Things I never knew this site was for:

1 - Meeting my role play buddies so we can wank up a good time

2 - Demonstrating my literary skills (or copy/paste skills)

3 - Prostitution (Google it - in some states it's a misdemeanor, in some it's a felony, interstate prosecution is rare, but not unheard of.  Federal penalties are quite nasty)

4 - Seeing how many profiles I can create in a day using photos of innocent (well, maybe not innocent) young girls from the Web

5 - Satisfying my need for attention through deception (the more attention I get the better I feel about myself, what's wrong with that ?)

6 - This place is ripe for some creative marketing, how much can I make today selling my underwear ?

7 - I wonder how many emails I can rack up with suggestive journal entries ?

I'm sure those of you who are genuine (if any) can add to the list.  My patience grows thin.  I realize the site is free, but lets exercise some judgement.  If you like to role-play, make it the first line of your profile.  If you want to publicize your book, I'll try not to read it.  If you want money for lewd or sexual services, there are laws to 'help' you.  If you need attention (who doesn't) get some by being yourself, can it be that bad ?  Creative marketing - why work ?  If you're that bored, perhaps it's time for a self-help 12 step program, or you can always check out the local volunteer opportunities.

Most of us are here to find something, something a little out of the ordinary,  let's not make it harder than it needs to be.

Gosh, I'm so sorry.  Everyone please accept my apology.  I had no idea this was a role playing site !  I guess I missed that somewhere.  Who would have thought ?  Imagine that.

Seriously, when you pretend to be something you're not, when you masquerade as someone you're not, not only do you defraud others but you also degrade and diminish yourself.  Don't be afraid to be honest, you never know who you might attract.  We are all a bit outside the norm here, don't be afraid of it, embrace it.  Everyone needs attention, and there's nothing wrong with asking for it, but be honest.  I have found the truth is often much more interesting and is always a good foundation for friendship.  Deception on the other hand, is a weapon of war. 

This entry is not aimed at anyone in particular, it's simply good advice for many here.  No animals or perverts were harmed in the production of this journal.  Happy 4th of July !

Each year the number of surviving veterans from WWII grows smaller.  We put this day aside to reflect and to acknowledge those who have sacrificed for our freedoms.  You must know someone that age, who lived though a terrible war and represents the generation who sacrificed so much so that we would have the freedoms we enjoy today.  Please find one man or woman and thank them, and do something nice for them.  Do it for the young men and women who gave their lives and are no longer with us, do it to show your appreciation.  

A very special thank you to the Veterans of the Vietnam War.  The most unappreciated generation in our history.  No matter the rightness or wrongness of this conflict, those of you who stepped up at the time and put your lives in the hands of our leadership (right or wrong) deserve to be appreciated.  When many of us returned home during that era we were shunned, ostracized and cast off by our own generation.  That generation became the Yuppies and now they enjoy the very wealth that we served to protect.  If you know a Vietnam era Vet, let them know you appreciate their sacrifice, right or wrong we too served when we were called.

No matter your spiritual orientation, I invite you to say a prayer for all of our young men and women serving in the armed forces today, let them return home safe and whole.  God bless them all, every one of them.

An entertaining story I found and thought to share:

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out whymen think with their head and women with their heart.
FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into  bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me." I said "WHAT??!! What was that?!" So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man." She responded to my puzzled look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?" Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit. We went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you...she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, "I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier." I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it." Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled WHAT?" I then said "honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman." And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"
Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.

My take on the moral of this story:  What goes around, goes around, so be careful how you treat people.

