ABOUT ME

Howdy! (Us people who live or lived in the Southwest are allowed to say hi that way.)

Ive been pervy for a very long time, but really only got the opportunity to express it with other people when I moved to the Valley of the Sun, where Ive been a member of some of the local BDSMfetish organizations.

Since Im polyamorous, I believe in strong relationships, but I dont believe that monogamy is for me. No, being poly doesnt make me a liar and a cheat. It just makes me polyamorous. Thats why its ethical nonmonogamy.

Please feel free to say hi back or even flirt of youre so inclined. I wont mind. But please bear in mind, if your message consists of four words or less, Ill consider it to be a meaningless social noise like saying Hi how are ya to a co-worker as you pass by... it just doesnt give me much reason to engage you if youre going to make me do all the work. Sound fair?

I am a hypnotherapist, certified and everything. I have not specialized, because I just havent found the need to turn anyone away yet.

I make latexwear. Ive taught a class or two, but I have a list of resources for DIYers.

FETISHES

Im quite a fan of bondage, the stricter the better.

Ive been doing ponyplay for awhile, and made my own tack set. I make latex garments and leather restraints, and hope to be able to start a business in the foreseeable future. I also make some bondage furniture, but good gawds am I slow.

Beautiful assertive women are my Kryptonite.

Submissive women are my catnip.

If you think I might be able to tickle your fancy, feel free to contact me and we can negotiate.

Please note I am a bit beyond being a keyboard cowboy cyberplayer, and neither of us will be happy with asking me for any kind of monetary servitude. I prefer my play to be very hands-on, and I make great efforts to make sure that it is very satisfactory for everyone involved.

You wont be my dirty little secret, and I wont be yours.

I purchased a steel chastity belt of my very own, and it was inexpensive, and it showed that Id cheaped out. Its gotta be steel for me, not a dinky piece of plastic (My PA5000 experience was a shitshow, culminating in an infection that could have gone very very badly...). I find the idea of holding the keys of a pretty  slave of my own absolutely enthralling, if youll pardon the pun.

I have been called a gear whore, and its true. I love collecting and using new BDSM and fetish stuff. I enjoy electrostim, and have made a number of my own e-stim electrodes. And I love to share my toys. Im just generous that way.

I have been told Im a lot of fun to play with, and thats a label I can live with.

I come with references!

TURN OFFS

One True Wayers of any sort. Youve met them before. Theres only one true way to worship! Theres only one true way to practice BDSM! Theres only one true way to do relationships! or whatever.

Unless something is going to get broken by my doing it the way that works for me, kindly step outta my way.

I realize that Im perhaps swimming against the current here, but Im not looking for an LDR or cyber-Domme.

If you think SJW (Social Justice Warrior) is a pejorative, but you have a weekend, work a 40-hour work week, get paid more than a couple of bucks an hour, got help with college tuition, have a vote if youre female or a POC... dont bring your cognitive dissonance to me and expect me to nod and make sympathetic noises when you tell me how awful those busybodies are.

If you try to tell me that the utterly assholeish thing you wrote was a sociological thought experiment, I am going to call you an asshole. Full stop. The only times Ive ever heard someone use that phrase, they were trying to walk back some utterly offensive tripe that was rightly called out.

MRAs or whiny incels. Sorry, I am not handsome or rich or spectacularly funny... but I still get laid. Why? Because I am not a whiny poutypants with some freakish idea that I am entitled to sex-on-demand.

GENERALLY,

I am a switch. Yes, we really truly exist, were not just confused, and we really truly are actual lifestyle people. Please dont bother to try to tell me otherwise. You wont convince me I dont exist, but you will convince me that youre either unlucky, ignorant, or an online-only player. Sorry, its harsh but true.

Since all of my primary relationships are polyamorous, they will not preclude other strong relationships. I certainly wouldnt mind having a submissive of my own to make squeaky noises for me, or meeting another Someone to elicit some squeaky noises of my own.

Yes, it sounds a bit complicated, and sometimes it is. But boiled down, it means that youd be negotiating not just with me, but peripherally with my other significant others. I dont plan to share you with them, but it sure makes things smoother when everyone knows and likes each other. And thatd be my goal.

Given the right woman, Id gleefully bring out my Dom side. The thought of a beautiful willing woman tied down eagerly anticipating the horribly wonderful things Im going to do? Oh yeah. That does it for me.