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| I have always felt that there need to be many things that two people must share, including the very vanilla, for a relationship to develop and to evolve to one that lasts a lifetime. Merely sharing common BDSM interests will allow two people to "play" or share a "scene" but ultimately the relationship will be limited. The closeness of the people will suffer without the sharing of so much more than that and the willingness of the two people to truly open up. I am something of a romantic and feel that for two people, be they vanilla or not, to truly share their lives, they need to first and foremost care very deeply for one another. Yes, love. To laugh together, hold each other, effortlessly talk about anything, and know that over the course of time the two of us are growing yet closer is what I hope to find in a full life with the woman I absolutely adore.
Humor, intelligence, a love of the wonders of Velcro (which I have written in upper case as it is a registered trademark for “hook and loop fasteners”) and the unbridled joy of popping packing bubbles are all helpful to make a loving, long-term relationship work. I want to make you smile and you to make me smile, to always be thinking of you and of us, and how to make you just a bit happier each day. That is not submission. It is love.
For me, a bright, warm woman with a very real sense of humor who is well grounded is the woman I hope to meet. I don't wish to meet merely "a domme" as a consequence of some sort of desperate and sad existence. If love happens, I am delighted. If not, I am quite content in my life. I am a professional and am loving and caring. Even years from now, I want us to love our time together, talking until the sun rises and acting like crazed minks, unable to keep our hands off each other. I want to meet the woman I can freely adore and worship in an LTR. Obviously I have a number of BDSM interests that have evolved in the course of more than twenty years in the BDSM community. If you and I share more in common than common "kinks" that would the basis of a relationship. If you enjoy edging a bound, helpless man to the point of sexual desperation, the joy you take from receiving oral worship, and quite a number of other activities, that would be great of course.
I have many vanilla interests, ranging from going to comedy clubs, seeing movies (including everything from independent films to classics to absurd teenage comedies), and searching through used bookstores. I don’t hang glide, rock climb, or kayak.
I am one of the least judgmental individuals that you are likely to meet. I only have difficulty when people purposefully harm others, physically or emotionally. If we are discussing even your deepest, darkest most personal hopes, wishes, and fantasies, I will be so very thankful that you have felt that you could share these with me -- and perhaps we can share not merely the conversation, but far, far more -- together.
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