|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| I'm an experienced submissive male. Had a few relationships along the way, and this site was suggested by a friend. I place a priority on service and obedience to that right person, and consider myself to be adventuresome and willing to try new things. My experiences are wide and varied. I'd like to think that my maturity and experience level makes me a desirable submissive partner or bottom.
Let's chat and get to know each other - see if there's compatibility. No pressure to jump into the play or anything else - I'm not looking for kinky sex, but if things naturally move in that direction, that's great. Now, I'll admit that I can be a little shy meeting someone new - perhaps too careful not to say the wrong thing - but as we get to know each other I open up significantly and greatly enjoy the opportunity to have a pleasant conversation.
There's a lot more about me that I'd be happy to share, and I'm sure I'll expand this profile as time permits. For now, it's a little bare-bones just to get the process started. Let's chat and learn more about each other that way. Much more exciting, don't you think?
I never put pictures of my face on this sort of site, but understand that sharing pictures is important to some people as part of the getting-to-know-you process. I'm more than happy to share a picture privately if you like.
It should be said that, right now, I'm not looking for a long-term, romantic, monogamous relationship for various reasons. Instead, perhaps a semi-regular service arrangement or even occasional exchange of service for play. What service, you may ask...I've got a good variety of skills - less a jack-of-all-trades and more of a Renaissance Man. I dare say there isn't anyone for whom I can't be of some use. Let me know what it is I can do to make you happy. If it's out of my wheelhouse, I'll be honest and let you know. I'm also interested in conversation - If you're too far away to have any kind of real-life interaction with me, that's ok, we can still chat on line. No strings attached, just friendship.
Obviously, as a submissive male, I have no problem with a female-led relationship, but believe that should come from a position of negotiation and mutual respect. I'm not up for total power exchange at this time. Also, I should say that I'm not interested in financial domination at this time. If that's your bag, then I wish you all the best, but I'm not the fella for you.
|
|
|
|
|
Wow. All these people wanting their partners to be D&D free. What do people have against that game? |
|
|
|
|
Just found a porno clip on line: behind to women who were enjoying each other, there, hanging on the wall, for goodness knows what reason, was a portrait of ... Grover Cleveland. Now that's some kinky-ass shit. |
|
|
|
|
If this site is anything to go by, the Philippines must surely have the highest per capita ratio of female dominants. Clearly the place to be for frustrated male subs...I'm picturing them stacked 3 deep. Has the Philippine travel and tourism board hit on this? |
|
|
|
|
What's it worth for me to have the privilege of contacting you? Probably exactly what it's worth for you to have the privilege of contacting me. |
|
|
|
|
So many dominant women complaining of fake submissives. So many submissives complaining of fake dominants. It's disheartening.
The most common story I see on the domme's profiles goes basically like this: sub contacts domme, domme responds, they chat, things seem to be going well, they decide to meet, idiot sub doesn't show up. Or something along those lines.
Are you scared to take that step? Well get over it. This is what you wanted dumbass - if you're lucky enough to get the attention don't squander it. You'll regret the things you never tried more than the things you failed at.
If you really are playing games...fuck you and the horse you rode in on. You're making the rest of us look bad.
For the record, I'm not looking for that long-term, monogamous, TPE sort of relationship, and I won't wast the time of someone who is. If I do contact someone because I think we might have common interests and goals, you can damn sure believe I'm going to follow through. Nobody can promise that a thing is going to work out, but I guarantee things won't fail because I didn't make every effort.
Here's a tip guys, maybe try not going straight to the "Dear Goddess may I lick your ass and be your slave forever" nonsense on the first note. You don't actually know this person, and since you don't actually know this person, you can't know that you really want to be their slave forever (or lick their ass). Since you can't know that, you are, by definition, telling an untruth. You're demonstrating your fake-ness right from the get-go. How about maybe, just maybe, you contact them like they're an actual living, breathing, human being and not just a collection of fetishes. (And ladies, if you actually expect that ass-licker to somehow surprise you and be a stand-up guy....well, I've got this bridge in a New York borough that I'd be willing to let go for cheap.)
I'm terribly amused by the profiles that assure me I'm basically worthless scum (due to my Y chromosome), probably not worth the Goddess spitting on, let alone actually communicating with. There's some real venom out there. I suppose that sort of approach might be attractive to some, but I can almost guarantee that the sort who is attracted to this, is not also the follow through on their promises type.
