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****Updating this******
I WILL NOT RESPOND TO ONE LINERS, OR TO THOSE FROM OTHER COUNTRIES (people have a really hard time with this, all the words are spelled correctly and proper grammar was used, which is why it baffles me that I get so many).
I have been in the lifestyle for 20+ years. I was very active in the Houston community, when I lived there. I currently reside just east of Dallas. If you are not within a reasonable driving distance, or willing to make suitable arrangements, please save us both some time, and don't bother. I am not looking for a part time submissive/slave however, under the proper circumstances, I will consider a part time submissive, with the understanding it is not what I am ultimately looking for. I am not interested in being treated as a pro-domme and given a "do me" list.
I am looking for a male slave/submissive, ultimately for a 24/7 TPE relationship. I thrive on the power and control that is given to me by a slave. I am looking for someone that I can have conversations with, someone that I can have fun with both in the BDSM and vanilla worlds. I am looking for someone that can keep up the appearance of being a vanilla couple in public and with family, while still knowing their place. I am strict with one that I own, and expect obedience (I really hate repeating myself too many times). I do however, like to have fun. I love to laugh, life is just too short not to enjoy it. I have high expectations. I am looking for one that is strong in his every day dealings but gives himself to me, mind, body and spirit. I am looking for someone who understands what it is to be submissive, not just looking for kinky sex. I am looking for the one that gets great joy from serving and catering to my whims (which can be varied), with the only expectations being that of an appreciative mistress, not the expectation of sex (don't get me wrong, sex can be tons of fun).
At times I like to play hard, flogs, whips, canes, clothes pins, cbt, you name it. At other times I want to be pampered, have my dinner cooked for me, and properly served, bring me a drink while I am working etc., do some domestic chores, draw a bath, be ready at the calling to come dry me off, and put lotion on. At other times, I want to use your ass, long and hard, or have you suck my strap on, etc. At all times I expect a relatively high level of protocol.
I am a degreed professional with a solid career. I do not need a money slave, if you have that much extra cash laying around that you can give it away, feel free to give it to Salvation Army, Red Cross or SPCA in my name. On the other hand, I am not looking for a submissive/slave that wants/needs a free ride. If you can't maintain your own finances then please do not contact me.
My interests in BDSM does run the gamut (I started to fill out the check list on the profile, however, I just found it to be a bit tedious, and really did not represent my interests). How much I may or may not enjoy something is dependent on the person I am with, whether I am getting the reaction that I desire, and my mood at the time. I feed off the power exchange.
As far as hard limits, they are what I generally would consider pretty typical: Kids, animals, scat, and you will leave with the same number of appendages as you arrived with. Really you would think this should be common sense, I am not interested in breaking my boy so that he is no longer fun to play with or have around. However I have noticed that, especially on this site, common sense seems to be lacking.
Then there are what I call "soft limits" things that under the right circumstances I might do, but are highly unlikely:
*sissification (I like my males to look and act like males, no offense to the sissies, just not my thing) though putting a male in panties under his regular clothes has been known to happen
*not much into cuckolding, I tend to be monogomous with the one.
Then there is watersports. More likely to occur than the above listed, but really just not my thing. I will do them when the mood strikes me, but if that is one of those things you want done, don't count on it with me.
Now the tough part for some of you. I if I am not interested in an activity don't try to convince me to do it. I hate when a sub tops from the bottom. Doesn't mean you can't make suggestions, and we can discuss them. But you need to know where the line is between making suggestions and topping from the bottom.
I enjoy the S&M aspects, though the priority needs to be on the D/s aspects, the TPE.
I really do enjoy playing hard at times, however that is hard to do every single night, so it is important that the D/s aspects are solid, and protocols are kept up.
What I enjoy most is the power exchange. I can be quite the sadist with the right submissive, my experience has been that the true hard core masochist are not the best slaves, their goal is to be beaten, tortured etc, not serve. I would much rather have a slave that will on occassion take a paddling from me because it is what I want to do, as opposed to someone in which that is their goal.
I am D&D free and expect you to be as well.
Contact me if you have questions.
