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'...There is a category that I call the Alpha Dominant. (aka High-Level Dominant) (aka Natural Dominant). This individual appears to have been born Dominant. They often 'emerge' at a young age, (sometimes at puberty), they have natural skills, are highly imaginative and creative, flexible, energetic and intense. They have no need to 'prove' themselves to any other standards or measures. They may have no abuse whatsoever in their background. They are generally highly motivated, precise, detail oriented, aggressive, charming and capable of literally anything.'
http://www.steel-door.com/Dominant_vs_Master.html
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This last 2 weeks or so, I have had the privilege and permission to show my devotion to Mistress Puss. I now find myself with mixed feelings, one of joy, in that I were gifted the chance to be entertained as her potential slave to be, and one of sadness and regret, that this may never become reality.
During my correspondence with Mistress Puss I came to learn many things about her, despite her very mysterious nature. First and foremost her genuine search was apparent, which is very rare on here. Her natural dominant personality was also very overcoming. Her articulate messages, well presented audios and intellectual debates always made me feel very inferior. She was in every way a superior being. She never once had to raise her voice or throw an insult to force my submission, I instinctively knew my place was at her feet and her mercy, and my submission was a gift I were happy to offer. For me that's a big statement, as previously I always only ever enjoyed forced submission.
Mistress Puss epitomises the word Mistress, which is a word thrown about far too loosely on CM. She is the real deal, and however things turn out, I hope we always stay in touch, she will always have my upmost respect, and if she ever desires, my servitude in any way that I can. |
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FAO Mistress Puss, aka thepussinboots (http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/cp/2/v/1408391/details.htm)
I write this entry to show my devotion rests entirely with Mistress Puss, a superior being that deserves nothing less then complete servitude and obedience. Details of why I bow before her and offer such bold devotion, without ever having spoken with her, are outlined below:
Mistress Puss is Genuine, intelligent, unique, naturally dominant, articulate & superior.
Basis:
Her journal entries are that of a real person, articulately expressing genuine feelings, thoughts and observations. Nothing tailor made to seduce subs for ulterior motive. This shows it's all about her, not pandering to the fetishes of so called slaves for payment in kind. A Genuine Mistress, seeking real devotion.
A simple request to complete such a task as the one I'm undertaking also highlights that she is genuine. Many a Domme would simply ask for tribute, thus creating fear about their genuine motives.
This unique method also shows intelligence, understanding of the D/s dynamic and underlines her natural dominance. Not only does it prove she is genuine, but intelligently forces a sub to show his ability to obey, offers her an insight into the mind and thoughts of her potential slaves, and instantly puts the potential sub in his place. Making a fairly public display of devotion to someone I've never had a chat with, clearly makes me feel very humble and inferior.
Only a superior Mistress can achieve all this with one simple instruction, only a superior woman can be called a true Mistress, and Mistress Puss in my mind, is nothing short of just that, hence she has my devotion.
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
Why are there a considerable number of transitioned D/s users? Should they not realize their natural tendenancies betray them and they should remain true to themselves? Otherwise, the D/s relationship has no value, to either side.
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Hmm. i think that figuring oneself out can be a process. Probably a lot of males start out thinking they want to be Doms and come to find that they enjoy things better on the bottom and a lot of Women start on the bottom, because society thinks they should be submissive. Then they start figuring themselves out and become Dommes.
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Is the new journal post causing any response? I don't switch, I am the confident assertive male and that is what I want to be. I only want to serve a woman who sees value in that I would not belittle myself to compensate for any ones low self esteem The power dynamic can be clear from the start and it doesn't mean one party is diminished :) |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
How much 'flesh' should CM Dommes show in their profile photos?
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It's not an exact science, but the more you tend to see on a profile, the more likely it's aimed and designed at providing a service. A genuine/true Domme seeking genuine subs, does not need to show any, although a little bit to tease the imagination never hurt anyone. For the record, I believe Mistress is showing the perfect amount :)
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To answer the question you pose; how much flesh should a domme show, - I have to say none is necessary and often more exciting. Your profile photo is a perfect example - clearly you are gorgeous but no flesh is visible. This suggestion of the treats that may be earned is the fire that drives my submission.
