I will state here that my collar means nothing to me. The wedding ring I wore for 22 years until my husband died meant nothing to me. The VOWS I took when I accepted the collar from Ken, when my husband put the wedding ring on my finger...those are sacred to me.

Not once in my marriage did I ever consider breaking my vows, nor would I consider breaking the commitment I made to Ken. The collar, the ring themselves - they mean nothing. They are just things. If they were lost, they could be replaced. They merely symbolize the vows I keep in my heart.

If I take my collar off, am I not still committed? If I take my wedding ring off, am I not still married? I still believe the collar or the wedding ring itself means nothing. What is in your heart, your mind, your soul are what count, what have meaning. What they symbolize means something.

How many married people break their vows while wearing their wedding rings? Did the ring stop them? No. How many submissives break their commitment while wearing their Master's collar? Did the collar stop them? No. What meaning have they then?

I wear my collar around my heart. It shines brightly inside of me and is easy to see for those who care to look. No one can question my loyalty to him, my dedication to him, my love for him. My actions speak louder than any leather collar.

This then, is my opinion. You, of course, are entitled to your own opinion on the subject. And that's just fine!

~faith