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| I am seeking.... someone very unique. I thought I knew exactly what I needed, what I was, what I was best at, who would be 'right'... but the more I look, the more I'm not sure.. I used to be totally opposed to the idea of 'switches'... I thought that everyone MUST be either one or the other; including myself. Now I realize that I was completely wrong, and that this incorrect thinking has made me overlook many who may have been potential mates, and look in all the wrong places! So now, I am opening my mind and heart to see what other way I could see things.
I will try to keep this brief. I am seeking: A man who is, and/or is seeking:
A monogamous (unless both of us agrees otherwise) relationship.
Someone who is NOT into anal sex, of ANY kind (that is a HARD limit for me)
Someone who has excellent manners.... very tradtional. Whether you are Dom or sub, I would expect gentlemanly manners 90% of the time. A 1950's style/Victorian relationship is what I seek.... with some modern twists! ;)
Someone very heroic in their heart.... virtue, strength, integrity, confidence, loyalty. I am those things, and would expect no less from my man. I am definitely someone who believes in the romantic aspect of BDSM, Knight in shining armour, princess, and the castle, etc....
Someone who is easy-going, doesn't fuss alot about little things.
Calm and quiet temperment... not easily upset or angry.
Good sense of humor, although serious is sometimes good too!
Sensual, a mix of sweet and salty.... and very passionate and affectionate.
Loyal, and looking for ONE woman to love, cherish and explore life together... Soul Mates, and these do exist!
Basically 'normal' by day, but very kinky underneath!
Clean shaven face... NOOOOO facial hair... ever!
In good physical shape! Sorry, no fat-ness allowed.
Age between 35 and 45!
White males ONLY! And I prefer blue/green/ or grey eyes....
Also I need to see a photo before chatting with you... please attach a pic if you would like to talk.
As for me, I design and create renaissance costumes, goth/fetish wear, exotic bridal gowns, I love history, science, animals, (especially herps and amphibians), art, music (including opera, classical, jazz, goth, industrial, house, ambient/lounge,etc), upscale, classy restaurants, some kinds of clubs (not into rock and roll bars generally), the great outdoors (hiking, etc), bed and breakfasts, unique restaurants, festivals, plays (love Shakespeare Tavern), Cafe Intermezzo, etc.
My personality... talkative, usually bright and friendly, but also because I am a passionate and Aries, I am very emotional. ....always feeling, feeling, feeling. I feel everything very intensely!! So I do best with a calm, steady man who can soothe my tangled emotions... ;) I like a man who can be fatherly in a way. I love 'daddy dom' type personalities! ;) I am certainly mothering, alot of the time. I am very maternal, which is why I love children and animals. But I can enjoy caring for a man as well. Man and woman were never meant to live without each other; it is a joy of the heart when two can find each other and carve out a secret world together, just their own.. which can be as kinky/tame/normal/odd and interesting as they want it to be... the key is simply chemistry, and lifestyle compatibility. And of course, animal attraction! :) That is my intent, to find my 'other', my male counterpart (ner), my forever mate. It would be impossible for me to describe myself with only words... I cannot tell you all about myself in a typed box, or even an hour or two! I would hope that you are more complex also. I am no longer sure whether it matters so much how we label ourselves, Dom, or sub, or Domme.... perhaps we are, or can even become, just enough of each, to both please, challenge, worship and adore each other every day. I cannot know if this is the right approach, but I would like to find out!
I am NOT a 'jump in' type... meaning, we need to speak BY PHONE (not text!) to get aquainted briefly, and then see if we would like to meet for coffee and see if we click. Next would seem to be a date, and unlike Vanilla dates, I cannot know what would be best; I suppose it would depend upon our personal chemistry together.... I once heard it said that a relationship actually becomes it's own separate entity; the combined spirit and personality of the couple. If that is true, then perhaps that 'chemistry' would dictate how/where/ and in what fashion we would become better aquainted.
Things I love: (but not limited to only these!)
A man who can dress well, at least sometimes... (ie, NOT jean and tee shirts, but dress slacks and button-down shirt)
Clean-shaven face at all times!
Handsome or at least 'cute', although this is mostly in the eye of the beholder!
A man who is a good listener (ie, talks less than me, in general) :)
Very intelligent, even 'nerdy' is cool... I love my intellectual opposite... eg, I am not good at math, but am very turned on by a man who IS... Very well mannered, considerate, socially confident, 'normal' demeanor. Although it would be nice to find a man who did not mind playing dress-up with me... everything from Vampyre to the Baroque era, medieval anything). Friday and Saturday are my play-days, for the most part. So if you are not available Fridays or Saturdays, we would not be a good match! I would possibly like to adopt some children one day. I am open minded, and would be ok with checking out some swinger-type clubs with a long-term partner. I enjoy BDSM clubs and have been IN THE LIFESTYLE for many years. For me the most exciting aspects of a lifestyle BDSM relationship are the mental/emotional dynamics. The physical becomes intertwined with that and more intense FROM that.
Well, so much for 'in a nutshell'.... ;) I did my best to outline what /who I am seeking, but there is alot more to me. :)
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New to this site! I hope I will meet some interesting new people, and I hope they will understand and be more tolerant of my eccentricities than the vanilla types I have been meeting on vanilla dating sites. I have been kinky for a long time :) It is funny, just looking at all the different boxes of interests and hobbies you can check off on this site tells you something... like how much more 'dynamic' BDSM lifestyle folks are (on the whole) than vanilla folks. Not that they are 'bad', but if you look at vanilla dating sites, there are just the normal boxes: religion, politial standing, last book you read, favorite place to vacation, kinds of pets, income level! On this site, you can say your favorite way to be spanked, whether you enjoy being choked, and how often you visit the renaissance festival. ;0 That is so fabulous... I felt right at home, warm fuzzy feeling (can you really get that from a BDSM site? LOL) I feel better on this site than the vanilla ones already! My only problem on previous few attempts a few years ago on BDSM sites is that sometimes the users are tooooooo hardcore for me... I pretty much know what I can handle and where I'm at on the meter... Not saying I can't handle my limits being stretched, but I have to be turned on and comfortable to want to proceed... it won't work otherwise, obviously. So I hope those issues won't come up too much. |
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