Do not bother to apply if you have pet allergies, the pets have priority, they were here first
You must be/willing to be or able to be trained to be a Dallas Cowboy fan (ok..I will settle for pretending to be, and not antagonizing me when I am watching or they lose).
I am NOT looking for an email/cyber relationship If you are married or involved in other relationships please do not waste either of our time with pleas to serve.
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Really, I thought this was the 21st century.....
I had changed my cable/internet service a couple of months ago. Yesterday, I received a call from a marketing group that was trying to determine why people were leaving their company for another. The conversation went like this:
idiot: Hi my name is nnnnn, I am calling in behalf of (company) to determine why you discontinued services. Is there a male in the house?
some baffled silence
Me: What did you say the purpose of the call was again?
Idiot: to determine why you discontinued services with (company)
Me: and you have to talk to a male why? Aren't women allowed to make choices?
Idiot: We have filled our quoato of women for the day.
Me: I thought this was the 21st century and you just needed to talk to the person responsible for making the decision.
some stammering on his part
Idiot: Well, can I talk to you?
Me: Nope you just told me my opinion didn't matter, now you know why I left.
Really, in this day and time, asking to speak to the man of the house? Perhaps I should have referred him to this profile... |
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Well, ithas been a while, since I posted on here. Other than weather (Dallas should not have 6 snow days) it was a quiet winter/spring, now moving into the long lazy (and hot) days of summer. Haven't really done anything scene related since before Christmas. I am still looking for that special sub/slave to really pique my interest....Yes, I know, I can be hard to please, and picky, but dang it that is my perrogative.
More later when I feel like writing something more introspective |
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WoW, it has been awhile since I posted here.
The holidays are getting busy, I still have shopping to finish. At least the Cowboys are finishing on a positive note, and here's to hoping that Jason Garrett gets the position full time next year. It is amazing how far a little discipline will take you. 
I had to put down my 17 year old dog a couple of weeks ago. That was tough for me, she was the most loyal and loving dog ever. I have had dogs throughout my life, but this one and I had a very strong and deep bond. She found the kittens and made me go look (one of them was stuck and would have died if not found). She was the sweetest dog and protected and loved me with every bone in her body. For those that understand pack mentalities, she was, at least with me an Omega, she never challenged me for the Alpha position, yet she would die trying to protect the rest of the pack, including the cats. Now when she was at her brothers house (a friend of mine had her brother and another dog, she would stay with them when I was out of town etc) she was the Alpha. She wasn't a true Beta with me, because a Beta will challenge for the Alpha position on occassion.
Now if I could only find a submissive/slave with some of those same traits
Happy Holidays, here's to all of you boys finding switches in your stockings   |
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Woot..Beyond Vanilla September 24-26. BV is always a good time.
I would love to get involved in the local BDSM community around here, but really middle of the week meetings are tough. So, I will settle for going to the big events and having some fun. |
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I think my problem with the game players is that I just don't understand how people fall for some of the BS. One of my biggest pet peeves is to be treated like I am stupid...
I received an email from someone on another site, though he was also on this site (saying his name would be useless since both accounts have vanished). The first email sent up a few red flags, though it could have also been naiveity. He had stated that upon first meeting, if all was good he would get on the phone and make arrangements to deposit his paychecks into my account. Really? on first meeting? Of course the only way for him to do such would be for me to give him MY banking information, which of course I was not about to do.
His first email also stated that he was planning on going to Galveston the following week for vacation (he was not from the Dallas area, so this would put him driving through Dallas to meet). Though he was not from Dallas, he stated he had a job where relocation is very easy. So, I gave him basic instructions to make arrangements to meet. The next time we talked suddenly the trip was being planned to meet me and going to Galveston was an afterthought. Then the last time we talked, he wasn't planning on going to Galveston at all, just coming down to meet with me. The last time we talked I sort of outlined how I would expect things to progress.
Now for those of you that have read my entire profile, you are aware that I am not looking to financially control my sub/slave (though if that is something that my sub/slave needs to give up control as a part of a TPE relationship, at the right time, like when he I collar him as mine and he is moving in arrangements could be worked out). So once I laid out my expectations, and at what point and how I would control his finances (at no point was he getting my banking information, and it was going to be at least 6 months), he suddenly had second thoughts. Now, he did not say anything the night before he was supposed to leave, he waited until the next day, about the time he was supposed to be leaving, and sent me a text about his second thoughts.
