Let me assure you, I am really into the BDSM lifestyle, I really am a submissive (NOT a slave), and I really understand what the terms and the lifestyle means. ?I'm not here to play games or have some drama.

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I would like to ask that newbies and wannabes please do not contact me unless you are asking for advice about this lifestyle. I would never refuse to help educate a new sub or someone with a legitimate question, but I'm not going to be your practice sub while you learn either.

That said, if you're some wannabe "dom", 21 years old, with no idea what submission means other than it sounds like you'd have fun tying me up, but you've never really done that before, and spanking was good when you did it to your girlfriend once, yeah... please don't bother me. I'm 44 years old. What could you POSSIBLY wish to talk to me about?

Also, if you're 19 years old and female and call yourself a "slave", please don't waste my time. Write a story about your fantasies, but please don't expect me to believe they're anything but that. I'm doubtful you've met a real Dom in your short life. You obviously have no clue what it means when you tell a real Dominant man that you're a slave! If you did, you would see how truly ridiculous you are to even consider saying such a stupid thing.

Also, I realize that you may not like my views or my statements, and that's your right, just like it's mine to make them. Nobody's forcing you to read this. (lol or are they?)
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I am a big woman. I am only 5' tall but you can see from my pictures, I'm definitely not thin. I hear the term BBW used... I guess that's what I am. If you're not down with that, cool. It is what it is for now, and I'm not trying to hide anything. It makes no sense to me to hide behind a computer and show only flattering photos that hide what you really look like. Deal with it, or don't.

I seek the "one". I highly doubt I would find him here also. Please do not think I am a pessimist due to these statements, I consider myself a realist. What I want is a REAL Master, one who knows himself and above all will know how to deal with me. I require one who is on top of his game because I am a very smart woman and probably a domme at heart. I can be difficult and hard to manage. The only thing I love more than to try to take and maintain control is to be beaten at my own game! I find this to be absolutely beautiful and completely intriguing and will show the utmost respect to the few who can actually do it. I live to find people like that!! This attitude extends into my daily life as well. Honestly, these things come into play in almost all areas of living and being beaten at my own game is something I LOVE to find! That's why the one for me will be an experienced Master.

If you haven't noticed, I pretty well say what I feel and I am a very up front person. I'm old and crabby and have no time for bullshit! I love metal music, all kinds, and metal shows. I also love dogs, history, and the arts. I am educated and like intelligent conversation. Have questions or comments or think you'd like to know me? Please do contact me. ;) I'm not here a lot but I do roll through pretty regularly.