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Life is too short :-> - live, laugh, and learn
And, as far as bdsm goes, I've lived a little, laughed alot, and would love to learn more.
I'm looking to connect with and learn from other fetsters, but for those subs who want me to Patdatass, I’m DDF and expect the same of you.
(I also have more pics available for those who friend me on Fetlife (I accept all friend requests and have the same username). But, for those potential play partners I actually feel a connection with, I like to at least hang out in a vanilla context first to see what you're about and whether the vibes match, not necessarily what you do.
After all, my vanilla life is very important to me and I will only trust sharing it with those I am in a long-term DD/LG or M/S situation, which will most likely happen if we have matching wavelengths about the role of the dom and sub. I have many thought and more feels on this topic that I've put in my overly lengthy bio. It can be a real pain in the ass at times, but if you start slow, & build up to the climax, you should be good:
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I first viewed the dom role as about exerting power over someone else in an attempt to feel more control but more so to gain control of my own life); but that logic was not only totally backwards, but it also made it hard...for me to enter...into dom-space and even harder...to give subs what they wanted; which is to receive pleasure by providing it. It's a very self-sustaining win-win-win;-) albeit fucked up situation that works best when worked at and worked out from within the right state of mind.
(Together, the two *Shameless* clips in my videos [on FetLife] illustrate what I'm talking about [sorry to disappoint those who didn't realize I meant the show])
Now I view the role of the dom as putting subs' needs first and find that doing so provides more pleasure and greater connection for everyone.
This has helped me cum...to realize that I am more of Daddy than anything else. Even in vanilla life, I've always played that protective role to those I cared about, whether it was looking after my siblings and friends or actually being referred to as the "house dad" for my fraternity.
I think that is because I've always felt affection and love when I was given words of affirmation for acts of service. (For those who've read *5 Love Languages*, those are the main ways I feel loved and give love respectively. In this way, in vanilla, "Thanks for doing that for me" becomes
"Thank you daddy"
Points if you've read to the end & bonus points to subs who use this phrase as a sign off in messages to me. (Is this already a kink?)
Kinky Interests:
- DD/LG
- Pet Play
- Princess by day, slut by night
- Light bondage/ (picking out toys together)
- Verbal humiliation and degredation
- Spanking, (esp. OTK)
- Light breast torture
- Light face slapping
- Gagging
- Anal
- Spit play
- Piss Play (esp. watching her drink)
- Rimming (receiving and giving)
- Being thanked, apologized to, and called daddy
- Light domestic submission/ kinky chores
- Exploring 24/7 M/S from a D/S frame of mind
- TPE (within reason)
Vanilla Interests:
- My dog
- Vegan Food
- Trail/ ultra running, adventure races, hiking, biking, yoga, & swimming
- Video and board games
- D&D type games (I'm such a nerd that I'm helping my friend create one)
- Going out with friends
- Hip hop/ rap
- Road trips, (esp. to National Parks)
- Going to/ making out at the movies (and in general)
- Cuddling, spooning, and hugging
- Massage (receiving and giving)
- hickies, biting, nibbling (giving and receiving)
- Receiving words of affirmation = #1 love language & physical touch #2
- 420 friendly
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97% Daddy
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