There were a few other red flags that made it obvious he was probably scamming, for instance he was so excited about coming down, but yet the entire time we were on the phone and for hour on end he would be on the other site's personal section (the other site tells you what people are doing on their site ---personals, communications, just online etc--), when I jokingly asked him about it, he said it would be rude not to respond to those that had been emailing him (though the number of hits his profile was getting hadn't changed...another neat thing on that site, you can see how many hits you get and how many hits others are getting, how often they log on etc.).
Really, ladies and gentleman, don't be so gulliable, it must work often enough or the scammers would go away and this site and others would not be so full of them. I sometimes think the scammers outnumber the real people 3:1
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Getting tired of all the game playing. More later when I am not still pissed off, and can type coherantly. |
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I AM LOOKING FOR A LOCAL SEAMSTRESS....I need to see about having a sissy outfit made. If you are a seanstress local to Dallas, please contact me. Or if you know someone. |
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So the next question that arises as I read through various profiles and chat with people is "who should make first contact?"
There are arguments on both sides. If your roots are in the leather community then generally the tradition is the sub/slave, from my experience and what I have read, the reasoning is that it keeps a sub from saying yes to something they really are not interested in (some sub/slaves just can't or won't say no to a strong dominant type) so they take that out of the equation.
A second reason for the sub/slave making first approach is that it leaves the final decision in the hands of the dominant, thus the dominant being in control. If I were to ask a sub to come over, and they say no, then ultimately they had control over the encounter, not the other way around.
I hear sub boys all the time say they don't think making a first contact is the sub thing to do. I haven't yet wrapped my head around that thought process yet. I do know, however that with the male dom/fem subs it is not uncommon for the Dominant to make the first contact, more similar to traditional datin.
However if you just make your profile and hope someone looks at it, and contacts you (male or female), you may have a very long wait. So, my suggestion, is if you see a profile that interests you, send them an email, what is the worst that will happen? Say "not interested" or simply ignore it?
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WARNING: VERY LONG POST!!!!!
Topics: differences between older and younger groups and the need for a singles group in Dallas area
I go a month without a journal posting, now today, 2 posts in one day. This one is more thought provoking than the previous one.
I had a conversation with my former submissive earlier this week, that should be discussed. We were discussing the changes in the public communities. He believes that the pop-ups of "young crowd clubs" (groups that have some ambiguous age limit generally 30 or 35) at which you can no longer be a member. Sort of reminds me of Children of the Corn, when you come of age you have to kill yourself. He believes that these groups have caused rifts in the community.
****Group names have been changed to protect the innocent******
When a similar group popped up in Houston when the two of us still lived there. It had some "entertaining" effects. The first result once the "old farts" were banned was that an "old farts club" popped up. He is 6 years younger than myself, which is normally not important, however, it plays a bit of a part
here. He could go to the YCC but could not take me (as I was beyond the age limit by 3 years). So even though he was my collared submissive and we were committed we could not attend a YCC group together. Now, for the OFC, they had absolutely no problem with me bringing him.
I am a firm believer that the rifts go much deeper than just age difference, maybe closer to a "generation gap". There is a cultural difference in the groups. Please keep in mind I am discussing in very broad terms. If I go to a public party, I am more likely going to have issues with someone younger than 35ish touching or being inappropriate with my collared submissive/slave than I am with someone older. I am more likely to see submissives younger than 35ish in a different collar every week than one that is older. I have noticed when I read profiles of others, I see that by far those that are more likely to violate basic rules of protocols are the younger ones on the site: Contacting submissives that clearly state they are owned wanting them to serve, etc.
Generally, those in the older group seem to want more protocols/rules or boundaries. They have higher expectations from not only their significant other (dom/domme/sub/slave/master/owner/ etc) but also from the people around them.
At the same time, I see these same boundaries being crossed by younger people in the vanilla world. I am much more likely to find something missing off my desk was "borrowed" by someone in the younger group than the older (even though we have way more in the older group where I work).