I've seen many women's photos on this and similar sites over the last few years and inevitably, one becomes desensitised to those of naked women, however lovely they might be but your picture immidiately made me sit up and pay attention, even stand to attention!
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Well i had an American Domme visit me not so long ago,She had approached me and shown a photo of Her head and shoulders,we had chatted for quite sometime here on CM.i went to the train station to pick Her up and was so shocked at Her size,Her profile stated 150lbs ! More like 250lbs ? She had great difficulty getting in my car and bath! i would have never accepted to accomodate Her if i had known,i took it on the chin and accomodated Her,She lied to me about Her weight and then got most angry when i asked Her to leave after a week putting a guilt trip on me.i was totally embarrased when She met my friends, it was an aweful experience,i wouldnt have said yes if i saw the real Person behind the profile.
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For the record I think less flesh is better than more flesh.
It is good to have mystery :-)
Having said that, I wouldnt mind seeing some more pics of you
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In my view a Domme can decide whatever she is comfortable with. For me her words are more important than the flesh but I dont mind looking at flesh as such. However, I prefer to leave some room for imagination therefore a picture giving a fair idea would be appreciated whilst a Penthouse spread would turn me off her dominant side I suppose. Your own pic is perfect in my view.
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The less that is shown the more can be imagined. You see more things in the picture. The curve in the top of the boots make you think of how they have just been pulled up. The trees behind make you wonder if you have ben left there or is she striding purposefully towards you. Your eyes are drawn to the little flesh that is shown and concentrate on it. You feel it moving, you hear the skin and the boots quietly swish as they rub glancingly past as you stride. You realise the picture places you looking up but you cant see your face looking down or perhaps past. All this creates a mood within the person who observes that is in itself controlling. Too much flesh draws the eyes for a little but does not invest the domme as someone who contols,merely as a generically sexual object... Thanks for the question |
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Does it not depend on whose flesh it is? and surely as much as the domme is happy showing |
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...to me what you have on in the pic is very nice to me and besides i like a Domanatrix in the clsssic black outfit with the type of boots you are wearing |
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In answer to Your question about how much flesh a Domme should show in Her profile pics, i tend to think not a lot. For me nothing screams fake more than a Domme showing naked pics of Herself in Her profile. |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
Internet pornography destroying men's ability to perform with real women, finds study
Internet pornography is creating a generation of young men who are hopeless in the bedroom, according to research.
Exposure to lurid images and films in the new media is de-sensitising so many young people that they are increasingly unable to become excited by ordinary sexual encounters, a report said.
The result is that impotence is no longer a problem associated with middle-aged men of poor health but is afflicting men in the prime of their lives.
Too much: Men who surf the net for porn are less likely to be stimulated by ordinary sexual encounters
According to a report in Psychology Today, a respected U.S. journal, the problem is now so common that men in their 20s consider their inability to perform to be 'normal'.
The report, called 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction is a Growing Problem', explains that the loss of libido 30 years early is caused by continuous over-stimulation of dopamine, the neurotransmitter that activates the body's reaction to sexual pleasure, by repeatedly viewing pornography on the internet.
A 'paradoxical effect' is created whereby with each new thrill, or 'dopamine spike', the brain loses its ability to respond to dopamine signals, meaning that porn-users demand increasingly extreme experiences to become sexually aroused.
The Psychology Today report found that continuous over-stimulation of dopamine through looking at porn is leading to loss of libido
'Erotic words, pictures, and videos have been around a long while, but the Internet makes possible a never-ending stream of dopamine spikes,' said Marnia Robinson, the author of the report.
'Today's users can force its release by watching porn in multiple windows, searching endlessly, fast-forwarding to the bits they find hottest, switching to live sex chat, viewing constant novelty, firing up their mirror neurons with video action and cam-2-cam, or escalating to extreme genres and anxiety-producing material. 'It's all free, easy to access, available within seconds, 24 hours a day, seven days a week,' she said.
