I think I’m starting to get the hang of this a bit more. I wonder if submission is really for me though. Seems I’m too independent to me. I wonder about those that are willing to give up their all and surrender themselves to another person completely. It seems completely foreign to me. But I have always had a problem with thinking that I know best and wanting to be in charge and make the decisions. Perhaps that is part of the beauty of surrendering yourself to another. I can’t help but feel it’s exciting and arousing but am fearful of losing myself along the way.
I am starting to think that maybe I am pretty vanilla with just a bit of kink thrown in. It seems the ideal world to me to have an equal compatable relationship with someone and then in the bedroom only be as submissive as you dare.
The other problem I have is with the concept of being hurt and humiliated. That really doesn’t turn me on at all. Well, to be perfectly honest, I do like just a little pain. But it has always been self administered and very, very mild, and of course stopping the moment I want it to. I find being humiliated really personally abhorent.
I wish that I could find someone perfectly safe to explore all of this with. Someone nonjudgemental and completely sane and safe, but willing to test my boundaries and always be willing to not go farther than I am comfortable with. I wish that I could see what it is like without committing to this path. I think that I would probably be really lacking as a submissive but I still wish I could find out for sure.
So far the things that really seem to arouse me seem very tame after what I’ve looked at. I like breast play, clothespins, masks, ass play, orgasm control sounds interesting but I don’t know if I could do it and I am interested in a bit of light bondage and spanking. Bondage scares me though-I think it goes back to the loss of control, or giving yourself completely into someone else’s care.
Well if nothing else, this has surely been an education for me. I never knew. But now that I do know, can I go back to pretending that I am still in the dark? Do I owe it to myself to at least find out how I really feel? Not sure but leaning this way. I suppose ignorance was bliss but it sure was mind numbingly dull.