I'm not a rum trader, or any kind of trader (especially not the traitor kind) but I do like rum. I don't take myself too seriously and I don't have silly rules about how people need to contact me (just use common sense; if I need to instruct you about basic communications, we are not suited for one another). I'm smart and considered beautiful but I don't make a big deal about either. It's strange to me that supposedly intelligent, gorgeous, dominant women need to broadcast these qualities in such a haughty manner on their profiles. But, maybe it's a cover for insecurities or a play for business. Or maybe some men like braggarts... I am also focusing on meeting people without a sexual or romantic element (as indicated by the "friends only" selection on this profile), so with that in mind, I try to meet those who mention they have the same mindset and I am politely declining generic invitations to "meet for a drink" or "hey, let's get together (wink, wink)" or worse "wanna play?" because I don't think we'd have enough in common. I respect and get along with all orientations but I am only seeking submissive men and women friends. Also, I prefer to be the person who sets the pace of our interactions and eventually leads the relationship. I hope that you subbie men can resist the urge to "take charge" and "aggressively pursue" the way men have been socially conditioned to do. I'm sure the women will wait passively and patiently for me to indicate my interest with all forms of flattery. ;) Pen pals and online friends are great but let's keep that to the message boards and chat rooms. If I email you privately, it's because I want to meet you and I only want to meet people who live reasonably close to Manhattan. I don't want to sound too Princessy but I'd really prefer to meet people who live within 5 miles of say, midtown, but don't worry - I'm not a Manhattan snob! It's just easier to coordinate and actually spend time together (especially in the casual last-minute way I often do) if you aren't a commuter train ride away. And most of the things I want to do are here. People who live in the suburbs often have attitudes and preferences that don't usually mesh with mine...although I'm happy to be proven wrong if you're awesome but just happen to like backyards with lots of lawn. P.S. If you contact me but you are not in New York, your profile does not say you are submissive or your message does not specifically state you are looking for friendship, I will take the generous interpretation and assume you emailed me by mistake.