But she added: 'In some porn users, the response to dopamine is dropping so low that they can't achieve an erection without constant hits of dopamine via the internet.' Many were initially shocked, she said, when they discovered their sensitivity was declining 'toward normal sex'.
'When they try to have actual intercourse and cannot, they understandably panic,' Robinson said.
'Most men are astonished to learn that pornography use can be a source of sexual performance problems.
'Instead, many are becoming convinced that erectile dysfunction at 20-something is normal,' she said.
'They are amazed that heavy porn use can affect them adversely, that no one told them it could affect them.'
Robinson said recovery was possible over a period of months by giving the brain a chance to 'reboot' itself by shunning pornography completely.
But she said that while recovering, addicts were likely to experience a temporary loss of libido as well as 'insomnia, irritability, panic, despair, concentration problems, and even flu-like symptoms'. The report comes just a week after David Cameron announced new measures to encourage internet providers to block access to pornography in an attempt to protect children from its harmful effects.
The findings were welcomed by Norman Wells of the Family Education Trust. 'This research gives the lie to the idea that pornography is just a bit of harmless fun,' he said.
'Not only does it depersonalise those who take part in it, but it also has the potential to damage the real-life relationships of those who use it. 'People who exercise self-control in this area and make a point of steering clear of pornography and sexual imagery in all its forms are not the repressive killjoys they are often taken to be,' he added.
'These findings suggest that prizing modesty and respecting the private nature of expressions of sexuality will bring its own rewards.'
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Very interesting link, I enjoyed reading it. I also love yor boots, makes me salivate like a stupid dog, lol.
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As a man who is a wanker and has lots of porn, so many photos, and videos, especially femdom stuff- well ive just copied your journal text to read re porn making men hopeless with real women- i think i am such a man...i havent had a girlfriend for yonks- yonks- i just rely on porn and fall back on it...it makes me objectify the superior sex and a weak man....and i have become a real loser over time..........my lust should be contained i feel and used in a productive way - it is why i should be locked in chastity- permanently i believe...and then only freed when i meet a woman within a relationship! |
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this is the "video games / films make my child violent " kind of article that does the rounds. or in short it's the "good made me do it" excuse ... blame people who can't fight back and blame them for your social ineptitudes. |
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Now that's a fascinating and thought provoking article...I have often wondered about this topic and this seems to place some academia on it |
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I am probably older than your poor male youths that suffer as you describe :-) Plus boots alone turn me on ... |
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Thank you for sharing that rather scary article Miss :-) |
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Great boots Miss Who needs normal sexual response with boots like that to worship :) |
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Apparently in the latter years of his life Giacomo Casanova was impotant due to his excesses in earlier years making everyday occurrences seem boring. |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
To help Mistress's journal subscribers, Mistress has changed the order of responses. Now, the most recent are displayed first. |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
This may help others on CM:
The following action does not work for a hot mail address. It does work for other email addresses.
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Possibly just try to change the mail address ... who knows?
Best cross Your fingers then ...
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
Some subs profess their limitless obedience to Mistress but hard-line at the first opportunity, please explain?
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that is simples. they don't know what they were doing and they've come across the true sub definition ie. don't say no to the Domme ... yet, when it comes to the reality, they suddenly realise ... hang on i can't do this. it's the fantasy of total submission that they haven't realised what that entails |
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the philosophy of Ds Sm Fm is so person specific and complicated
So many slaves actuallycontrol their Dommes into pleasing them dutifull wife syndrome extended
can think of so many examples I could prove Euclid shagged pythagoras thyrum backwards in a masonic ritual
At least you prove you think
a limitless slave has a domme who knows when not to push or bother
but somelimits are not worth the efort of crossing
intelligence and honesty in a Domme are my turn on
Sm Ds is a mutually parasytic relationship the skill being to build each other up and nevevr destroy the respect which binds together.