So yes, I believe there are cultural differences between the two groups, but I also see that these differences have been around for a very long time, they are not new or different. They are not the cause of the rifts in the various communities that are out there.
The major issues at the heart of the rifts is that people seem to think that every club should cater to everyone. Too many people think that if they want to attend club x then club x needs to change who they are to fit them, instead of them finding a club that fits them. And now, thanks to the internet, and the work done by thousands to put BDSM on the forefront by hosting large public events there are groups/clubs that will fit just about everyone. People need to find groups they like with people they like, and not worry about the groups they don't fit in with. But my pet peeve is when someone comes to a group saying "but Group y does it this way", yes I will listen it might be something to take into consideration, however, just because group z choses not to do it that way, does not make them wrong, just different, and if the issue is that big of a deal, then it may be time to move on.
I have stated that in the past I was very involved in the BDSM community in Houston.
I was co-founder of a BDSM singles group in Houston, that at the time, was of great success, we met in real life, went on vanilla outings, to give everyone a chance to get to know each other, we would go to fetish/leather events together so no one was alone/uncomfortable/unprotected. Unfortunately, as what happens to so many singles groups, when the founders/organizers became involved, no one stepped up to carry the torch and see it through. If I were more involved in the Dallas area, I would probably take up the torch again, it was great fun.
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South Plains was great fun a couple of weeks ago!!! Met up with several long time friends (see how I did not use the word "old" to describe our friendships), had a great time. Bought a new corsette, that unlike the last one I bought, I cannot put on by myself, it takes a second person to put it on and lace it up. As soon as I get some help there will be new pics up, it is awesome looking!!!!!
This last week I went on vacation to Vegas, again had an awesome time, though did not get to do anything BDSM related!!! However, I managed to severely sprain my ankle (severely = worse sprain my doc claims he has seen). A good foot slave to help take care of it certainly would be nice about now.
Ok...so that about gets everyone up to date on what is going on with me, otherwise this sites seems to be same ole same ole... |
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So, I just registered for Southplains Leatherfest. I have some friends coming up from Houston, so should be tons of fun, at least catching up with old friends. Southplains is usually an awesome event, the vendor area itself is worth the trip if nothing else.
Anyone else planning on going? |
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I refrained last week from posting anything aoubt the cowboys for fear of jinxing them, perhaps I should have. Oh well, better luck next year...hopefully they find a place kicker between now and August.
Now off to do the chores that need to be done by a good sub/slave, though at the same time right now, I could go for about an hour long foot massage as well.....just one of those nights. |
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It is late and I am tired, however there are a few things that have occurred in the last couple of weeks that must be chatted about.
First: Guys please don't overstate your experience. I met with a sub last week who claimed to have quite a bit of experience. When he had an anxioty attack (after 10 mins while uncorking a bottle of wine to go with the dinner he begged to come cook for me) it was quite obvious he didn't have the experience he claimed to have. I am perfectly happy to work with newbies, or those with limited experience, just be honest about it, it will work out better for both of us!!!!!
Second: As I read through some of the male sub profiles I am noticing a large number of them almost demanding "this is what I want done on our first meeting". I am good with discussing what you want and seek in a BDSM realtionship, just be careful that how you are wording it does not come across as you demanding what happens. One of my favorites has the submissive in stating what he is looking for in a domme, make statements such as "she must........." Again I am all good with letting prospective dommes know what you are looking for, however, the topping from the bottom tone (and some of them just come out as "I am in control" statements) is not going to assist in your search.
Be safe in the winter weather that is approaching various areas of the country.
For those that are used to my Cowboy comments....YES, now if we can get a first week bye, or at least a win in the post season life will be grand |
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Hmmmmmm...awesome day with a boytoy. I am starting to wonder, after today, where Santa will put me on his list....I was definately naughty....and probably deserve the switches and coal (to be used on some unspsecting boy), or perhaps Santa is trying to figure out a way to spend extra time at my house with said switches......at any rate, if I don't post again this week, Happy Holidays, be safe. |
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Thanks to all those who have asked...yes, I am doing much better, almost 100%.
