Something I have written in the past few days at the request of a very special Sir                            
                                  What submission means to me.

The Webster Dictionary defines submission as the condition of being submissive, humble or compliant or an act of handing over authority or control to another (Web, N;1828).

So, submission means pretty much just that.

In terms of the BDSM lifestyle it depends on what is agreed upon between two consenting adults.

I seek something special and unusual and is not often found even within the realms of the BDSM community. What I seek is often misunderstood.

So, submission to me means, as was said above, is to hand over authority and control in every part of my life to the One I have chosen to serve and be owned by.

Submission means to serve, be of service, be pleasing, be of use to the One who owns you.

I see a difference even between serving and being of service.

Serving is an action, be it sexual, domestic, finical or what ever “action” the Dominant partner deems is needed.

Being of service is more a mindset of being ready, keeping Him in the front of my mind.

These two areas are where I shine. I do not struggle with the things some girls struggle with like handing over my pay check, making myself ready for use or obeying direct commands. I excel in domestic service from housework, cooking, and preparing showers/clothes for my Owner.

Being pleasing encompasses the above but, also extends past them.

In my opinion, being pleasing is also keeping attitudes and desires/wants in check.

Sometimes a slave will not get what she desires for extended periods of time because it simply isn’t on His radar or He is trying to teach her to be humble or simply, life has got in the way and He doesn’t have time in that moment in time.

Being pleasing is putting His desires above my own, His agenda, not mine.

Being pleasing is hiding nothing from Him, no secrets, holding no part of me back from Him.

This, I struggle with. The being vulnerable and exposed. Giving up my attitudes and negative beliefs that has served to protect me in the past.

I struggle with biting my tongue when I know I am right about something or I have a point to make. But, in the end it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, or what my point is. All that matters is who is in charge.

He is human, He will make mistakes.

Part of submission to me is, having the grace to cover His short comings and be gracious enough to allow Him to ultimately take responsibility for consequences of His decisions. After all He is in charge not I.

It is not a slaves’ role to be a “told you so” girl when the shit hits the fan because of an unwise decision on the part of the dominant partner.
It is her role to stand beside Him and help Him solve the problems in silence. That is what grace is and that is what slavery/submission means to me.

I am not saying I am there yet, but that is what my mentor showed me submission is. That is who I ire  to be.