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| I'm a variety of things, ...articulate,?confident, successful at what I do, sexually aggressive (and much more)...
I'm not looking for only one thing, but for a variety of things, ...in fact, quite a few things...?
Still, to be clear, there is one thing I seek for sure, ...CONNECTION, ...also called intimacy, intensity, fire and fury, and many other things, ...I'm sure?those that know, know what I mean...
I'm like an artist, say a dancer or painter, a life-dancer/painter, and I am seeking my muse, my canvas, my toy, my sculpture, ...to shape into my vision, ...literally and figuratively...
I'll take care of you, in a magical kind of way...
Looking for that girl that responds to that...
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Don't think, ...ASK me...
I promise it won't hurt, or only in a good way... ;-)?
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English, ...in contrast to Greek, Russian, Roman, French, Italian, Spanish, Asian, or Hindu,
http://vimeo.com/13707104
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I have always thought the actions of men the best interpreters of their thoughts. ~John Locke
Well done is better than well said. ~Benjamin Franklin
Between saying and doing many a pair of shoes is worn out. ~Italian Proverb
After all is said and done, a lot more will have been said than done. ~Author Unknown
The shortest answer is doing. ~Lord Herbert
Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement. ~Alfred Adler
We should be taught not to wait for inspiration to start a thing. Action always generates inspiration. Inspiration seldom generates action. ~Frank Tibolt
A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain. ~Arabian Proverb
An idea not coupled with action will never get any bigger than the brain cell it occupied. ~Arnold Glasow
Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action. ~Brendan Francis
Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned. ~Peter Marshall
Never mistake motion for action. ~Ernest Hemingway
Action is eloquence. ~William Shakespeare
There are so many things that we wish we had done yesterday, so few that we feel like doing today. ~Mignon McLaughlin
A barking dog is often more useful than a sleeping lion. ~Washington Irving, adapted from a verse in the Bible
Action is the last resource of those who know not how to dream. ~Oscar Wilde
Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. ~Walter Anderson, The Confidence Course, 1997
Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold - but so does a hard-boiled egg. ~Author Unknown
If ifs were gifts, every day would be Christmas. ~Charles Barkley
Example is the school of mankind, and they will learn at no other. ~Edmund Burke
Talk doesn't cook rice. ~Chinese Proverb
Be content to act, and leave the talking to others. ~Baltasar Gracian
All know the way; few actually walk it. ~Bodhidharma
Contemplation often makes life miserable. We should act more, think less, and stop watching ourselves live. ~Nicolas de Chamfort
The first step binds one to the second. ~French Proverb
I do not believe in a fate that falls on men however they act; but I do believe in a fate that falls on man unless they act. ~G.K. Chesterton
If your work speaks for itself, don't interrupt. ~Henry J. Kaiser
There is no moment like the present. The man who will not execute his resolutions when they are fresh upon him can have no hope from them afterwards: they will be dissipated, lost, and perish in the hurry and scurry of the world, or sunk in the slough of indolence. ~Maria Edgeworth
Deliberation is a function of the many; action is the function of one. ~Charles de Gaulle, War Memoirs, 1960
Action is the antidote to despair. ~Joan Baez
Ironically, making a statement with words is the least effective method. ~Grey Livingston
He liked to go from A to B without inventing letters between. ~John McPhee
Action worships the deed. ~Nathaniel LeTonnerre, translated
The great composer does not set to work because he is inspired, but becomes inspired because he is working. Beethoven, Wagner, Bach and Mozart settled down day after day to the job in hand with as much regularity as an accountant settles down each day to his figures. They didn't waste time waiting for inspiration. ~Ernest Newman
We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals; others, by their acts. ~Harold Nicolson
A nod,
a bow,
and a tip of the lid
to the person
who coulda
and shoulda
and did.