I violated one of my cardinal rules...I went to the local pet store Saturday (saturdays is when one of the rescue groups is out), so now I have a new white German Shepherd puppy, I hate puppy training, smart dog....but I forget how destructive a puppy can be, just being a puppy (my older dog is 16 it has been a while since I have done puppy training).
Holidays are going to be hectic...just trying to get through this last week before vacation starts.
If I don't get to it ....Have a happy and safe holdiay season |
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Well, as of this afternoon, I still have the crud in my lungs, now for the debate as to whether or not I need to go back to the hospital...my answer is not just "no" but "hell no" and I will bring out my bull whip to the next person that says I need to go in. Though I think that may convince my doc to put me in 
I am finally mostly caught up at work from the last week that I missed. I really don't want to miss more at the moment.
The Cowbooys are winning (please notice I did not say they were looking good, well the defense looks pretty good, offense is doing enough...Romo, still looks iffy).
Other than that, that is about it...holidays are just around the corner, and I need a human Christmas tree..........
I also need a slave/submissive that can read a profile and not start a conversation with "so, what are you looking for? are you looking for full time?" sicne my profile is pretty explicit with what I am looking for in terms of a slave/sub. Is it really too much to ask? Perhaps that is my problem, I expect my potential slave to be smarter than your average bear.....
Ok..well I need to go sleep (gotta love the cough syrup with codine in it).
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I apologize to those that have emailed me that I have not gotten back with in the last couple of weeks, I have been out with pneumonia, was in the hospital for several days (I hate hospitals, I am not a good patient). I am trying to get back to those emails...just takes time. |
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Well, the summer is going to come to an end, and it has been one thing after another the entire summer. Computer issues, then I had an abssessed tooth, and had some semi-major dental surgery, then the dog got sick (the most loyal and faithful animal ever, I have had her 15 years, since she was 5 weeks old).
I have also been sort of going through a "this site is starting to annoy me" phase. I am really tired of making plans to meet with someone then they not show up or call. I am really tired of people who obviously have not read the profile contact me asking if I want to "abuse them online"...I just don't get that. I am really tired of those that find something in my profile they don't like, be it what I enjoy, or don't enjoy, or my pic and find it necessary to send some stupid email (didn't their mother's teach them the ole saying "if you can't say something nice don't say anything"?) Really what is the point in such comments? Does it make them feel superior? I just delete them, just an annoyance.
I know there is a perfect slave out there, and unfortunately for him, it is possible he may get lost in the BS.
Ok...enough venting for one day
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How NOT to Impress a Perspective Mistress/Owner/Domme
Ok, in the last couple of weeks I have had several emails that make me want to bash someone's head against a the wall.
Take for instance the following quote:
how was your weekend and morning for you hope going very well for you
does that make sense to anyone? Now it would be one thing if that was the only error, however, the entire email read that way. For the most part I have no idea what he was asking or saying.
Second example from a second source:
i hope You share an interest Ma'am. best of luck to You in Yoru search
Share an interest? in what and with whom? The second part of that indicates that he really was not interested, or not expecting me to be interested, since he is wishing me luck in my search.
Now please don't get me wrong, Emails don't have to be perfect, heaven knows I have written statements, that I am sure whoever was reading was wondering what I was drinking at the time, however, it is usually the occassional sentence, not then entire email.
So for those of you that send such emails to perspective Owners/Mistresses/Dommes, and can't figure out why you aren't getting repsonses back, take a second re-read your email, and see if it makes sense. If spelling and grammar just aren't your thing, then type it first in a word processor, spell/grammar check it, then copy and paste it into an email.
Now here is a warning on the copy and pasting into an email: Make sure when you send an email to a perspective owner you include something in there that indicates that you did read her profile, and that you do share the same interests, refrain from sending a blanket email. Make it personal, tell her what part of the profile intrigued you. Please make sure you have read her entire profile, not just saw her picture thought she was hot, and sent her an email. I, personally, get very tired of emails from people that obviously didn't read my profile.
At any rate...Happy Summer!!!!!!!! |
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wow...basically 2 solid weeks without a computer. I will get back to those of you that sent emails in the next couple of days, I was reading them from the cell phone, but I could not respond for some silly reason.