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Professions of limitless obedience? The satirist without peer, Terry Pratchett, put it like this: Yes, I will do anything you ask, as long as you do not ask me to do something I'm unwilling to do.
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I think playdo covered most of the options pretty well. I think the online dynamic has a lot to answer for as I doubt many conversations would be quite the same in a one on one situation where conversation is more of a given as opposed to online where it feels more like an exercise in jumping through a minefield of explosive hoops. If promising the earth bypasses those hoops it's not surprising that many take that route.
Then there is the fact that a promise can be made in a second under the influence of certain hormones. It probably takes a little longer to fulfil that promise, quite often when hormones are screaming the opposite.
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Observation:
I always believed no sub was limit free, after-all, who would jump to their own death at their Mistress's command? Then the story of the German cannibal victim blew that theory out of the water. However, this is rare, very, very rare. Most subs flat-line for the same reason, but they are a few others.
1, the Fantasist: These guys promise the world in hope of a few kinky messages to get their rocks off. this is the majority of the players on here.
2, The idiot: These subs just aren't quite smart enough to know their own limitations, and quote the phrase without thinking through what they are actually saying.
3, The Over Eager: These subs are so desperate to serve they profess total obedience just to be given a chance, but bottle it when the going get's rough.
4, The inexpereinced: Testing the water, love the idea, but the follow through scares them off and they bottle it.
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
No true Mistress can have true subs as friends?
From: Mistress
Mistress would suggest that you are both far from the edges of the D/s spectrum. This was the context of the original observation. Mistress wishes you well in your playtimes together.
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hi i was just reading your profile wall and i have to say i found it a very interesting read i have a mistress i play with on occasion and we are very very close friends but when we play im her slave and shes my mistress i find that the friendship helps build the trust between the two people and makes for a better and more intense play for both indivduals it also means she can read my body language expertly so knows when im approaching my limits or if im ready to be pushed we are very close and do and will have a life long friendship i hope this has been helpfull in explaining some questions |
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the key to a good domme/slave relationship is communication all limits can be pushed with the right level of communication.
But for there to be good communication there has to be the presence of friendship and respect for each other and the fact you actually like each other.
I could never submit to someone i did not like or talk to in a vanillia sense as most of my life is spent in the vanillia world i like to serve someone who i can communicate with in the vanillia world.
The prob with the net is , it give you lots of cold hard infomation but lacks the warmth of social interaction were you can read a person intentions from the way they talk and act.
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In my opinion a Mistress/sub relationship can only be based on friendship as it is, like friendship, completely based on unconditional trust.
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Mistress was referring to the very edges of the D/s spectrum. This is her definition of 'true', in this context. Mistress believes friendship is irrelevant at this point and cannot exist. Friendship probably can exist in the other parts of the spectrum, in the forms you have listed.
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Hi Mistress,
What kind of friendship are you talking about between a true Mistress and a true sub.
There are so many kind of fiendships, a study on Wikipedia give me the following types of friendships.
Types of friendships
Associate
: not a true friend—sharing of emotional ties are absent. An example would be a coworker with whom you enjoy eating lunch or having coffee, but would not look to for emotional support. Many "friends" that appear on social networking sites are generally associates in real life.
Best friend (or the closest friend): A person with whom someone shares extremely strong interpersonal ties with as a friend.
BFF ("Best friends forever"): Slang used primarily in the USA by teenage and young adult women to describe a girl friend or close best friend.
Blood brother
or blood sister: Either people related by birth, or a circle of friends who swear loyalty by mingling the blood of each member together though not recommended for risk of blood disease such as HIV.
Boston marriage
: An antiquated American term used during the 19th and 20th centuries to denote two women who lived together in the same household independent of male support. Relationships were not necessarily sexual. It was used to quell fears of lesbians
after World War I
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Bro/ or Bruh: Slang used primarily in the USA, Australia and New Zealand by teenage and young adult men to describe a boy friend or close best friend. This term is currently used to describe the modern generation of college-age male party-goers. The name is typically associated with attention-seeking males who like to get drunk and party constantly. A bro is someone whom one identifies with on a deeper level. While partying might influence one's bros, a true bro is one who sticks by you, through thick and thin. While one male might call another a bro, the true Bro is a person who is the male's brother. A friend so close, that blood relations do not matter.
