So if a sub outlines what he's interested in and voices any expectations of those interests being explored he's "topping from the bottom"??  But, if a sub answers that his interests are "whatever pleases you", then he's being lazy or bullshitting??  So I guess the middle ground is to have a long list of things I am interested in and express my total disinterest in ever trying them lest I "top from the bottom"??

Ok, this isn't going to be very sub-like.  If I wanted a relationship with a woman where my desires were of little to no concern I'd have stayed in a loveless marriage.  If you really don't care what a sub wants then why not just accept the "whatever pleases you" response. I can understand jumping through hoops and courting and what not.  But if there's no right answer for questions posed to me, then any exchange becomes pointless.  However then, if one stops exchanging the pointless emails then they are a "flake".  Trust me ladies, for as frustrating as this site may be to you all, it's equally frustrating to men.  don't even get me started on the prostitutes.

I just want someone who understands that I will seek her approval because of my nature and who can appreciate my need to do that without abusing it.  Someone who understands that sometimes I will need to be pushed, but most often only be led and nurtured.  and finally someone who will beat me senseless and sit on a piece of cheesecake then make me lick it off of her...   I am a man of simple needs..