"Sex is a VERY SMALL portion of BDSM for those with serious interests in the lifestyle"
Where the hell did you get that? In all the books, articles, and even people I have ever learned from, I have never heard such a thing. I usually consider every point of view in an argument unless it's complete nonsense and this one of those cases and I have effective reasons to support my argument. Even though sex is not EVERYTHING in a BDSM relationship, it is a MAJOR, VERY important AND necessary part of the relationship. I am close to being 30 years old, you're a 21 year old girl. I have had MUCH MUCH MUCH more time not only to research but live the lifestyle. I have had fantasies within the lifestyle since I was 10 and started researching it, believe it or not, at age 14.
Definition of BDSM by most websites and most people
B (Bondage)... very sexual if you ask me
D (Domination, Discipline, Dominant [person])
S (Sadism submission, and slave [or slavery])
M Masochism
According to Wikipedia: BDSM is a continuum[vague
] of erotic practice and expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play
. The compound acronym
, BDSM, is derived from the terms bondage
and discipline
(B&D or B/D), dominance and submission
(D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism
(S&M or S/M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships
, and distinct subcultures
.
Those with "serious interest in the lifestyle" will have a serious interest in the erotic part of it simply because BDSM IS an erotic lifestyle, those that deem otherwise will be showing lack of experiential and educational maturity not only within the lifestyle but in a personal level. I am not having "Mental malfunctions" with you (not that it makes sense in anyway), I am having a strong disagreement and I believe that your current beliefs are less mature than mine not only because you are 21 and you actually belong to a "younger generation" than mine but because of your irrational (for lack of a better word) statements and the way you express those irrational arguments.
Stating that BDSM has VERY LITTLE to do with sex is equivalent to stating that physical torture has little to do with pain. While I am a very understanding person, I am also rational. I consider that you have the right to believe in and pray to the Alabama Leprechaun, but I have as much right to make fun of you for it. You also have the right to block me and that is fine with me, but we both know that it will do nothing more than to protect your ego and will keep you from learning a little something... talk about maturity. Since I know you will be blocking me, I would like to recommend the book "Asking the Right Questions 9th edition" by M. Neil Browne and Stuart M. Keeley.
Now if you don't mind I would like to enforce my right to make fun of you and ask you once again... will you please take care of my grandpa? He will belt you if you disobey... while sitting down though, he has arthritis.