~Robert Brault, "A Poem Missing the Word Woulda," www.robertbrault.com
The vision must be followed by the venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps - we must step up the stairs. ~Vance Havner
He who has made a thousand things and he who has made none, both feel the same desire: to make something. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin
Don't find fault. Find a remedy. ~Henry Ford
What ought to have been done, and what shall be done, often stifle doing between them. ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827
Success will never be a big step in the future, success is a small step taken just now. ~Jonatan Mårtensson
Nature takes away any faculty that is not used. ~William R. Inge
He that waits upon fortune is never sure of a dinner. ~Benjamin Franklin
If I set for myself a task, be it so trifling, I shall see it through. How else shall I have confidence in myself to do important things? ~George Clason
In skating over thin ice, our safety is in our speed. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
One's action ought to come out of an achieved stillness: not to be a mere rushing on. ~D.H. Lawrence
Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. ~James Baldwin
Action will remove the doubts that theory cannot solve. ~Tehyi Hsieh
Men expect too much, do too little. ~Allen Tate
When deeds speak, words are nothing. ~African Proverb
As I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do. ~Andrew Carnegie
All problems become smaller if you don't dodge them but confront them. ~William F. Halsey
The best way out of a problem is through it. ~Author Unknown
I believe half the unhappiness in life comes from people being afraid to go straight at things. ~William J. Lock
People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do. ~Lewis Cass
We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once. ~Calvin Coolidge
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ANNOUNCING HUMP!5
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/hump5/page
The Stranger is proud to announce HUMP! 5, the Pacific Northwest’s biggest, best, and only amateur (and locally produced) porn festival. HUMP! 5 goes down October 9–10, 2009, at On the Boards. The deadline for HUMP! 5 submissions is September 21. Tickets for HUMP! 5 go on sale September 15.
NEW TO HUMP!? HUMP! is safe, fun, and anonymous.
People make films and give them to us; we make only two screening
copies and return the originals. Our only copies are destroyed live
onstage after the final screening. We’ve hosted DOZENS and DOZENS of
HUMP! screenings over the last four years, with ZERO leaks! HUMP! lets
you be a porn star for a weekend—not for life! And HUMP! films do not
have to be hardcore. Animation, instructional videos, mechanical dogs,
and sexy, nonexplicit shorts have all been featured in HUMP!
STUFF THE HUMP! JURY WOULD LIKE TO SEE: Fem-domme
action, CFNM, pegging. Including these themes won’t get your film into
HUMP! automatically, but it will give you a serious leg up. There have
been lots of films featuring tied up and/or submissive women over the
last couple of years—not that there’s anything wrong with that—but
turnabout is fair play, and the HUMP! jury is interested in seeing some
women on top this year.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_bSfZHJzLU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7-zGg2wvf-A
Somebody
I want somebody to share
Share the rest of my life
Share my innermost thoughts
Know my intimate details
Someone who'll stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
She'll get my support
She will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general
Though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
She'll hear me out
And won't easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact she'll often disagree
But at the end of it all
She will understand me
I want somebody who cares
For me passionately
With every thought and
With every breath
Someone who'll help me see things
In a different light
All the things I detest
I will almost like
I don't want to be tied
To anyone's strings
I'm carefully trying to steer clear of
Those things
But when I'm asleep
I want somebody
Who will put their arms around me
And kiss me tenderly
Though things like this
Make me sick
In a case like this
I'll get away with it
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Everybody's Gotta Learn Sometimes
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4HZ5f5pFD5w)
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"I beg your pardon: I'm not quite clear about what you just spoke -
Was that a parable, or a very subtle joke?"
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There must be close to nothing more annoying than those 'brilliant' profiles with absolutely no writing.
They are even worse than those which may have some writing yet say nothing.
To those that know who you are, know this, ....no guts no glory!
Why continue to waste your limited space and time on this planet...?
Alan Cohen: It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
Bernadette Devlin: Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.
Charles DuBois: The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.
Dorothy Thompson: Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
Eleanor Roosevelt: You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Marian Wright Edelman: Whoever said anybody has a right to give up?
Ralph Waldo Emerson (probably erroneously): Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.
Soren Kierkegaard: To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
Theodore H. White: To go against the dominant thinking of your friends, of most of the people you see every day, is perhaps the most difficult act of heroism you can perform.
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To the recent 'vanishing' act...
You are clearly in a league of your own, which is commendable.
You are obviously smart enough to a) notice the obvious and b) figure out the plain to see. (And be assured very few do.) But apparently you are not mature enough to handle it.
I have no problem with that, though you clearly have issues. Looks as if only the universe may know or get to know what sad life you lead.
In regards to your question, ...you get to 'know' by communicating -you know, having a conversation- not by opinionating. (Though why you ask when an answer is not honestly sought, clearly leads to image-problems as mentioned.)
Your approach is easy, cheap, low, ...not to forget impaired (I am being kind here), and without merrit for all involved.
Be my guest to grow up by having an adult interaction, or limit yourself to bothering your own kind in elementary school.
