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| I'm a spanking-centric, highly responsive, sensation addicted bottom. I am not submissive.
I am interested in finding compatible partners for erotic spanking play, but don't engage in intercourse or oral sex with casual play partners. Play can include penetration with fingers or toys and mutual masturbation, however.
I'm single but not on a mission to find 'the one'.
Play Interests:
I adore being spanked. I like to fly on endorphins from erotic pain, with or without adrenalin from dominance overtones (those are great too!). Who needs external drugs when we've got our own endogenous opioid system?
I like spanking sessions interspersed with lots of cuddling, touching, and general sensation play. I also love to play with a little physical/verbal control/force and some light play punishment dynamics, but do not do 'real' punishment nor do I submit to activities I don't like. So, I tend to be compatible with people who consider themselves more top than dom/domme or who at least like to play as a top sometimes.
I'm a medium to med-heavy masochist for very limited types of pain: primarily sting-type spanking, pussy spanking, and nipple pressure. I enjoy non-pain sensation play elsewhere immensely. I'm a glutton for the standard tight hold on the roots of the hair at the back of the neck or being held down for a spanking. I do restraints with partners I have some experience with.
My play reactions vary: spanking gets me aroused and affectionate, 'dominance' of the right type gets goose-bumps, and at low levels of pleasurable pain I can respond either appreciatively/enthusiastically or with whimpering/light protest (whichever way (or both!) my partner and I prefer). At high levels of pleasurable pain, response is more unpredictable. It sometimes even makes me laugh in delight.
Partner Interests:
I'm seeking partners with a highly communicative, even joyful, approach to kinky play.
I play very well with people who identify as 'service tops' and get off on the ability to create response in their partners, but everyone has different definitions of top, service top, dom, sadist, etc, and most people don't fit into neat little boxes.
I've also had great play with people who consider themselves 'pure sadist', 'dom', and 'switch'. Good communication skills and a decent understanding of one's own sexuality and kink landscape can uncover if we might have promising play possibilities worth exploring.
I don't have strong preferences regarding age, ethnicity, weight, height, disability, or gender. You should be local (I don't do online play) and willing to meet for coffee in person without a photo exchange.
More about the non-kink me:
For longer term romantic relationships, I have tended toward monogamy (including not playing casually with others), but a more open relationship is a possibility. I'm a geeky big kid and love other geeky kid-like folks with strong ethical drives. My heart gets awakened by the character of the person, not their physique, and that takes awhile to get to know.
I'm an extremely liberal atheist, a coffee snob, a foodie, a woo skeptic, and a martial taiji addict. I have experience both leading (love!) and following many partner dances (ballroom and street) and though I'm a bit soured on the south bay dance scene, would love to find a friend to go to classes or dances as my follower (male or female).
My drugs of choice are adrenalin, endorphins, and caffeine. I'll sip/taste alcoholic drinks (I am a foodie, afterall), but never got into social drinking. Similarly, I've never had a single cigarette or non-prescribed drug. Though I have long hair, I'm not particularly femme. I am a little bit chunky (5' 8", 180 lbs), never wear makeup, and have typical engineer social skills: both the bad (slow to pick up on social cues) and good (extremely direct and honest).
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