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I am a type of Dominant that many of the girls will not
appreciate, which is, of course, okay. I'm not the "slut puppy" that
many of the guys are. I'm not one to jump from sub to sub or to
initiate relationships just to avoid being alone. I don't like the
whole idea of being promiscuous, prefer to have one significant person
in my life. I tend to be somewhat conservative, I am very stable. I am
a degreed professional man and prefer to live like one. Much of what
draws me to this lifestyle are the same dynamics I valued from my
previous vanilla life: the tradition that a Dominant maintains an ethic
of honor, integrity, open communication, mutual respect with his
submissive. And much of what I would expect from the girl of my
choosing has also not changed upon my entry into this lifestyle:
significantly, she will be one who is capable of supporting her man in
what he is doing in his life -- a rare quality, it often seems, but one
that will not be wasted here, as I will have my various pursuits and
interests in addition to my work life. As you can probably surmise, I
am not looking for a brat sub and certainly not a sam. If your user
name contains either of the words 'pig' or 'cunt', then you are
probably not the girl for me.
My
involvement in my local BDSM community has become an important part of
my life. I enjoy associating with my friends and acquaintances in this
community. And I do try to contribute to the community where I can. I
am both leader and learner, mentor and apprentice. I encourage all
sincere BDSM people to participate in their local community both for
their own benefit and for the good of the community. This is where the
learning ops are, where the networking is, where you learn how to play
safe and to play effectively. Among
the many educational opportunities of which I avail myself is a
year-long mentoring program for Dominants that will commence in January
of '08. (I may need a bottom for some of the workshops, applications
graciously accepted.)
My relationship style is that of the
"romantic Dom", my play style that of the "sensual sadist". I respect
limits, of course, and may choose to respectfully push those limits as
time goes on. The girl I choose will be a fellow traveler on this
journey, she and I will learn together.
I don't chase. I will
express an interest in someone on occasion. Should you express an
interest in me, I may or may not return that interest but you can be
assured that I will reply to your email as a matter of courtesy.
My Ideal Person:
I don't
envision a specific personality that I am attracted to, as personality
is so infinitely varied from individual to individual that to make the
attempt could only be exclusive rather than inclusive. The girl of my
choosing will be intelligent and capable -- neither a doormat nor a
brat but someone who is capable of contributing her own thoughts and
ideas, but who also understands that I will be the major decision maker
in the relationship and I will be the one who is to be obeyed. I am not
race-specific. Although I am caucasion, I have had relationships with
black girls and enjoyed them very much so this is not an issue for me
in any way. I do value a girl who keeps herself fit and healthy and am
most comfortable with one whose weight is in reasonable proportion to
her height.
If
you are simply interested in trying a spanking or some light bondage
and sensation play, I can and may accommodate you. I do not require sex
from anyone not under my control, nor will I attempt to force
submission. These are gifts to be given freely without coercion.
Respect is essential, trust is crucial, communication is key.
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