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Love and Hate / State of Mind
(An ode ...in progress...)
you hate that you love me
you love that I hate you
you hate that you need me
you love that I need you
you hate that I want you
you love that you have me
you hate that you tempt me
you love that I resist you
you hate that you are weak
you love that I make you strong
you hate that you fail
you love that I teach to succeed
you hate that I know you are smart
you love that you know I am smarter
you hate that I can control you
you love that you are controlled
you hate that I care
you love that you are care taken
you hate when I am distracted
you love when you have my attention
you hate when you are ignored
you love when I am distracted by you
you hate that I adore your looks
you love that your innermost is cherished
you hate that I make you feel
you love that you are feeling
you hate that I give you pain
you love that you suffer
you hate what I do to you
you love that you have to
you hate when I penetrate you
you love when you have me inside
you hate the way I taste
you love the way you feel
you hate your holes
you love when I fuck them
you hate to be presented
you love to be presentable
you hate the smell of nasty
you love the smell of ours
you hate when I fuck the other
you love when you can fuck with her
you hate when your man goes soft
you love when your man comes hard
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you love me
you hate your state of mind
you hate me
you love your state of mind
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Follow Your Bliss
To find your bliss, you need to know what you are looking for. However, definitions of "bliss" rarely capture how you feel when you have found it or are in it. Here are a few of the ways I have personally experienced what it is like when you find and follow your bliss ...
* your feel at one with the world, as if everything is in its rightful place and all interconnected
* you feel totally alive, as if your body is resonating at a slightly higher frequency
* you eyes light up and you feel like you could spend hours talking about the subjects you love
* you see things more clearly, as if a mist has cleared or a fog has lifted and now you can see more clearly or deeply understand
* you feel totally at home within your skin and so comfortable within yourself that you the ideas of who you are fade
* time ceases to exist when you are following your bliss - whether that is researching at home or being on stage
* you feel surrounded by kindred spirits when you find other people who are passionate about the same things
* you have deep, insightful discussions with people you have known only a few minutes
* you experience leaps of insight and the profound understanding of concepts and ideas that go beyond words
* you find yourself creating at an extraordinary level far beyond your normal abilities
* worlds of ideas and knowledge that you never knew existed open up to you
* the world becomes a place where synchronicities start to make sense and form a subtle path pointing you to the things you need to discover
* you find yourself (many times unknowingly) amassing a collection of resources built around your bliss
* you feel the touch of unseen hands guiding you
* you feel like a light deep inside of you has been turned on
* days you follow your bliss start to feel a bit like Christmas morning, making you want to jump out of bed and see what the day holds
* you surprise yourself by the things you say and do because they make you seem much smarter and gifted than you usually think you are
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FROM THE CORE
Effective dominance comes from the core of the person. No amount of fetish wear or powerful looking garments can make a Dom out of a man who hasn't worked on his power and grace within. Having a collection of great toys won't make you a great Dom either. It just means that you know where to shop… It doesn't mean that you know how to use the tools to create the desired effect that pleases you the most. The same goes for skills. Knowing a lot of techniques alone does not make you a great Dom. It'll make you a decent top, but that's different than being a dominant. You might be a good service top, a lovely submissive sadist, and a fine sadist, but these are, again, different than being a Dom.
Conversely, you can be dressed in nothing more than ordinary, daily clothing, using no equipment and displaying no particular flashy techniques, and still demonstrate deep and powerful dominance.
Let's talk about some of the basic core strengths of the good dominant…
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Know the domain of your influence
A good Dom always understands when dominant behavior is appropriate.
He/she knows when to go into Dom headspace and when to turn it off. He knows that he is not in a D/s relationship with the entire world. He knows that the tone and attitude of dominance wielded upon unconsenting people around him will only earn him their contempt and disrespect. He knows that such behavior is displayed only by the misguided, insecure and bullying. He doesn't condescend to business people he has dealings with. He treats them with kindness. He doesn't assume strangers will bow to his powers. He treats them with the respect that all humans deserve. He doesn't let the dominant energy bleed into the egalitarian relationship once a hot scene has ended.
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Confidence is the root of power
A good Dom understands that the ultimate dominant aphrodisiac for the sub is genuine self-confidence. Sometimes it may come off as cocky-ness, but the difference between the cocky and the self- confident is the source of validation. The cocky needs to see his greatness reflected in the eyes of others, while the confidant simply knows he's great. The good Dom has taken inventory of and is comfortable with his own talents, skill assets and strengths. He is confident enough to see his own flaws clearly.
