2)Do not ever lie to me. I try to always value the truth....even when it is something I don't want to hear.

There are natural consequences to lying to me. 

Although I am honored by the many subs who have contacted me, the number of subs which I can handle at this time is nearly full.

If I were to accept any other subs at this time, they would have to offer me something special. However, usually when I suggest this to a submissive, I am seen as mercenarious, and the submissive is suddenly uninterested in serving.

Consider this:

I work two jobs and go to school. I sell my plasma to pay for food and gas. MY TIME IS NOT UNLIMITED and what little time I have is valuable to me.  When I ask for a gift, skill, or monetary tribute in exchange for my time (either online or in person) --with the understanding that NO SEX OR SEXUAL CONTACT will be involved-- the submissive declines this arrangement. I am considering taking a third job, but that would mean less playtime, either online or in real life.

Although I enjoy Domination deeply, it is hard work. It is a set of skills that have been built upon the basis of a personality trait. I am sincere in my efforts to continually improve my abilities so my submissives will have safe and satisfying scenes that connect to the deep desires they have always had.

We all know there are few women who fit this profile of being dominant in nature AND skilled in the ways of bdsm AND safe, sane, and consensual . If your wife or girlfriend wanted to do so, you would go to her. She doesn't, so you are here.

When I ask for a gift, it is a token of good faith on your part. You are demonstrating that you are willing to put the needs of another above your own. This is the definition of submission. When a submissive is unwilling to give a gift, he is saying to me that he DOES NOT VALUE ME, DOES NOT VALUE MY SKILLS, AND WORST OF ALL, DOES NOT VALUE MY TIME. It implies that you want me to be submissive to YOUR needs and fantasies, at no sacrifice of your own in a distorted dom/Sub upside-down relationship.

Dominance is not cheap. Saran wrap costs money. So do floggers. A violet wand. Suspension unit. Sleepsack. Cuffs. Wax. Clothespins. Rope. I need to join the frequent-buyers club at my local hardware store! I broke my paddle on the bottom of a regular submissive of mine last Thursday night; it would be nice to have a quality leather one that is stronger and will add variety to my toybag. There are also workshops in which I can learn more of the technical and safety aspects of Dominance, as well as inspiration of particularly creative scening.

If you think that it is acceptable that your Domme goes hungry and cold while you "play" at being the longsuffering submissive, then you are NOT a submissive deserving of any sort of quality Dominant.

I am indeed impressed with the prompt response of the support services of this site in this matter.

Thank you thank you thank you to the powers that run this site!!!

Btw,  if any of you DO notice my phone number on another's profile or journal, I would hope that you would do the right thing and contact the support services.  I would be grateful, and I know the web designers would be grateful because they would share in the liability if this man puts my safety at risk by printing my phone number.