Sis: Also slang used primarily in the USA like "Bro" but for women and girls.
Buddy
: In the USA, males and sometimes females often refer to each other as "buddies", for example, introducing a male friend as their "buddy", or a circle of male friends as "buddies". Buddies are also acquaintances that you have during certain events. The term may also refer to an online contact, such as the AOL Buddy List.
Casual relationship
or "friends with benefits": A sexual or near-sexual and emotional relationship between two people who don't expect or demand to share a formal romantic relationship. This can also refer to a "hook-up".
Family friend: A friendship extended to family members of the friends. Close relation is developed in those societies where family setup is strong. This term is usually used in the Indian subcontinent.
Comrade
: Means "ally", "friend", or "colleague" in a military
or political connotation. This is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Former New York Times
war correspondent Chris Hedges
wrote:
We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love – the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. [...] Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades. [9]
As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, many comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common. Sometimes they even become enemies in another war.
Cross-sex friendship: A person having a friend of the opposite sex with having little or no sexual or romantic activity: a male who has a female friend, or a female who has a male friend. Historically cross-sex friendships have been rare. This is because often men would labor in order to support themselves and their family, while women stayed at home and took care of the housework and children. The lack of contact led to men forming friendships exclusively with their colleagues, and women forming friendships with other stay-at-home mothers. However, as women attended schools more and as their presence in the workplace increased, the segregated friendship dynamic was altered, and cross-sex friendships began to increase. Cross-sex friendship has once been a sign of gender deviance, but now it has been loosened because of the increase of gender equality in schools and the workplace, along with certain interests and pastimes such as sports.
However, cross-sex friendships aren't always a socially accepted norm of amity and some of those friendships could develop into romantic feelings (see romantic friendship
). However, when these feelings are not mutual, they can often backfire, making it hard for the two to remain friends.
Frenemy
: A portmanteau of the words fr(iend) and enemy, the termfrenemy refers to someone who pretends to be a friend but actually is an enemy—a proverbial wolf in sheep's clothing in the world of friendships. This is also known as a love–hate relationship. Most people have encountered a frenemy at one time or another in the same places one might find friends—school, work, the neighborhood. The term frenemywas reportedly coined by a sister of author and journalist Jessica Mitford
in 1977, and popularized more than twenty years later on the third season of Sex and the City
. While most research on friendship and health has focused on the positive relationship between the two, a frenemy is a potential source of irritation and stress. One study by psychologist Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad found that unpredictable love–hate relationships characterized by ambivalence can lead to elevations in blood pressure. In a previous study, the same researcher found that blood pressure is higher around friends for whom they have mixed feelings than it is when they're around people whom they clearly dislike.[10]
Fruit flies
,[11]
fag hag
(female),[12]
or fag stag
(male)[13]
: denotes a person (usually heterosexual) who forms deep ties or close friendships with gay men. Men (gay or straight) who have lesbian friends have been referred to as lezbros or lesbros.[14]
The term has often been claimed by these straight members in gay-straight friendships, however some feel that it is derogatory.[15]
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Imaginary friend
: a non-physical friend created by a child or even an adult. Sometimes they're human, other times they're animals like the life-size rabbit in the 1950
Jimmy Stewart
movie, Harvey
. Imaginary friends are also created for people desperate for social interaction but are isolated from contact with humans and pets. It may be seen as bad behavior or even taboo (some religious parents even consider their child to be possessed by an evil "spirit"), but is most commonly regarded as harmless, typical childhood behavior. The friend may or may not be human, and commonly serves a protective purpose.
Internet relationship
: a form of friendship or romance which takes place over the Internet
. Some internet friendships evolve into real life friendships. Internet friendships are in similar context to a pen pal. These friendships are also based on the thought that the other person that they may not have ever met in real life knows them for who they are instead of the mask they may use in real life.
