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Hetero Male Dominant, 34,  Galax, Virginia
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*For kinks, see the section at the bottom.

If youre interested in what Im looking for, please scroll to the bottom. In short, Im looking for a connection with a s type, and a 24 hour, TPE, LTR.

The Good Stuff

Hey. Im Phoenix. Im single, and I have no children. I seek a long-term relationship, but am open to opportunities that present themselves. After some intense soul searching, I believe I am best suited to be a daddy dom. Im just moving into the Daddy realm, but have always acted in Daddy ways in my past relationships, without realizing it had a name.

Friends are always welcome. Just strike up a conversation and well see where it leads. Please be open-minded.


My interests include counseling, reading, video games, intellectual discourse, computers, current events, going to the gym, and watching football.

I love sci-fi. Big fan of movies in general. LotR is my all-time favorite trilogy. The Force Awakens got by on nostalgia and to me, was underwhelming. Marvel Movies are also great, and the Avengers is one I can watch again and again. My favorite series is Iron-Man.

Regarding football, this season is not as great as I expected, but Im just waiting for it to be shut down by covid anyways.

As far as books, I like almost exclusively non-fiction, inational books. I dont read quickly, so I want to make sure I get something practical out of it when I do. Im definitely not the guy who will recommend the latest, hot YA yarn.

Before I get to kinks, a bit on how I view safety. SSC, RACK, whatever floats your boat. Know the risks, agree to them, be as safe as you can, and no permanent damage. That said, play can be as extreme as you want, provided it does not break those rules.

Heres where I tell you what makes me kink.

Control. This one I have experience with. To have someone do as you say is hot. To get in their head is very hot. To do it literally is beyond hot. Thats why I want Relyfe Programming, a of hypnosis.

I want to watch others get humiliated and degraded. Typed word - I am VERY good at it, and I regularly fill requests in forums. It is about power and control, and I like to employ it regularly.

Oral is my number one kink. With my FWB, as soon as the door closed, she was on her knees, sucking me off. She wanted more action, she had to use her mouth to get me ready. I like to use my legs to pull someone closer while theyre giving me head. I use gags, belts, and other s of restraint to bring my partner closer. I love closeness during oral sex. Really makes me feel like Im one with the other person.

Bondage is what I have the most experience with aside from oral. Watching you wear a rope harness and it feels so good you cant walk. I will just smile and evil laugh. I also bind your hands unless you make good use of them during a blowjob, or because the mood strikes me. But what I really want to do is predicament bondage. Oh, the possibilities

A Ds relationship. Ultimately, I seek a slave, and a timeless love story - just in chains. But all things in time.

I have other, lesser kinks, but those are the main ones.












 Dominant Male



 5' 9"

 200 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female


A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Body Worship (Expert)


 Liberal Politics

 Body Building



 Movies (Expert)


 Blindfolding you


 Breast Play

 Canes and Crops

 You wearing my collar


 Being Massaged

 Erotic Hypnosis


 Hair Pulling

 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Control

 Sensory Play




 Wax Play

 Arcade Games

 Role Playing Games

 Science Fiction

 TV News

 Web Surfing


 Intellectual Discourse



 Lifestyle BDSM




 Ultimate Frisbee





 Corner Time

 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Rear End Play


 Masks on Partner

 Massage (Giving)



 Sensation Play

 Public Play

 Spanking you

 Suspension Bondage


 Board Games



 Online RPGs

 Simulation Games

 TV Sports








 1950s Lifestyle


 Nineties Music


 Pop Music

 Rock Music


 Yoga (Beginner)

 Curious About:

 Fire Play

 Modern Primitivism


 Sky Diving



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Journal Entries:
12/14/2017 8:57:55 AM
I have read the following books to expand my knowledge in this area: The Dominant/Submissive Training Guide Pillow Talk: A comprehensive guide to erotic hypnosis and Relyfe Programming The Loving Dominant Exactly What To Say Master/slave Relations: Handbook of theory and practice Will read: Screw Roses Send Me Thorns People Follow You and the M/s relations series by Robert Rubel

10/28/2017 5:24:40 AM
NOTE - I am a stroke survivor, 3/29/17. UPDATE - I have entered intensive inpatient rehabilitation! I may be better sooner than I thought. I have lost a lot but it looks like I will regain it all. Until i walk, I am unable to weigh myself. I can take take pictures, but not showers. I'll show you my trach scar, and verify via picture, but you won't understand me beyond "Hello" over the phone. The stroke got my voice. It's coming back, like everything else. I have nothing but free time so I'm reading to increase my experience. I keep losing, getting smaller, eating for fuel, avoiding snacking...but the number is a best guess.

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