A while ago I took down my profile and said I would be rebuilding it soon. I have been reminded (politely) enough times that I figured I had better get my tush in gear and stick to my word. So here goes...

What I am looking for in a submissive is someone who understands that it is about the interaction between the two (or more) people who are involved in the play. Play is about the hands that the toy is in and not the toy itself. Anyone can pick up a whip, not just anyone can use it to take your brain places. I am looking for someone to play with who wants to go to a higher level than just an orgasm.

My checklist on here is rather sparse because I do not really have fetishes. I can play with a whip with the same effectiveness as a piece of licorice. I believe in safety first, so you can be assured that I will know how to use whichever of the two I choose to pick up before it touches your flesh. Gender is irrelevant. Each has fun parts to play with. Since I am not looking for a "love of my life" sexual acts may be used in play but are not the focus of my search.

A bit about myself, I am involved, happily, in a relationship. He is aware of what I do and sometimes plays along. I have been involved in the lifestyle for quite a few years. I have attended conferences and classes, even taught at a few. I am passionate and anal retentive, if I am going to do something, it will be done right.

I have a few hard limits about the people who I allow in my life. These are, in no particular order: no married people who are not honest with their significant other about their activities, no one who is not within a reasonable driving distance, and no one who does not have a sense of humor . I also abhor lies, drama, manipulation, and laziness. If these are things that you take pride in, save both of us the time.

If you bother to get to know the person you are considering submitting to as a human being first, establishing trust and respect BEFORE putting your safety on the line, I might be willing to get to know you.

I enjoy meeting people and making friends. If you want to say hi, feel free to do so. (I would suggest initial emails include a WEE bit more than just "hi" though.) I can't promise an immediate response, but I will always try to reply to those who take the time to introduce themselves.

Sadie