So I wonder if the geek squad enjoyed rummaging through my computer, and my browser history? It may explain the fairly quick turn around on the repair job (the mother board on the lap top was fried, so it was sent out, parts ordered) total time out was 15 days, from what I understand that is fairly quick if they have to ship it out. They did clean it up nicely, not sure what all they did to it..but they fixed a couple of other little things too. It is running much smoother now. |
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There are just days, I want to bang my head against a wall, there are things I just don't get (and yes, I know some of this happens on some of the submissive/slaves on this site as well). First, maybe it is that I run them off, but fortunately I have yet to have anyone try and hit me up for cash, though if they asked, I won't send it, maybe the scammers actually read the profile and figure that out. But to my frustrating point....
Exchange emails with someone for a week or two, maybe even chat on yahoo, perhaps a phone call. Lots of mutual interest both in BDSM and vanilla activities...comments indicating they are serious and see a potential match, statements how awesome it is that we are looking for the same things. Then *POOF* gone, no more contact, no explanation.
Second annoyance that has happened to me a couple of times on here, exchange emails, chat on IM. exchange phone numbers, then never answer the phone when I call or return the call, what the heck was the point of giving me the phone number if there is no intention to answer. With that said, if I give someone my phone number and they choose to block their phone number when they call, I probably won't answer it, I just don't answer "unknown" calls, now if we set up a specific time to call, then I might, though I just don't understand, if I give my phone number, it is rather rude in my opinion to then go and block your number when calling me.
Ok...enough venting for one day
On the plus side vacation starts tomorrow...so life is grand |
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For many today (Memorial Day) is a day to get to gether with friends and family and do the back yard picnics. For many it symbolizes the beginning of the summer season. Many, however, seem to have forgotten what today really is about. This is the day we give thanks, show our appreciation, send out our prayers to those that have paid the ultimate price in service to our country and to their families.
You do not need to agree with the politics behind the war, police action or whatever other name our goverment may have given to the event, but the troops deserve our support and respect.
So from the bottom of my heart, a big thank you to those of you that are currently serving in the armed forces, and to those that have paid the ultimate price, my deepest gratitudes. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and your families.
THANK YOU |
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Yes, it has been a while. This is my busiest time of year at work. So for those that look here regularly, excuse my less than weekly publications here.
I am looking to plan a fun-filled vacation soon, I would really like to get some fishing done. I love being on the water, now to decide if I want to do some off shore fishing or freshwater fishing, I love doing both.
Now to more of the D/s or searching issue. I exchange lots of emails with lots of great people, however, one of my issues is that I quickly tire of email/chat relationships. I really have little patience for non-real time. I can usually go about 2 weeks with the email/chatting relationships before I am done with them, on a few occassions I have gone longer, but there were usually some sort of extinuating circumstances. But really, I would think that it would be possible to have at least made a phone call by the 2 week mark, and be planning a real time meet.
So how long will most of you go with strictly a cyber relationship (yes, I know there are many that is all they are looking for)?
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HAPPY EARTH DAY
This is the day we get to celebrate the Earth and all we get from it. Unfortunately we as humans, spend to much time getting from Mother Earth that we fail to give back to her. This one day helps many focus on the one sided relationship with have with our planet, in a hopes that at least some will be more conscious of what and how much they are taking.
Some quick thoughts on how to help replinish:
Reuse/recycle most all cities and towns you can at the very least recycle #1 and #2 plastics, aluminum, and paper. Most larger cities you can recycle a whole lot more, check with your city on what can be recycled, if your city does not have curbside recycling, petition to get it done, many cities are saving or even making money off the seperated recyclables.
Combine trips
CFLs: CFLs have come a long way in the last 5 years, the new ones no longer have a warm up period, check your area about disposal.
As mentioned in an earlier journal entry, one of my favorite things is organic, sustainably grown, carbon neutral coffee. Send me a note if you want the website, the coffee is awesome (and I am picky about my coffee)
When it comes to TVs etc, turn your power off at the power strip. I have even seen powerstrips that shut off the power based on the time, so you can program it to not be drawing power at certain times of day.