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If a dominant cracks a whip in the woods and there are no submissives is he still a Dom?
Absolutely! A good Dom is not defined by the other, in this case the submissive, but rather he is defined by a sense of self and comfort in his own identity as an erotically dominant man. He knows that it is false confidence to need to define oneself by the others around him. Every dominant from time to time will find himself alone, whether by circumstance or by choice. He knows that his relationship status does not change who he is fundamentally.
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Seduce... not Force
The good dominant knows that the ultimate power is that of persuasion. To get them to want to do for you what you command of them. Any fool with a fearsome enough weapon can force another against his will to do things. That's the power of the brutish, fearful and those lacking in self-confidence. It's down right annoying! The art is in bringing out a desire previously unaroused in the submissive by the Dom's persuasive powers, confidence and graceful seduction.
As my favorite leather teacher, Joseph Bean, loves to say… The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.
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Humility begets Respect
The good Dom understands that he must be humble in the presence of the magic that he invokes… That magic of wondrous connection created in the arena of genuine D/s. There is a moment, during the most amazing scenes, where the rest of the world melts away, leaving a universe of two… the Dom and the sub. In a universe of two, he is god, for that brief moment and in that time warped space. To accept that, one must be humble. He must know that he is but a mortal man at all other times.
Such humility has an amazing effect of calming an individual, bringing an air of grace and elegance that is so alluring. This sincere humility and consequent grace earns a quiet respect from others around him and most certainly from his submissive. Without respect, there is no leadership. Without leadership, there is no dominance, only brute domineering.
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How to get their submission? Give respect and gratitude to your sub
The good Dom knows the value of respect and thanks given to submission and service well executed. Even the cool and aloof have their ways of showing respect and thanks. The good Dom respects the humanity of the submissive even after the most intense objectification scene. He is thankful for their act of submission given, even when it may appear externally as if it were wrenched from them. He knows that it is the submissive who chooses surrender. He knows how difficult true surrender is and is in awe of that. He knows that it takes the truly strong and self-aware to fully submit and he shows gratitude for that.
The good Dom knows that the limits and emotional vulnerabilities of another must be respected. That includes respecting the limits of a non-participating party to not have to deal with wantonly splattered dominant attitude. It includes respecting the limits placed by the submissive for such respect of them leads to them feeling safe with him. Such sense of safety often leads to deeper surrender previously not ventured into.
As a dear friend of mine, David V said: "Always be respectful in spirit, even if the scene is not."
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Be honest in these things… Your desires, your limits, your flaws and errors
The good Dom knows clearly what he enjoys in kink play. If he doesn't he'll simply be pushed this way and that by the desires and projected expectations of others of him… like a leaf pushed around in the currents of a fast river… always haunted by a vague sense of helplessness and lack of control. What's a dominant if he doesn't have control over his own pleasure?
The good Dom knows his limits and displeasures just as well as his thrills. Setting boundaries gracefully such that the submissives want to respect them is the art of the polished Dom.
He also knows where his flaws and weaknesses are and simply accept them. He is strong enough to know that covering up with bravado and pretending such flaws don't exist is the game of the sad shell game of the insecure Dom. He is, after all, comfortable in his humanity. He also knows where his technical limitations are and know how to work around them to avoid undue risk. He knows when to seek more learning of such skills and does so without making each step of dominance education a battle of egos.
When he makes an error, which he knows must happen from time to time, he knows the error made and acknowledges it. Then he does what needs to be done to correct the situation, check with the sub and moves on. He neither over reacts nor does he ignore the errors.
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Decisiveness is enthralling
The good Dom knows to approach dominance with decisiveness. Each action is committed with mindfulness, whether arrived to by conscious thought and decision making or by instinct. The person who openly waffles in the act appears to have no control. He appears to have no control over even his own thought. It is fine to wonder and consider choices in one's mind. It is even fine to seek counsel and advice. Do that with decisiveness as well.
The good Dom knows that with such decisiveness also comes the potential for him making the less than optimal choices. This is the awareness of consequences. He takes responsibility for his actions and, once again with decisiveness, grace and compassion, will handle the consequences.
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"Discipline gives total freedom;
it allows you to go beyond your limitations, to break through boundaries and reach the highest goal.
The path to discipline will not only save your life as well as your
soul, it will also give you meaning, how?
