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| There are two sides to D/s, as there are to every person, the physical and the psychological. Together these two interact, they fuse together to create a Gestalt, a whole person, and a whole experience. The submissive listens to directions, feels the floor beneath her knees. She offers devotion and trust, she feels the security of leather encircling her neck. She laments mistakes made, she feels the sting of a crop behind her. She glows from tasks well-completed, she feels a warm hand on her cheek. In any Dominant & submissive relationship there are expectations and there are consequences, and I am the kind of Dominant that fairly abides by both. I enjoy a variety of diversions, but most especially so bondage -- it's rather an art form when executed with care, intelligence, and the right subject. Corporal punishment, physical restraint, plugs, gags, sensory deprivation, humiliation and orgasm control are all means that I utilize in training a submissive. I've studied behaviour modification in a university setting and frequently use what I've learned as part of the process of developing a submissive to her potential. I have a flair for the aesthetic and train a submissive to posture herself and move in visually appealing ways. I also have an eye for detail and will accept nothing short of complete attentiveness and effort. I'm attractive, intelligent, compassionate and experienced as a Dominant -- as such I can afford to be selective in evaluating potentials.
In terms of my ideal submissive, I could run down a laundry list of what I'm seeking in a potential, but all of my expectations essentially boil down to three qualities: healthy self-esteem, honesty, and creativity. A good self-image entails that a potential takes care of herself emotionally; she understands her potential value as a submissive and endeavors to find the proper safe and healthy setting in which to realize that potential. She derives pride from taking care of herself physically, and endeavors to present herself in a visually appealing way. She is honest with her co-workers, friends and family, and most importantly honest with herself -- this honesty enables her to establish and maintain healthy relationships and to keep her life in good order. As a submissive she thoroughly understands her own needs and desires, and is able to communicate them effectively to a partner. Her creative side is indicative of her intelligence and taste, and is manifested in her efforts to continually improve her service and demeanor. She takes physical pleasure from a good glass of merlot as much as she does from a secure hog-tie. She is also capable of enjoying good conversation, whether it occur out at dinner or after she's melted into her Dominant's arms after a powerful scene. If a potential finds that she can meet these simple expectations, I can accomplish the rest.
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