Okay, Mr. "Twue Dom", let me break it down for you:

-Not every submissive has to submit their sweet little selves to you. Owned, collared, in a relationship, or not- if they are not your submissive by mutual agreement, they do not owe you a single, damned thing. Did you get that? Should I reiterate it for you?

Demanding that a submissive refer to you as 'Sir',(or ma'am/miss/goddess/etc. if you're a Domme), after one message is rude and un-called for and only shows your lack of experience and respect.

-We, the submissives and slaves, are real people deserving of respect and consideration. We are not here for your enjoyment or convenience. It is not our job to bend over backwards to please you right off the bat. You are being considered as surely as you are so-kindly 'considering' us. We can and will find you lacking if you are being a presumptuous asshole. 

Sure, you'll find newbies who don't know any better without too much trouble. But it is my opinion that new submissives and slaves should seek out the guidance of more experienced submissives and slaves, just as newer Doms should do the same and seek out the guidance of more experienced Doms. (You jackasses that just want to stroke your little -ahem- egos and play on cam or in the bedroom, I'm not even going to get started with you.)

Yes, you can have your dynamic and if your bona fide, confirmed submissive goes all melty and happy when you call her 'slut', 'subby', 'cunt', and a myriad of other names- that's cool. But I'm not her, and I don't appreciate being objectified.

So, I've noticed a somewhat irritating trend. It shouldn't bother me, I suppose, because it's not really important...but it kind of does. I see this "woe is me, why don't they answer me? Even a 'no thanks' is better than being ignored." attitude. Therein, lies the problem. You feel entitled to a reply just because you sent me (or someone else) a message; whether this message took you two seconds or an hour, whether you thought out something cool to say or just spouted the "hi, how are you?" shlock that no one gives a shit about. So, let me make this point abundantly clear to all the whiners out there:

1. Just because you message us, doesn't mean we owe you a response.

2. Just because we aren't interested, doesn't mean you have to be an asshole.

3.If you get pissy when we reject you and insult us, we will laugh at you. Especially if you said we were so hot/you want to fuck us/what-have-you in your first message and then changed your story.

4. If you would just read profiles, maybe you'd have better luck. Seriously- at least make sure the girl that you're spewing your wank fodder to is single, kay?

It's probably one of those things, you know?

Now that that's out of the way- an explanation as to why we might just ignore you.

Maybe we don't care and your message just isn't interesting enough to us to bother responding. Or, and this is the big one- maybe every other douchebag just like you has conditioned us that replying, even with a polite no,is a bad idea. A lot of guys give us a hard time after that, spewing hateful things or generally making a nuisance of themself and not taking the polite no. So, yeah, ignoring you is better for us in a lot of ways. So maybe, instead of whining, you could take a look at what you did wrong and try to do better in the future.

So, I noticed that the options for what you are looking for on the site do not accurately reflect my goals. Because of that, I thought it would be a good idea to expand on that a bit to, maybe, avoid some confusion later.

I am a submissive,a bottom, and a bit of a masochist. I am currently involved in a polyamorous relationship with a Dominant; he is the ONLY person that I have any interest in submitting to. I am, however, seeking a more sadistic partner who shares my interest in rope, hot wax, fire play, electrical play, etc.  For now, this relationship would NOT involve sex, as I do not enter into sexual relationships lightly and will not be willing to rush into anything. Ideally, I would like to get to know someone or a few someones over a period of time in more public, kink community settings and eventually lead up to playing together. At the moment, I am interested in pursuing electrical play, rope play, flogging, and fire cupping as a bottom. I am a beginner in all of these areas and would very much like to learn more and explore my limits as well as, perhaps, discovering other interests along with a partner/friend.

My ideal partner would be within ten years or so of my own age, someone that has a fair amount of experience in the areas that I am interested in, and who is a part of the local kink scene and can thus be vetted and vouched for by others.  On the age front, I am willing to make exceptions if and only if the person is found to be knowledgeable, pleasant, and interesting enough to overcome whatever age gap there might be. Experience is a must, and so is involvement in the kink community, even if that involvement is new or begun prior to our play (because I won't play alone with that person without first being with them, even playing, in a more public/play party setting.

I am also looking for friendship, and for that I have no real guidelines, except that I do not tolerate illiterate, irritating people. I reserve the right to discriminate on whatever criteria I want to, and I will not hesitate to do so. Other than that, I am friendly, open to conversation, and happy to get to know new people.