everyone, Because some seem not to have any manners I have had to delete my previous profile. In order to preserve my past I have copied over my journal entries.

1/15/2006 1:54:43 PM     Hi all... I have just sent emails to everyone that has me listed in their favorites list. If you are interested enough to add me to your list, then you should be interested enough to contact me. Please do not add me if you do not contact me, If  I am on your list and you have not contacted me then PLEASE... remove me from your list. Thank you, Mistress K           

12/8/2005 9:29:53 PM     OK... I may come across a profile that from time to time interests me and I may add it to my favorites for a few days until I make contact... but you men out there that add me and never contact me... PLEASE... Make a decision about your intent if you want to list me in your favorites, then you need to introduce yourself to me or move on. Thank You Mistress K. 

8/25/2005 10:43:10 AM     Hello All, So I was working on updating my add to match my current desires and somehow it was completely deleted. So I have started all over again and it will be back better then ever soon.  Mistress K