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I tend to have a different outlook than most submissive men on this site. Do not get me wrong I do have my fetishs primarily revolving around female dominants I have learned threw my experiences that the fetish should be a secondary consideration in partner selection, the concept of partner selection I feel sets me apart from most of men on this web site. To elaborate on my view about the subject I will ask the question. Have you noticed how a lot of people are eager to start a power exchange relationship? For instance men messaging woman promising full Unyielding submission, Domme profiles demanding absolute obedience. Personally I feel building a power exchange relationship with any depth requires three main supports first is trust, not just in the ethics of each participant also in ability to communicate, competency, and they respect one another apart from being a fetish delivery vessel. The second is learning how the other ticks with implicitness. Have you seen a sub capable of anticipatory service without the need to be micro managed? Or a Top able to gauge and read their bottoms feelings and be able to get more out of them than the bottom knew they could do?. The third is the time and effort to work up to a level the other two are possible. I wonder why anyone would offer to submit to another person totally without taking the time to develop a total power exchange, my out look is TPE is a goal to work towards not to start from. In essence what I seek is someone that I can have a dialog with, to be able to work towards relationship milestones to the point that it is a TPE because the trust and knowledge has been developed over time the develops an implicit understanding of how one another work.
So what type of partner do I want?
While the whips and chains and leather are nice, I really do not view those things as something that can adequately define a Dom, what I am looking for is someone who has a strong sense of personal agency, as well a good sense of leadership. I am not looking to submit to an honorific I am looking for something genuine. Also it would be nice if our fetishism was somewhat comparable.
Who am I?
I am a blue collar person who has his own sense of agency and self worth (sorry no worms here), I strive to live up to a personal expectation of respect, politeness, and personal responsibility. I tend to lean more towards the introverted side so I tend to like activities such as photography, camping, reading etc.
when do I want it?
I feel things should develop naturally, I have never liked the idea of trying to force a relationship to develop I am patient and willing to wait for what feels right, not simply the first opportunity.
Why?
I have had a strong sense of fetish for years actually most of my life. Sexually my fantasies often revolve around a Strong woman placing me in bondage, sadism, humiliation etc. The common denominator is Dominant woman. For this reason I feel female strength and guidance in my life is intrinsically important for a fulfilling relationship not just in the bedroom rather in all aspects of life.
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