I assure you, dear reader, that I am anything but worthless. Hell, I'm a fuckin' unicorn - that rarest of creatures, a male subbie who means what he says and follows through.
Ideally, I just want to get to know you a little, and let things happen organically. I'd like to have a conversation. Maybe I'm not actually soliciting your attention as a prospective dominant...maybe I just want to say I enjoyed something you wrote or enjoyed a picture. If your profile indicates that you won't entertain such communications, I'll naturally abide by your wishes, but you might be missing out on something. Respect and courtesy - always. Bowing and scraping - not until a relationship is formed.
I don't expect anyone to take this as serious advice. It's really more about where my brain's at - where I'm coming from. Take it or leave it.
|
|
|
|
|
So, some thoughts on money and the lifestyle...
If you're a pro (and are clear about that), more power to you! I got my start in the life with a pro, and still think fondly of her. Pros provide a valuable service.
If you're a fin-dom, and are up front about it, that's cool. I don't "get" it, but I'm not here to piss in anyone's cornflakes, so you keep being you. (Although based on most of the profiles I've seen, I might suggest that one catches more flies with honey than vinegar. But what do I know?)
Then there's this other category...the one who claims to be a lifestyle dominant, but demands some sort of tribute. Sometimes they're up front about it (which is at least honest), but often they are not. (Yes, I'm writing this in response to the disappointment of being asked for money only after exchanging what seemed like several promising notes.) These very people often indicate that they're looking for a committed, long-term relationship.
More than anything else, relationships within the BDSM lifestyle are built on trust. And guess what...trusting means taking a risk - taking a chance at being hurt - taking a chance that things might not work out. I'm willing to give just about anyone the benefit of the doubt. Trust might not happen right away, but I'm willing to presume your good intentions until you demonstrate otherwise. I haven't yet become so jaded that I'd think otherwise.
I expect the same from you. If not outright trust, at least the presumption of my good intentions. It doesn't matter if you've been hurt before, because I'm not the one who hurt you. Been screwed over? Not by me you haven't. (Why am I thinking of a Billy Joel song right now?) I've been hurt and screwed over too...it won't change how I deal with you, because you aren't the one who did that.
Bottom line, if you want me to trust you, you need to try trusting me too. As scary as that is. And, unfortunately, asking me for money does nothing to build trust - it damages it.
That's just how I feel. I'm not expecting anyone to change their ways based on my say-so - but maybe consider the possibility that you could be missing out on the thing you're looking for. |
|
|
|
|
I think my ascerbic sense of humor is starting to surface, having been on this site for just a little while now...so much of it is just so funny. So thank you all for the entertainment.
I'd like to express my sympathies for all the lovely ladies out there who have been forced to require a tribute with first letters just because they've been so inundated by notes from wankers. I know how that feels, as I'm having the same problem. If any of you would like to commiserate, feel free to drop me a line.
In all seriousness, I'd like to thank the friendly folk of all stripes who have been open to chatting. I've enjoyed our talks.
Don't let the fact that I poke some fun every once in a while make you think I take my submission anything less than seriously. Even though I'm not looking to get into a long-term, committed relationship right now, that doesn't mean my desire to serve isn't real. I stand ready to prove that. |
|
|
|
|
Will proofread your profile for play. |
|
|
|
|
Well, that's a week on this site. It's been an education, that's for sure.
I've contacted a few people (successfully, in some cases), and been contacted by a few others. I've begun to wonder if some people have a sort of automatic message - one person sent me 2 identical introductory notes a couple days apart (complete with the same typos and bad grammar). I didn't bother to respond to the second one.
Now, I do actually make a point of responding to anyone who sends me a note. "Thank you for your kind message..." So forth and so on. Even when their first sentence calls me a cunt. I get a sort of perverse laugh at responding to that sort of crassness in such a way. Call me old-fashioned, but I've always thought calling me a cunt was more of a 3rd date kind of thing.
On the plus side, I've made one connection with someone I'm genuinely enjoying conversing with. Making one good friend would be worth the effort of joining. |
|
|
|
|
Just joined the site yesterday and still experimenting with features, including this journal option. I've browsed some other profiles, and am hoping that as I get the lay of the land I'll start actually reaching out to a few people. There certainly seem to be a number of interesting profiles. I'm adding bit by bit to my profile, and although it seems a bit sparse now, that should change in the future. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