By introducing you to deeper
joys and deeper longings, by creating a silence in which the whisper of
the heart can be heard.
Truly, discipline is the road to liberation."
Gurumayi Chidvilasananda
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Sometimes what seems like surrender, isn't surrender at all.
It's what's going on in our hearts.
About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater
- The Horse Whisperer -
~Tom Booker~
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Testimony of a Dom
Sometimes it is important, and often even necessary, for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations and needs of another. Because this is so, I offer you this testimony in trust and sincerity.
I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part, or because I feel I am more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because I am strong physically or my body is big. I am not, nor would I want to be, dominant with all women. But for you I am willing to be - because you asked me to.
I will be your Dom (or teacher/trainer) only after earning your trust and only THEN will I embrace your submissiveness. I am in the process of looking into your heart and mind and am beginning to clearly see your desires and passions. You are trying to throw away your fears and inhibitions. You want to tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You want to give me total access to your soul. I will accept those responsibilities and honors with pride and humility.
You want to be a submissive woman. You ARE just that. You are not submissive because of any weakness or inferiority on your part. You are a treasure to be cherished. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me to lead you on the path you desire gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage me and give purpose to my efforts.
We each hold halves of a whole. We will complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you, nor should you feel it is it degrading to you, because your are totally secure in your femininity. We each recognize and accept our own worth, and our need for someone to trust and help fulfill our desires.
You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You will not submit to me as an acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect me to stand strong; you desire, and will flourish in, the strength and control I can offer. In return you will present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart to me. You will submit because I have earned your trust; because I will have opened my heart and soul to you; because I listen to your words with my ears and heart, and have/will learn to anticipate your needs and emotions. Because I will prove myself worthy in your eyes, you will give me the only true treasure of life: you will give me dominance over you.
What you will give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You will give me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift to me and a sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I will dominate you only because you allow it, and only to the extent you allow. When I see you kneel before me, in my mind and heart you will be raised above all other women, and all the treasures of the earth. What you will give freely cannot in reality be bought.
Author Unknown...
I'd like to give credit to DesireeAddams for posting this pointed admition on her writing site. (http://www.writing.com/main/view_item/user_id/desvamp) Thanks D!
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I have not noticed too many playlists but I put one up. A sure way of delightfully wasting a few hours of my time, so that others may have a few of joy...
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I have no fucking clue how this journal editor is supposed to work, all I know it gives me none of the features others seem to have.
WTF! Any ideas what I may be missing?
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Song of the Bell
By Friedrich von Schiller
Vivos voco
Mortuos plango
Fulgura frango
[Latin inscription that customarily adorned many church bells.] Translation:
I call the living
Mourn the dead
Break lightning
Firmly bricked in the earth
Stands the mold, fired from clay.
Today the bell shall be.
Quickly workers, be at hand.
From the forehead hot
The sweat must run,
If the creation shall praise the master,
But the blessing comes from on-high.
For the work, the we prepare in earnest,
An earnest word is only right;
When accompanied by good banter,
Then work flows lively forth.
So with diligence let us observe,
What from weak strength does bud,
The useless man be scorned,
Who never views what he brings forth.
Exactly that is what adorns a mensch*,
And for that he got his reason,
That in his innermost heart he feels,
What he creates with his hand.
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[*mensch: (Yiddish, mentsh human being, fr. MHG mensch, fr. OHG menisco; akin to OE man human being, man) (1953) : a person of integrity and honor. ]
I guess as my first entry I prefer or just could not help myself to put up something that would be of value on more than one level. Though it is unlikely that this may be of value to many, but quite frankly such is life. Besides, this here is about me and those few that are willing and able to share. Everybody else, ... just clear the way and please let us be.
I had to reach all the way back to my teenage years in Europe to find something worthy enough. It is a bit heavy and deep, but no worries there'll be more that is neither in the future.
The 'Song of the Bell' (Die Glocke) is one of the most famous poems of Europe, originally from Germany. It is also one of the longest, and given here are only the first two verses.
There is MUCH to say about this poem and why I chose it as my first entry, though I won't get into it unless asked (as if anyone cares or would note anyway, from my experience here so far, ...lol, ...which is quite OK). The point to make is that the poem is a philosophy, way of life, also seen as an agreement of values or as the Germans would say a Weltanschauung. Mybe now some will get the point in this particular community. To me, though, it goes past the apparent worldly and goes far and beyond into what life is all about. HR
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