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Time marches on and the sands of time cannot be stopped. But I remain ever optimistic about life so I will add to the existing profile which will remain below.
While I have yearned over time for a life partner in what I consider the lifestyle, the practical answer is that almost nobody is wired in that manner. So quite simply, here is what I seek and offer
1. Monogamous live in partner in terms of other men. Will consider other arrangements with respect to other women.
2. Need only work part time, as I will provide all housing expenses and travel, etc.
3. Must be born female.
4. Actually enjoys the rough physical contact that can occur in a lifestyle relationship.
5. Is wanting a life partner herself, especially one who will provide a quiet stable environment, with appropriate nurturing.
6. I understand the combination of loving and caring for someone in conjunction with this lifestyle and what it entails.
I am not interested in the dynamic of keeping a mindless slut in a cage all the time and taking her out to use. I want someone who can participate in life.
The rewards can be quite interesting for the right person.
New simple profile (and it sounds more conservative than I really am).
I seek a partner. She should be a naturally born female, reasonably heightweight proportionate and interested in a monogamous relationship. She should be a very willing and submissive person, and very much wanting to please. She should want to participate in some of the rougher side of the lifestyle, although that is just a piece of the puzzle.I am a very private person, quite stable, able to nurture, understandwhat it takes to have a lifestylerelationship,and also understand that each relationship is different and defined by the interaction of the participants.
Please understand that I am very cognizant of using the words relationship and
partner. That means there is more to whatI am talking about than you give and I take, especially in terms of emotional needs and the intangibles of a relationship.
I dont want a throwaway sub but rather someone valuable I can also cherish. Experience per se is not required. On the other hand, you should understand what is being asked of you. For the right lady (using that word intentionally), the rewards can be immense.
Inquire within.
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It has been an interesting ride, this thing called life. But it sure can be fun.
Would still be interesting to share it with someone. Fun from time to time, but a committed personal relationship would be even better. |
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Ok, here it is. Not sure if this is humor or not, but let's go with it.
Having attracted absolutely zero rational people who are interested in a rational partner in life, I guess before I get too too old I should just go for it. So here goes......
Read the old journal entries and they get me nowhere. The person who has wanted to meet me all year is not making the effort and after numerous conversations with a potential someone she just stopped writing back. Ok, I can deal with that.
At this time I would also consider a petite woman, Asian works fine, who wishes to have a nice life in the United States. Age probably 25 and up, no kids they are responsible for, and willing to cater to my whims in life. Definitely strongly submissive, even a slave (my definition, not yours) and understand that a great opportunity awaits with a man who is rational and has the ability to do what he says. Clearly I have a house, two cars, a pension and a very nice life. The right person will be taken care of long after I am gone. No drama in my life and I will not countenance disobedience and a lack of loyalty. But at the same time, this Dominant is compassionate, runs a happy home and will never put you in danger. I do not share well.
Sound enticing? Say so.
So there...... what's on my mind this evening. The right woman wins. |
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Once upon a time I would have started a comment with "It truly amazes me." Today, not so much, as over my lifetime I have seen and heard so much that nothing really surprises me anymore. Human nature being what it is, there is almost an expectation that people will have no understanding of what anything means and what is truly important in life.
Bring those thoughts to this lifestyle, where trust and loyalty are so important, and learning is paramount, and it saddens me to see little respect there is out there.
Perhaps my time has passed, and perhaps I am pushing back against a tsunami, but I still have a positive attitude and realistic thought or otherwise, think there is someone out there with a similar outlook to mine.
I invite conversation and intelligent thought, and at some point think I may still find someone compatible as a life partner. I can be as rough and tumble as anyone, but always with compassion and thought for others, an art that seems to go by the wayside for many.
Let's see what happens. |
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As usual I have nothing to sell. Amazing how many so called dominant types want to borrow money, move in, borrow your car, bum a smoke and all that.
