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Pan Female Submissive, 36,  Southend, Essex, United Kingdom
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PLEASE NOTE THAT ALL PICTURES EXCEPT THE GREEN CORSET ONES ARE PRE ME LOSING 5 STONE IN WEIGHT (21/06/2013) I am a female who is on a voyage of discovery, I am a very content switchy brat. Confident in my dom side and bratty in my sub side

Borrowed from a friend
"The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut."

I am enjoying my time with friends and trying to work out my new path, please respect it
If I do not know you in real life, you will need to send me a message to be added to my friends list . Borrowed from a friend (with permission of course) but it says everything better than cash ever could!!!
I live a life outside the Internet. If you believe that the internet is the centre of BDSM, that one's life has to be intimately chronicled here and that it "all happens" online you are not for me - Sorry. I feel it is so depressing reading details of the latest car crashes.....
This bit is all me Get out there, there is a world of interesting things and some fabulous people to be met and the world is needing your own personal shake up method so run out there and spray the world with thunder and lightning and glitter and rainbows..... Enrich mine and others lives with your special blend of madness. Controversial, yes sometimes, I don't suffer fools gladly and am loyal to my friends but as my Mother says (non gender specific :) )
UPDATE A lot has happened, I have explored more of my sub side, and I have tried trusting people with my well being, that has produced some good and some bad scenerios. None of which I would have done without.
I am learning what floats my boat and what doesn't, and more to the point the types of people that float my boat. I know I could never live without bondage of some form or other. Also spanking is a great passion.
I can express myself through my writings and hopefully someone who cares enough will bother to read them, to actually get a window inside the castle I call my well being.
I keep my emotions to the people I trust and that can mean I am a little prickly, get to know me and you'll find out why.
I have a lot of passion to give the right person, that however doesn't mean that every mr right now is going to be the right person.
Nothing worth having isn't worth a little effort. I believe I am worth the effort. At least I am exactly who I thought I was

I am complex yet very simple an enigma yet an open book.











Last Online:


 Submissive Female

 Southend, Essex 

 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 3"






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Male

Submissive Male

Switch Men

Friends Only

 Lives For:

 Movies (Expert)




 Local BDSM Community


 Art Galleries (Expert)

 Beachcombing (Expert)

 Fine Dining (Expert)

 Going to the Opera (Expert)

 Museums (Expert)

 Musical Theater (Expert)



 Scuba Diving





 Anal Play


 Breast Play


 Antique Shows (Beginner)


 Coffee Shops  (Expert)

 Flea Markets

 Garage Sales

 Volunteerism (Expert)



 Electrical Play


 Amusement Parks

 Bar Hopping (Expert)

 Shopping (Expert)

 Canes and Crops

 Curious About:

 Fishing (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires (Beginner)


 Bird Watching (Beginner)


 Eye Contact Restrictions


 Begging (Beginner)

 Hard Limits:

 Corner Time

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Journal Entries:
10/21/2012 6:06:54 PM

I expect you to honour my limits but push my boundaries

I expect you to kiss me whenever you want to

I expect you to push me in my endeavours and yours

I expect you not to take any of my bullshit

I expect you to grab me by the throat and snarl in that way that makes me desire you more.

I expect you to take me anyway you want to knowing I want and need it.

I expect you to adore me and respect me as I do you

I expect you to teach me, so that I can grow more like the me I want to be, and in doing so more like the you, you want me to be

I expect you to tie me up and ravish me knowing in that moment I feel truly safe

I expect you to cause me pain knowing that my surrender delights you like no other

I expect you never to lie to me no matter how harsh the reality.

I expect you always to be you!!!

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