It strikes me oddly that what is referred to as the 'fakes' is actually a complete subculture on this website.  It's not what most of us want, but it's here and can be distractingly entertaining.  I've noticed the profiles seem to be made several at a time, almost all say they are from NY and are all the same distance from me.  They all include a photo of some poor young innocent (and attractive) young girl and they're all submissives.  Reading some of the text descriptions can actually be mildly humorous, take the following for example:

My Ideal Person:First and formost must be an Alpha male!!! A guy that is strong will and be able to subdue me.Tall and muscline man that want a long term relation.Someone ready for settle down and start a family,based on old fashion family values.. ..a man with a a sense of humor , playful, fun,hot man who is secure, very sexual.... About me:I'm pure and untouched,Witty, coquettish, seductive, reasonably intelligent and light-hearted.Beautiful face, alluring physique, penetrating eyes and a bright nsmile.Comfortable is elegant environments, intuitively understanding the role of power in any setting.nEqually comfortable in relaxed environments, naturally appreciating the value of unrushed time.As focused on me and I will be on you when we are together.nFinally, experimental, adventurous, willing to succumb to abandon,but equally trustworthy, discreet, and independent.

What the writer fails to mention is their complete lack of literacy.  Now I don't know about you ladies and gents, but if I'm a strong Alpha man, as this writer describes, I would like some semblance of literacy.  So please, if the author happens to read this, try taking an English course, they have many at night in most major cities, and they're free at many community colleges across the country.

There are many things I'm not, and I have my share of 'issues'.  Please if you're making these 10-20 'fake' profiles each day, find something useful to do with your time.  You stand to gain nothing by continuing this practice and think of the many hours of useful service that might benefit your local community if this time were channeled in a useful manner.  If after searching your heart you don't see this as I do, I assure you there are many facilities in your area that would be pleased to have you as a guest.  All you have to do is visit your local county hospital and they will be more than glad to accommodate you in a room with special attire they will provide at no cost to you with free entertainment and decor that can only be described as easy on the eyes.  And, the best part, they will very likely provide you with hours of BDSM experiences at no cost to you what-so-ever.  Please, make a visit at your earliest convenience, and God bless.

I read so many posts here full of despair and frustration.  On a site that is designed to connect people with similar interests, there are so many that would defraud us.  To those of you who play here, misrepresenting themselves and harming others, please go to a role playing web site of which there are many.  Causing pain to others and enjoying that is certainly sadistic, but doing it while others are trying to connect to you in an emotional/intellectual capacity is unethical.  Please stop. 

To those of you who have been harmed, I challenge you to be strong, and to persevere in spite of those who would drive you off.  There are some things we can all do to protect ourselves and they are simple.  First off, evaluate your willingness to believe what you read.  If you want it too much you may be prone to believing the unlikely.  Second, make first meetings in public places with clearly defined expectations and limitations.  Third, verify identity.  When I meet someone online and we think we might want to take it further, I offer my identity credentials.  If you meet someone not willing to do that, you should wonder why not.  Most bad things happen in the dark.  We all want our privacy and certainly mainstream society might be critical to some of the concepts we discuss here, but if you keep a relationship secret from everyone you are inviting danger.  Always share your new friends identity with someone you can trust as a safeguard, a life preserver so-to-speak.  If your new friend resists that, wonder why.

Always be skeptical.  Protect yourself.  I'm certain some of you can suggest other ways to be safe both in your person and with your heart.  I am new here, but some of you may already have a forum post for this, perhaps that's a good place for this and a good place to direct newcomers.

I will search for that now, I wonder what I will find.

Random Thoughts: (yes, that part still works)

I like animals, they don't judge, don't lie, don't punish us, make no pretense about needing to be loved... they only love

I like walking in the quiet after a fresh blanket of snow covers the woods.

I enjoy silence broken by a running stream or a crow marking his territory.

People who don't connect cause and effect drive me to the woods.

Example: my mother died from smoking thus I detest smoking (does that seem odd?)

A partnership is a collaborative effort, there can be dominant tendencies just as there can be submissive tendencies, but both parties must be willing for a relationship to be successful.

A partnership without mutual respect is just a series of conflicts without honest purpose.

Life is not a fantasy, reality is not what we often see on the tube.  It is cold and cruel, deceptive and brutal, the human species being the most cruel of all.  Fantasy is where we escape to in order to create a world that we can thrive in.  When we find someone who can embrace that world with us, we have found the holy grail.  All too often we deceive ourselves about having found that someone.

All people have some good in them -- many just make it impossible to find.

Imagine a world without greed, where children only play, and all agendas are out in the open.

Nat had it right, to love and be loved in return is the greatest thing.