I ask for something much more difficult, your time and attention. If someone really wanted to be serious about an actual relationship with someone, they would understand that it is time and attention, from the beginning, that wins the day and helps to form a strong foundation.
But as the world turns and evolves on a daily basis, people seem to be forever stuck in the same rut. There are tremendous opportunities out there, if only they would reach for them.
Fun weeks of hard work. Now time to enjoy the fruits of the labor. Will you join me? |
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And happy new year to you too.
Maybe I should advertise for the 20 year old young lady I could keep chained in the basement. Heck, I might get more responses than asking for the reasonable type of match, the age appropriate lady (lady is used on purpose). Ok, laugh at that and move on, nothing to see here and all that.
It is sad to see how few people have an actual understanding of the lifestyle and want more than the proverbial roll in the hay. I guess I am old fashioned in that regard in wanting an actual partner in life. I also commented a while back on whether I should start looking at more of the "sugar daddy" type of positioning here. Never know what that will bring.
But it's a new year perhaps there will be a new adventure? |
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It has been an interesting year. People still come and go online, mostly not understanding that the lifestyle is more than a social club to many of us. But as I have noted, their loss.
But let's pick a new topic. I had hoped to attract someone who was more age appropriate, but it appears that 50+ year old women do like to talk and chat, but pressing the flesh is a whole nother ballgame. So far nobody has proved me wrong.
So being pragmatic, let's expand our horizon. I would be very happy to find a partner who has needs that can be fulfilled and can help me fulfill my needs in life. Understand that I am not in the Sugardaddy business, but clearly can help someone when we have an established relationship. Live in welcome and I don't need your money to pay the bills around here. Great opportunity for someone for example, who wants to go to school, work part time and be well protected, nurtured and helped in her life.
I can't find everyone out there. So feel free to send a note. I don't tend to scare people off. |
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Life continues to be interesting, online and in real life. But speaking of online, this appears to be something that happens quite a bit in my experience. Not sure about others. You get a nice email conversation going on here, and then your last message is either unread and read with no response and you find:
[You cannot respond to this message because the account no longer exists]
Poof, she is gone. Oh well, another one vanishes into the wilderness. |
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It is interesting to sit back and watch the world go by. Funny how life works, but I am happy. I just look around me and wonder at the crazy and dumb things people do around me and then they wonder how they ended up in the condition they find themselves in.
It is interesting to see how few age appropriate women actually respond to notes or appear to have any interest in an actual relationship beyond online chat. Perhaps I should convert myself into the fantasy sugar daddy and see if I can attract someone of that persuasion? The pickings can't be any worse than they are already.
But ya know, that really isn't what I am all about. So not yet. |
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There are always thoughts. One is that a profile should be a marketing tool and I think mine states the polite basics and what I offer to a partner in a relationship. Mostly good things, but life is still life. So I have been reading profiles again, and as my screen name uses the word "pragmatic" in it, I figure I have a good handle on life. What I see in profiles of age appropriate women (I dont date men) is that a lot of them are back at the fantasy life stage of development.
Put it this way, I am a dominant man, commonly called a "Dominant." I am looking for someone who is submissive, but who has needs, wants, goals and aspirations that are complementary to mine. What I see in profiles are angry people who often life has passed by. We are not here to rescue you, we are here to support you in your quest for life.
Ok, I am going to be blunt here... take it as you wish, but it has to be said. I am going to be 64, and the mental connection is all important. But I am still alive, and I seek someone I can be proud of in all senses, including the physical. Put simply, it doesnt mean someone is off the list because of some physical disability, weight issue, whatever, but it means I an drawn to someone who strives to do the best with what she has. That "attitude" word comes into play again. I have no true hard and fast rules.... but there are way too many people who take umbrage way too quickly. |
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I find it interesting to observe human nature in all its finery. I guess people must be under tremendous stress at times, but alas, it is often of their own doing or to put it another way, they make stress when there is no stress around. Justified or not, a number of people seem to be on a hunt to find things that dont exist so that they can reach the goals of the self fulfilling prophecies..... which is that there is nobody out there for them.
