As my handle implies, I seek control of your mind and body for my desires because when you control the mind then you have the ability to control the sub or slave thus the ownership becomes complete after collaring. Yes I prefer a slave but any subs with slave tendencies will also be considered especially those who would consider becoming a slave in time. I tolerate no games or lies. If you are not able to prove you are real to me via web cam and phone then do not bother me at all as I can and will do both as I have 10 years of experiences in this way of life and on this site full of those who make necessary to search for a needle in this haystack.

You should be willing to relocate within a reasonable amount of time after we establish a rapport needed. I might relocate but only if I can find something suitable to pay my current obligations.

I am one that enjoys hypnosis, absolute control, breast and/or clit torture, flogging, wax play, vibrators, caning, spanking, suspension and so much more. I love bondage as it is part of the control after gaining control of the mind. Bondage is more than physical - it is also mental. Physical restraints can be broken or cut where the mental bonds can be kept intact and used as a means of control. As far as my perverted mind goes, I love the feminine figure stripped of any clothing both mentally and physically along with them desiring to please openly no matter the situation. This means you should dress to pleas and attract eyes. A word or a glance or an expression means a lot.

My favorite means of control is post hypnotic suggestion and mind control. I am also somewhat sadistic as i love to torture and make a sub/slave beg. I do not cross hard limits and do believe in after care plus pushing soft limits - remember to discuss all limits up front so no problems arise.

To me there is no separation of the vanilla and BDSM. Yes kids can be a apart of a lifestyle home and not in the lifestyle but the dominant and submissive part of the relationship is always there along with the respect each shows for the other.

I am educated plus run a business and you must be willing to follow my rules or experience the pain I shall inflict to encourage your absolute obedience. My education consist of an honors degree in Psychology plus pursuing a Master's in Business Communications online.

I expect you as a slave or sub with slave tendencies to be in fairly good shape, have a good figure or be willing to be molded into the figure I desire without question, drug and disease free, highly sexual and willing to explore anything but permanent harm or death and scat. Activities of mutual interest in both the vanilla world and BDSM realm must always be open to discussion and expansion while staying legal. To me my tone of voice should not have to change and a submissive should always stay submissive in every way no matter the situation. I feel there are so many interpretations in the lifestyle that I would be amiss not to state that just because I am perverted does not mean I am not always dominant. To me discipline is needed at times and must be administered to keep control. I am quite dominant but prefers not to discipline but reward. I adapt to the needs of a sub or slave which is totally different from all others on this site. I do not get into more than is in my profile immediately until I learn the person.

Since I run a small business as well, you would be expected to be willing to work there as well as a secretary or accountant or bookkeeper or more if you are qualified but at minimum a worker for the company doing my desires even at work. The only caveat to this is if you have a specialized degree which would allow you to make a substantial income in another field like nursing, doctor, gourmet chef, lawyer, etc.

Among my 10 years experience, I have owned a slave twice and a sub once but I was not successful in finding that right one. I am into Ultimate Submission and absolute control as you know from above. I have my own chest of toys with floggers, vibrators, clamps, books, paddles, and so much more. You should want to explore anything and have a very open mind with few limits.

For those who think a list of accomplishments validates someone - here is another - 2 marriages (almost 10 years and almost 3 years), 2 divorces, and single parent for 11 years while working and going to school.

To earn a place in my home from me, you have to be able to follow my rules plainly listed here in this profile and pass the test I will give you in person regarding your abilities as a sub or slave. To earn a real collar you must prove yourself worthy of it by serving without question as a collar has significance in my world and means much the same as a wedding ring does in the vanilla world we live in. Do not try or test me nor try to get around these rules or else you will be dismissed without regard.

I am more than willing to accept and allow a couple to stay married but the husband must be willing to give up on the idea he will ever pleasure his wife again as that would become my job. Any male sub or slave would become a cuck and not allowed sexual pleasure even oral pleasuring unless loaned out to another Master or Mistress for their usage.

For any transsexual female that would desire to be a part of this home, you must be willing to become and live as a woman forever plus should have the funds to take care of this need as it is not my responsibility to earn the money for your operations.

My opinion on a switch is this - you need to choose one side or the other. I do not see a person changing as needed from Dominant to submissive. I have no interest in switches.

If you have bills when you come into this relationship they are your bills not mine so do not expect me to pay them just I as I do not expect you to pay my debts for school or the home or doctors or credit cards or insurance or repair bills or any other possible bill. Also do not ask me to pay a bill where you currently are or to buy you off of another person or to pay for a repair bill on your vehicle.

I send no money blindly to anyone -- collarme, western union and money gram all suggest that you do not send money to those who you have not met in person and actually know