Mate
: In the UK, Ireland, Australia, and New Zealand, blokes
often refer to each other as "mates", for example, introducing a male friend as their "mate", or a circle of male friends as "mates". In the UK, as well as Australia, this term has begun to be taken up by women as well as men.
Open relationship
: a relationship, usually between two people, that agree each partner is free to have sexual intercourse
with others outside the relationship. When this agreement is made between a married couple, it's called an "open marriage".
Communal Friendships: A friendship where the friends gather often to provide encouragement and emotional support in times of great need. this type of friendship tends to last only when opposing parties fulfill the expectations of support for the relationship.[17]
Agentic Friendships: A friendship where both parties look toward each other for help in achieving practical goals in their personal and professional life.[18]
These friends help with completing projects, study for and exam, or help a friend move out. These types of friends value sharing time together, but only if there are no other priorities and the friend is actually available to help in the first place. Emotions and sharing of personal information is of no concern to this friend type.
Pen pal
: people who have a relationship via postal correspondence. Now pen pals has been established into internet friendship with the use of chat or social networking sites. They may or may not have met each other in person and may share either love, friendship, or simply an association between each other. This type of correspondence was encouraged in many elementary school children; it was thought that an outside source of information or a different person's experience would help the child become more worldly.
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hello that is why i look for Domanatrix for friends and or love |
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Of course they can. Anyone who is 'true' is too complex to be defined by others' expectations. It's the fakes who can't be friends.
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'well. the legs especially, frankly'
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'so long as theres not some sort of desire clouding things.'
Surely you have invalidated your own argument, in this case?
...'true' was used to differentiate between role playing within relationships and genuine D/s understandings.
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Hello, I've noticed your profile a few times. (well. the legs especially, frankly) and the questions you pose in your journal, the latest one: I don't think theres anything that precludes any two people from being friends, now just as with a vanilla boy and girl being friends there may well be ulterior motives on one or both sides that poison the friendship, theres no reason a mistress and a sub can't be friends, so long as theres not some sort of desire clouding things.
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All relationships are different, one person is usually the dominant in any friendship. It needn't mean sexually dominant, just the stronger more forceful character. Such a person often has a lot of friends who are followers without realising it.
So Mistress and sub can equally be friends because they are both having their friendship need satisfied by someone who naturally fits into their role within the relationship.
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I think quite the opposite, how can one be a true sub, without making friends and having understanding with the Domme, otherwise the sub may as well pay for it, then the sub is not a true sub but a client? No?
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sub as a friend, i think you can be and need to be in order to have any kind of relationship, D/s requires the same trust understanding and compatibility as any nilla relationship and more |
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i don't fail to realize, and know where you're coming from exactly, though they would imho tend to be more the sadist sessions/non-commitals. if a realtionship was to work long term, then there would be the connection for it.
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What you may fail to realize, is that many Mistresses do not have any empathy with their subs. This may come as a bit of a shock to some.
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hmmm ... define true Mistress and true sub ... before your question... if you're on the stereotype of a true Mistress and a true sub, then probably not because the Dominant will always be seeking to control the sub and the sub will always want to be controlled... maybe friendship wouldn't be the best term (equal status) but it would be more tempted to define it as an arrangement of conveinance to keep to the spirit of the stereotype ... however if you see Mistress' and subs as being humans, then as they say anything is possible
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Ah but friends can hurt each other more than strangers
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Again, you raise a definitional question. Are friendship and having an understanding not in some way connected? And are marriages of convenience not either forced, or intended to serve a particular purpose and almost always by their nature short-lived?
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Yes, two people can have a relationship without any friendship as long as there is an understanding between them. There must be an acknowledgement by both parties of the terms of their arrangement. The timescale is of their mutual choice and can last indefinitely. Otherwise, how does one explain a marriage of convenience?
