Hello: Gray is the background because it is neither black nor white. The lifestyle is that way as well: you cannot predict another's actions or inclinations without learning some clues. Here are mine...

SWM, 52, no children or baggage, well-employed, homeowner and can entertain freely undisturbed, discreet, sensible, unshockable, preferences toward very submissive or masochistic women who need an understanding man to help, not hurt them. Serious pain, etc. is fine as long as it is agreed upon and developed through trust. Women who are very verbal in private attract me. Particularly enjoy multi-orgasmic women who crave extended/repeated oral 'teasing/torture'. I am attractive an well-groomed and educated and very broadminded. Now, it's your turn.