I have finally found what I was looking for a man, a friend, a dom, a lover, and even a little subbie at times. I am only looking for friends at this time thanks.
I see that being a submissive who wants to be the sole property and be used by only her Dom is nearly impossible. But it is still what I seek. I am NOT bi, I am NOT to be loaned out and no matter how long I am in the lifestyle for or how much I love the guy, I do not see this changing. If this is not for you please move on.
The following is a Quote from a Dominants profile his nick is Gev:
Dominants VS Domwannabees A Domwannabe will be rude or abusive, even in his first contact with you. A Dom will be polite/sociable as they are seeking someone who desires to give them power/control and therefore has no reason to be anything but polite and sociable.
A Domwannabe will tell you what a ‘real’ Dom/sub is, as if he is an ‘authority’ on the subject. A Dom will direct you to places where you can learn more.
A Domwannabe will try to ‘take’ control. A Dom will give you the opportunity to give power/control to him. A Dom accepts a power exchange; he doesn't 'take' it since it is something to be 'given' (not 'taken').
A Domwannabe has anger, or uses ‘anger’ as a tool, even before he is in a D/s relationship. A Dom is in control of himself at all times. If he isn’t then how can he be in control of another? (Does a sub want to be subject to someone’s ‘anger,’ or to they want to subject to their ‘control?’)
A Domwannabe will try to make you fit the mold he has already determined. A Dom will seek to understand your psychology and needs, and then design a relationship based upon the needs of you both.
As the above has been quite popular, I've decided to add to it. The following is credited to -Calista Chained, 3/2000
Perhaps it is easier to say what a Master or Mistress is not.
They are not always right. They are not selfish and cruel. They do not have to be snobby and aloof. They do not have to put down others to feel in control. They do not have to abide by any rules other than "Safe, Sane, and Consensual." They do not care what others may view them as weak if they listen to their sub. They do not take it as an affront to their Ego if they are given suggestions. They do not know everything: that kind of attitude does not promote growth. They do not view Domination as a way to quick sex. They *Do* recognize there is opportunity to learn in every situation presented to them. They *Do* recognize that their partner is not defined by his or her role as a submissive. They *Do* take time to evaluate themselves and their actions. They *Do* watch and listen. They *Do* recognize know that first and foremost to Master themselves before they attempt to master another. They *Do* know that to Master...is to take responsibility to protect, to cherish, and to nurture. They *Do* know the meaning of trust and that it is a two way street.-Calista Chained, 3/2000
1/7/2012 8:39:26 PM
Don't you hate it when you try to be cautious and your friends attack you for it?