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What is a true Mistress, what is a true sub? And, unless they are friends at least to an extent, can any two people have relationship in which they are not simply using one another? And how long would that last? |
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The question is double sided with fair viewpoints for and against. It could be argued a Mistress is always above a sub, and his duty is only to serve, therefore can never be a friend. and elevated to such an equal position. It could also be argued that a good sub who fulfils his duty to please, is accomplishing everything a good friend could. My opinion is that it falls to the Mistress to decide, if she wants the sub to be a friend, then he shall, if she doesn't, then he just serves. |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
Reality on this site? The few genuine users swamped by "pond life". |
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Some of you have had the temerity to question my photograph. You know who you are. Mistress gives her word that all images and audio are indeed current & genuine. |
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
Does CM Technical Support exist? Have you ever received a response? I have not, to date.
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Yes, there is a support link right at the bottom of the page. I sent a remark about something on CM that was wrong, and I got an answer back relatively soon (and the issue disappeared too). |
From: Mistress
1. CM seems to have lost some older messages in the history. It could be something to do with deleted profiles, maybe?
2. Journal entries seem to display excessive blank lines. Can the raw HTML be edited in any way?
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CM used to have a policy to keep messages for 6 months. Now they don't state the delay, but I think they do still remove the older ones (presumably every time the server is full).
In the Mail Controls, they offer "Save all messages to your registered email address" which sends all your messages to a mailbox, where they will be safer.
In Your journal entries there are some blanks, looking at the the source code, a table row is inserted. Actually each part of Your entries is a separate table. Depending on the settings of CM CSS files, I would expect a certain amount of padding around tables, which would give on some empty space. I would expect this to be deletable in the "edit journal" windows.
The raw HTML can't be edited, and shouldn't be. In fact I would expect from a site like this that they strip each message of HTML tags except for the ones they consider safe, as it would otherwise be possible to get scripts running on the server.
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From: Mistress
I use "Save all messages to your registered email address", it only sends a CM link to the original message.
"Actually each part of Your entries is a separate table". I want to be able to use copy&paste directly from users' messages when they respond to questions in my journal. Indeed, these are in table form. As you can view, this ends up with a lot of unwanted blank lines.
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Observation (responses will be added here with username):
subs require a Domme but on their own terms, surely a contradiction?
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That kind of "subs" just need a nanny |
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Dated:
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10/13/11 9:19 PM |
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This user does not have an active profile |
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Yes; it's a contradiction... They're clearly not the subs for You, David |
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Observation:
Why do Straight Male Dominants approach Mistress?
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Maybe the ones that approach you are really deep down a sub or switch. Maybe they try to test you and think they can top you. Maybe they wish to have a friend. |
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Because they deep inside want to be dominated themselves. :)
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Answer: Because they are subs. Heather |
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Apropos your observation, my guess is a lot of people struggle with the binary categorisations that CM forces on people. You have to choose whether to say you are d or s. Switch feels like a cop-out, as if one is saying I can be anything to anyone. But to me, once aware of the bdsm thing, the question of d or s is determined by the two people themselves. I know I am s to some people, but I'm also d so far as others are concerned. And, of course, a lot of people on here seem to simply lie! We've all seen profiles that are patently fake. Other lies hide behind a subtler mask |
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I have now been on this site for almost two weeks and I am truly appalled at the standard of English that pervades CM.
Messaging, is by far the worst offender. When you have to read hundreds of messages at a time, it really does begin to grate.
All of you must now compose a well written journal entry.
This must explain why you have decided to devote yourselves entirely to Mistress puss. You may be awarded points for content, good English, timely & meticulous entries and making Mistress purr.
You will address me at all times, in the future, as Mistress and absolutely nothing else is acceptable.
I have to take this action to weed out the numerous pathetic time-wasters amongst you all, who think they can consume my precious time.
I will check each of your individual entries, whenever you message. So, I had better not be displeased with any of your efforts or you will never hear from me again.
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To obtain original recording: email mistresspussinboots@hot mail.co.uk (subject: Instruction 1)
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