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I have always been very open, free spirited and sexual person. In my 20's and 30's I used to have the motto that "I am human and I shall not let anything that is human be foreign to me". I am a bit more mellow now, partly because building my practice is taking up more time. I consider myself to be pretty experienced sexually, but have only recently discovered my hidden Dom. Unfortunately, I don't really have any avenues to explore this part of myself, thus collarme.com. My other major kink is ass play. I adore women's bottoms, anal sex (giving), and all manner of play involving bottom's bottoms. However, I've also dabbled in various and sundry other types of erotic play at one point or another on my journey through the 'human country-side'.
Outside of the erotic chunk of my life, I'm a bit of an old-fashioned gentleman. I like to open doors for women, open the car door and close it for her, walk on the street side of her on the sidewalk, that sort of thing. I enjoy rambling smart conversations over fancy food and wine. I used to ride motorcycles for 17+ years, but since I got a convertible, have become one of the many stuck in LA traffic. I've played in various rock/punk/speedcore bands. I like camping, hikes, nights near the ocean. I'm a restored alt Christ-ian, actually more of a Taoist/Christ-ian. I'd prefer to get to know someone 1st before plowing into a scene.
I'm new to this, so I'm not sure what to say I'm looking for. On the one hand, the idea of exploring this space with someone else who is new to it feels nice, and potentially spiritually fulfilling. On the other hand, with an experienced sub, the challenge would be exciting. I should say, the psych element is just as if not a bit more important than the actual stuff that happens. I will say that none of my girlfriends have ever looked alike, so appearances are not the most important. The GF I had the best sexual connection with was heavy bottomed Latina who loved anal sex and in retrospect, was submissive sexually. Age also isn't all that important. I've dated women older and younger. My last GF was 11 yrs younger and she would do the young girl / daddy tease thing which was hot. The one thing almost all the women I've been with have had in common was that they were smart, expressed themselves, and were their own women. LTR is of course ultimately desireable, but I've been around the block too many times to go into anything with rigid expectations. The connection is ultimately the most important thing for me, and an open outlook, so I can really take in the other person and really taste/feel/see/enjoy who they are is what facilitates the connecting for me. Besides, one of my new motto's is "Things happen as they need to happen" and maximum savoring of the magic in life only happens when one can take things just for what they are.
If you're still reading this, feel connected to some of what you've read, maybe a little tickle somewhere in your head, drop me a line. Maybe we can just email, or maybe it will be the start of something richer.
Patiently browsing until then becomes now.
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Transitions are a-happening. New (nicer) place to live. Finally got my domain name for my website unstuck & moved from the old server. Now all I have to do is build up the site... Scoped out possible new office space. Spiritual slice of pie (biology, psychology, spirituality) continuing to become clearer; just as based on principles as other two.
The space inside for my complementary 1/2 mending: Eros's heat, Mar's aggression & planning, Hades' dark ruminations of control & entrapment; spontaneous bursts of one or more have begun flashing across my awareness.
Back on CM; further along on my path. At a greater level of centered-ness, of mastery & strength through renunciation and letting go. Putting forth my intentions and hunger. Making preparations for your delivery to me from the Universe.
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Rather than adding more to my stupendously long profile, I thought I'd add something here for a change. This is more revealing of me, rather than a catalog of what I'm looking for. Something like the point of an upside-down pyramid as far as the BDSM aspect of my life; what all the other details stand on. I am in a area of transitions in my path; on many levels (including my practice, which is why I'm here in my office on Turkey day eve  ). My being is still processing where to go next, both relationship-wise and in BDSM. Nevertheless, what you read below is solid and true. I found it some time ago somewhere in the vast ether of the net.
Dominant's Point of View - Michael P.
I am a Dominant Man. I am just that.
I am not Dominant because of any superiority on My part.
Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser.
I am not Dominant because of the Strength or mass of My body.
I am not,
nor would I want to be,
Dominant with all women.
Yet to you, I am Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust
and I embrace your submissiveness.
I have looked into your heart and mind
and clearly see your desires and passions.
you have thrown away your fears and inhibitions.
you tell me of the needs of your heart and body.
you have given Me total access to your soul,
and I accept the responsibility and honor.
you are a woman.
you are not weak or inferior because of it.
you are a treasure to be cherished.
We are not equal.
I have the strength of body and mind
and the instinctive need to protect,
possess, defend and provide for you.
you are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart.
your belief in Me gives Me courage and direction.
your strength disperses My doubt.
your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to My efforts.
We are not equal. We are halves of a whole.
We compliment each other
and make each other complete.
My desire to Dominate you is instinctive.
It is not to degrade you
nor is it degrading to you
because you are secure in being totally feminine.
We each recognize and accept our worth,
and Our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.
you are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood.
you do not submit as acceptance of inferiority,
but from strength and passion.
you desire and flourish in the strength and control of a Man.
In return you present control of your body,
unqualified trust and honesty,
and the faithfulness of your heart.
you submit because I have earned your trust.
Because I have opened My Heart and Soul to you;
Because I have listened to your words with My ears and Heart
and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions;
because I have proven worthy in your eyes;
you have given Me the only true treasure of life;
you have given Me Dominance over you.
What you give is not abnormal; but pure, natural
and the rarest gift a woman could give a Man.
you have given Me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to Me.
your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility.
I accept this from you with humility and joy.
I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.
I recognize it is your body and soul,
your heart and mind.
I Dominate only because you have allowed me to,
and when I see your body kneel before Me,
in My Mind and Heart you are raised above all other woman,
and all the treasures of the earth.
What you give freely cannot in reality be bought. |
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