No matter what we call interactions and exchanges whether by email, instant message, phone, etc. they are still in some ways conversations. It is interesting to observe how people take one word or phrase out of context, or put something in the conversation that is not even there, and go off on it. Has happened to me several times, and each time I feel sadness.... for them, not for me. I guess I am disappointed at the behavior of the human condition from time to time.
Yes, we are out there, and some of us have our act together and are actually nice people, but you will never know. For that I am sad. And will move on to someone else as the quest needs to continue. |
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I would like to meet someone who wants to be "owned" with all that the term implies. That does not mean I am looking for a slave who has no brain, but rather someone who wants to put her trust in someone and guess what, have that pay off for her in the long run. Plenty of opportunity here for someone who has the proper "fit" and well yes, attitude. I am a highly practical and as the name says, pragmatic person who understands life. This is not a job, but it is an adventure.
Discretion assured and discussion will be required. |
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It is interesting to see how many people miss out on actually living life, not just in the lifestyle, but in general. Not taking a chance, not making a decision, waiting for the perfect future and not grabbing the opportunity right there in front of them. For some, it is almost akin to not going outside on a sunny day because they would have nothing to complain about.
While one has to be "wired" in the right way to enjoy the lifestyle, that does not mean a person cannot be positive and happy and have a healthy outlook on life. But many people haven't figured that out yet.
I am not into humiliation and degradation, so if that is what you want, look elsewhere. I again seek someone, age appropriate (the fantasy of a 20 year old chained in the basement is just that, a fantasy) who is looking for an actual relationship that can be successful on many levels. If that is you, born female only please, I would be happy to hear from you as it is impossible to look at every profile in the world. Ultimately I expect to trip over the right someone, it just takes time.
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Since there is no box to ckeck for this, I will be happy to consider someone who is not local to me, with the ultimate goal of a live in situation. I have the time and energy for a relationship and can clearly make the effort to meet someone who is not just around the corner. Remember though, that I am looking for an actual person who has a sense of humor, but is serious about a relationship and understands the dynamics of this lifestyle.
I can provide an most interesting life to someone who wants to be in a monogamous relationship with respect to male relationships (no other men, bi can be discussed at some point), and who wants a peaceful and quiet existence in terms of issues and drama. I dont need you to be a financial slave or anything like that, and it should be possible for you to work no more than part time. I also dont spend my days and nights trying to break you down and make you feel bad about yourself. I would rather celebrate your successes.
This is all about compatibility on a number of levels. One thing I do know is that a great sub is a rare thing to find, so one must be sure to provide for her as well.
Always interested in hearing from fascinating people. While I am pretty conservative in terms of my usual day to day activities, I am serious when it comes to the lifestyle and know what I want and what I can do for someone.
Always happy to talk to someone and see what their life is all about and where they want to take it. Never know, our ideas may be similar. |
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There are some things that are more important than others. Interested in someone who wants attention paid to her breasts, no matter how that may be defined, enjoys being restrained and wants to provide oral service. The rest is negotiable, but be assured that I have plenty to provide to the right lady. |
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I always wonder how many women go to sleep at night with an unfulfilled fantasy because they are too shy or afraid to come out of their shell. A fear that once again, "they will be done wrong" just like the last guy. But to get what you need, you sometimes have to take that risk, step outside the lines and actually get out from behind your computer screen.
So take the chance... what do you have to lose? |
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What I would like to find above all, and considering this is still a BDSM website, is someone who has a sense of humor, a positive attitude, is a can do type of person instead of a whiner and complainer, and doesnt operate on the more drama the merrier way of life. Some days I wonder if such people still exist.
So I will continue with my life, laughing a lot, enjoying watching the sun come up every day.
Are you one.... let me know and lets see what life brings in addition to the rope, cuffs and whips. |
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