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Hetero Male Dominant, 40,  Springfield, Oregon
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This profile is very likely to be tweaked soon, for prose and poetic quality, but for now it is a functional and brief set of words meant to communicate my desires in a pragmatic fashion:) I'm a Dom, and I'm looking for a wonderful person to be my sub. I believe strongly that a Dom/sub partnership is just that: a partnership, and that the best and most satisfying partnerships are reached through deep symbiosis. It may seem strange to hear a Dom say this, but I believe in mutual service; a Dom doesn't just boss his sub around for his amusement. Obviously, within the Dom/sub context these sorts of mutually beneficial things do happen, but I believe it is a sadistic and abusive asshole that believes his sub exists purely for his amusement. I am a teacher by nature, and in any partnership that exists there should be a mutual yearning to learn from and for each other; I just prefer to be the Driver, Guide and Nurturer:) On that score, it should be known that I have a deeply DaddyDom side to me, as well, and deeply enjoy caring for and guiding the learning process of my sub. As I've said, I am very gratified being a teacher and kind, but firm Dom. But I'm definitely not looking for a spoiled brat to "straighten out." I don't want to have to punish anyone into behaving; I'd rather you come to me with a solid willingness to serve and learn, and a deep need to be trained by a Dom in a compassionate, loving, but firm way that we BOTH benefit from. I repeat: NO BRATS. On that score, heed this well: I am not a hateful, abusive Dom; hate and abuse have no place in true bdsm, and a person calling themselves a "Dom," but that doesn't take into account the care and growth of his sub is no Dom at all; people who behave that way are simply abusive assholes that ought to be set adrift on a sinking raft, in my opinion. They do great harm to a great many subs and have no place in the world of true bdsm. I will teach you, Dom you, lead you and guide you with LOVE; there will, of course, be many rules and guidelines you'll have to earnestly follow, but I do not desire a punishment-based partnership. (And I deeply want it to be a PARTNERSHIP, as I've said; your goals and life aspirations will be as important to me as my own, and we'll work toward these together.) Occasionally, of course, there may need to be punishment and/or consequences, but these are not my preferred methods of Domming. Ideally, you would follow me and obey me as my cherished one; you'd strive to receive praise from me for subbing well done. (A brief word on the lighter side of brattiness: If you occasionally want to be bratty in the name of flirting, that's fine, but I don't want Domming you to be a tedious chore; no REAL brats;) I'll train you, I'll love you, I'll protect you, I'll hold you in high esteem for choosing to gift me your freedom and trust, but I'm going to require enthusiastic, humble yielding. I'll demand that you follow my lead, trust me, once I've earned it of course, but ONCE I've earned it, and YOU'VE earned MINE as well, there will be no hemming and hawing; you'll submit with commitment and consistency to the very best of your ability. That's it. Your opinion will be cherished, respected and deeply considered at all times, but I will be the leader of our symbiotic little adventure in life and love. I'm going to need you to be on the petite side because though I'm incredibly strong, I'm going to want to be able to pick you up and cradle you with ease:) I'll also need my subby babygirl to have a strong, built-in desire for fitness; you don't have to be a tri-athlete, but one thing I have little patience for is people that find being and staying fit and healthy to be unpleasant; I want an enthusiastic exercise partner. I may in due course train you to top me as needed, as I will occasionally need to be able to trust my cherished one to top from time to time to help me reach transcendent states and emotional catharsis I cannot otherwise reach alone, so that will be training you'll have to be enthusiastically willing to go through sometime down the road. I want to be clear, I'm not looking for friends with benefits, I'm not looking for someone with whom to share something meaningless and superficial; I'm looking for my perfect puzzle piece, someone who's as compassionate and sweet and optimistic about true love and the making real of dreams as I am; I want you to be my confidante, my partner and my best friend; I just also want to have all this AND have a sweetly satisfying, lifelong, ritual-rich D/s partnership:) That's not too much to ask, is it?:) So, if you can handle and happen to love your life on your own, but think it would be even MORE complete and awesome to have someone like me in your life, someone with whom you can share the awesomeness, drop me a line:) May we ALL find what we're looking for:) With true sincerity, Okin:)











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