Change your air filters in your AC and heating units. dirty filters make your units work harder and use more power.
at any rate if you have some other tips let me know...
have a great earth day |
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Sometimes I just don't get it. I scan through profiles one day, the next day some sub/slave has on their profile "under consideration" and then the following day sometimes as long as 2 whole days they state they are "owned". Really guys think about it, in a vanilla relationship would you go from "dating someone" to married in 2 days? I would say for the vast majority of people the answer is NO to that. It seems to me that some of this fly-by-night ownership is taking the real meaning out of what it means to be owned and to be collared. It is not something to be taken lightly. I understand the "under consideration" part, to me that is pretty much the BDSM equivallent of dating, it is how quickly the "owned" comes afterwards that makes my jaw drop and shake my head.
I also don't understand the whole webcam slave bit, sorry guys, that just does not do it for me, if you can't serve me, bring me tea, give a back massage, I really am not interested in watching you perform CBT on yourself, or jack off.
Ok...enough of that...I was just baffled
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Ok, so there are just some things people should NOT be using this site for. I think even the annoying trollers, and those that are looking to scam you out of a few bucks are more well suited than the email I just received on here. Now, I must preface this with saying I have very strong religious convictions, but I am not going to force them down your throat, however, the email I just received did just that, evangilism has a place, and I just don't think CollarMe is it. I am sure many of y'all probably received a similar emails, since I am sure his only point had to do with the Easter weekend, since his email said nothing of the "evils of BDSM" that so many right wingers believe is the sole purpose.
At any rate, Happy Easter or Passover, and if your religion does not have an observence at this time, enjoy the chocolate covered bunny rabbits |
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So it has been a couple of weeks since my last rant...so time for another one or two....
I like playing outside, I like sending a sub/slave out in the back yard naked to do some chore, I like being able to sit outside on a nice spring day and have a slave/sub bring me tea wearing nothing more than a collar and cuffs...now that is all gone...my next door neighbor just built his daughter a tree house, he could not have possibly considered putting it on the other side of his yard, next to the house that is vacant, or heaven forbid in the center of the yard so she couldn't see into anyone's back yard (mind you it is not really in a tree....it is just one of those multilevel play areas). So much for my privacy
So, I have decided at least during the summer, I am going to have to get out in the local groups some.....if you are from the D/FW area and know a group email me the days and times they meet (I am really looking more in the Dallas area). I really have tried to get out, however, the meeting times of a couple of the groups just really makes it hard if you don't live close (I am about 20 miles out of Dallas, trying to make a 7:00ish meeting when I don't even get home until 6:00 is almost impossible)...So, I am going to try during the summer when things aren't quite so hectic workwise...let me know if you have info on anything good going down.
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It has been a busy couple of weeks. I FINALLY got my floors redone (which meant no real internet access while everything was "rearranged", they were ordered 6 months ago. I got rid of the nasty builders' cheap beige carpet (beige carpet should be outlawed) and put in hardwoods in the living room and office. So the sadist in me has enjoyed watching the cats learn what they can and can't do with no traction on the new floors.
I will post more later, just thought I would drop a couple of lines..much more later
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Well, it just really sucks to have a week off from work, and to spend it sick with a cold. I did manage to get out a couple of days and do my part to help jumpstart the economy.
So I was correct in an earlier journal entry about that stupid new tv show "1000 ways to die" an alternate name would be "Darwin Awards" however, I suspect that was taken. Last night they ran several episodes back to back (300 tv stations and there was nothing on...how did we manage when we just had 5 stations?). One of the deaths, however, was very pertinent to BDSM. A male, who had no experience, sees a ProDomme, she puts him in a latex outfit, gags him, ties him down, and starts whipping him. Evidentally the man had a severel latex allergy, went int anophalactic (yeah, I can't spell) shock, and died. When he was convulsing, she mistook it for squirming.
There are a couple of things in this story for those of you that are new to consider (and some of those of you that are not so new to reconsider), especially when playing with someone the first time, and until you get to know them. First, make sure you have a clear out, be it a safe word or gesture (personally I am not a big fan of gags on a first session or until I get to know the body language). Just because someone takes your money does not mean they know what f&^k they are doing. Talk to whoever it is you plan on playing with, make sure they have safety valves in place for those silly little incidents, if you have asthma or allergies or heart conditions, make sure they are aware. I know this sounds silly, but personally, I keep up with my CPR training, and first aid.
