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I just spent hours creating a very detailed profile, but when it was approved 48 hours later, collarspace had turned me from male slave into male dominant and cut off more than half of my profile. Is that common? Or are they just trying to test my commitment to slavery and slave labor, by making me write my profile over and over?
Okay, here are just a few key points from my original profile (as I remember it). I will try to add more details in journal entries over the next few weeks. And feel free to ask me if anything is unclear. I like to talk about different points of view. I am actually here more to exchange ideas than to become someones slave at the moment.
While I chose New York as location for this profile, I dont actually spend much time there these days. I travel a lot (far too much) and have lived in America, Europe, and Asia during the last few years. Its really difficult to specify a home under these circumstances.
I have about 15 years of experience as a slave and have served two owners during that time. But I realize that it is not at all clear what someone means when they describe themselves as a slave here. Some people say they are a slave just because they love bondage. Often people seem to think that a slave is someone particularly submissive. For me, being a slave is something quite different.
I am not very submissive generally. I actually often like to take charge of situations. I am very intelligent and educated, tend to think things through more than most other people, and am perfectly fine making my own plans. So when I describe myself as a slave, it is not because I am extremely submissive and all that matters to me is my owners happiness, but because I am fascinated with the idea of becoming someone elses property.
I dont fully get the whole idea of consensual slavery. There has to be some consensus, of course, that owner and slave agree at the beginning to own and be owned respectively. But after the slave has become a slave, it should really not matter anymore whether he wants to serve every day or merely serves because he has no longer any other choice as a slave. If a slave can walk away from the relationship at any given time, how is he the property of his owner?
What I am looking for is a little closer to historic slavery where the slave is really at the mercy of his owner. The slave obeys because any disobedience would get punished severely. So the act of disobeying would always leave the slave worse off than obeying. Some call the process in which a slave learns this truth conditioning or breaking the slave. It is similar to training an animal.
I am not saying that there should not be feelings. In an ideal relationship, the slave should not just respect and fear his owner, but love his owner. Its wonderful if the slave gets to the point where he would do anything for his owner even without any threat of punishment. But that is unlikely to happen quickly. And my point is that it is something that is desirable, but not necessary in this kind of relationship. A slave could hate his owner and still continue to be a slave. Thats quite extreme, but that is the nature of slavery.
What I have in mind is sometimes described as consensual non-consent. Basically, owner and slave agree to the parameters of their relationship at the beginning and the slave is bound by this afterwards even if he regrets his original decision. That might sound a little scary, but its not all that unusual. If you serve in the military, you are not allowed to change your mind at any time and just walk away from it. If you have a child, you cant just change your mind and abandon it. And if you borrow money from a bank, you cant just stop making payments on your loan without some negative repercussions. There are many other situations where we are bound by our decisions. My idea of slavery is such a situation in which someone makes an extreme commitment and will find it very hard to walk away from it afterwards.
Why would anyone want to become a slave if there is a chance that you might regret it? An important part of the answer is that I believe that a relationship of extreme inequality can have some very unique advantages. Equal relationships need frequent balancing and compromises. They can be great, but they are also fragile. There is a reason why societies with the greatest gender equality also have the highest divorce rates. Of course, it is great when people can leave relationships in which they are no longer happy. But knowing that you can get out any time might cause some people not to work as hard on their relationship as they would otherwise. Another advantage of an unequal relationship can be honesty. Equal partners are often tempted to lie to each other because neither one wants to upset the other. But an owner has very little incentive to lie to a slave. Finally, an unequal relationship can help improve people. Its generally good that parents have authority over their children because parents typically know better what is important for their future happiness. A child might want to play all day now, but regret it later. Similarly, a slave might become a better person under the guidance of his owner.
It is impossible, of course, to enter into a relationship of real slavery these days, but it is possible to take certain steps that make it very difficult for the slave to escape. I am not a fan of financial slavery (in the sense that a slave merely pays someone to play along with some fantasy), but I dont see how the finances of a real slave cannot be under the complete control of the owner. There are quite a number of arrangements that can be made to make it extremely difficult for a slave to regain his freedom without the consent of the owner. Thats an essential part of slavery for me.
Given my perspective on slavery, it is extremely important that the slave is careful when deciding whether to submit to someone. I have come up with a process of interacting with a potential owner in order to get a better sense of whether I should accept their collar. Some potential owners might to this and see this as topping from the bottom. But I dont think that is fair. I am not a slave yet, so I dont see myself at any bottom. And while it can be a fairly easy decision for an owner to claim a slave (since the slave can be released or given away again at any time), the slave has to be much more careful in making a decision that he cannot take back.
I am inviting messages from anyone who has read my profile and wants to exchange some ideas. But if you think that you might be interested in owning me, I would ask you to send me a message with a picture. This can be a picture of your face or of your feet (if you dont want me to know what you look like). In either case, I will send back a picture of myself. Once you believe that you want to own me, you can ask me to become your indentured servant. This is essentially slavery for a certain period of time (i.e., we agree that I owe you a certain debt and need to serve you until this debt is repaid). I have a contract for such Indentured Servitude and am happy to share if you are interested. Following this period of indentured servitude, I would either regain my freedom or become your permanent slave.
Good luck with your journey and I hope to hear from you.
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