Ok...there are other stories that will get attention later...like the woman who died masturbating with a root vegetable.....
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Ok, it has been a couple of weeks since I have written anything here, and lots has happened.
First, TO has gone to other pasteurs, I really feel for the Buffalo fans, but at least that cancer in the clubhouse is gone for the opening of "Jerry World".
Vacation is this week, I love being on vacation, now if I could just find something fun to do....I am sure I will think of something. I finally got some new falls and crackers in for my bullwhip....
Ok, since I am on vacation this week, I will do more here in the next couple of days |
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So far the fallout from over a week ago has nto been as deep as it may be. There have been a few really awesome things come from it <woot to my employer paying for good chunk of my masters program>.
Now to the BDSM world. I still don't understand the one liners. I really though I made it quite clear that I am not going to respond to one liners. Being the dominant woman that I am, I don't respond well to one liners instructing me to do something. For instance "call me 123-456-7890" Now, I don't know about others, but when the profile is mostly blank, andI get one line instructions, I hit the delete button.
Gentleman, if you are sincere, please send more than one lines, tell me (and other mistresses you are contacting) something about yourself. If you are not getting replies, toyour mails then take the time to write something that will get my attention. Does not have to be lengthy, but a good introduction. And PLEASE DO NOT send what appears to be a blanet email that you send to dozens of women per day.
have an awesome day
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So today had to be in the top 5 of all time worst days ever. Why is it that when one thing goes wrong, everything seems to fall apart at the same time? Why can't these big things fall apart on seperate days? That's all I am asking, is that it does not have to all happen on one day.
Last week we thought things were going to fall apart on one event (no, I am not saying what exactly I am talking about, it is work related, so the exact details aren't needed here), we got them all put back together, all was grand, only for two people to back out at the VERY LAST MINUTE, now I am not sure that we are going to be able to complete the task. Then while trying to correct that task, something else falls madly apart.
I need a vacation....or something |
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Now dang it, I thought the Cards had it, my bird learned a few new colorful phrases during the last 5 mins of the game. It turned out ot be a better game than many expected, however, I was incrediblely disappointed in the commercials, there just were not up to the usual superbowl standards. The three D commercials were horrible, and other than the bud clydesdale commercials, there was nothing really good. Ok, well I sort of like the Macgyver take off, only because it had Richard Dean Anderson in it. I know several have probably already checked out the GoDaddy website to see "the rest of the commercial" what a stupid gimmick.
Ok so what was your favorite commercial or least favorite? |
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I love reading sub's journals and they complain and whine about how rude it is that no one ever replies to them. Well, here is my list of things that will make me NOT respond to someone
1. One liners even worse, one worders (i.e. "hi")
2. anything that makes it obvious that they have not read my profile (ie out of country, live far (anything that is hard to do in 5 hours or more without stating how you may overcome said distance issue).
3. anything along the lines of "hi baby", I have received, Hi and hello, and a couple of other terms of endearment that I would prefer to wash their mouths out with soap for
4. Something that says "I want to be your slave" then I look at the profile, and it is male dom profile, looking for a female submissive...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, some are sooooooo funny
5. "I want to explore my fetishes" my response to that if I bother, is to go find a pro
I will edit this one as more of these come up. So guys, think about it for a minute, first was your email appropriate to the person you were mailing, if so,, and they did not reply, there are a couple of reasons for the slight, they were really busy, and they let it slip through (gee, yeah I sometimes will read an email intend on replying later, and then get sidetracked, and it then get buried, and I forget about it), it was a pro or someone else that really just wants your hard earned $$$$$.
So please consider that many that don't respond to you, you are probably better off that they did not respond. If you think it was an oversight, send a polite message a second time, if they still don't respond consider the above, you are probably better off. I don't really see not responding as rude on here, not with the number of fake profiles that I have seen.
So there is my advice, don't worry about no responses, take it for what it is worth, and move on already. The subby whining is really unbecoming. |
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Ok, to all of those that were asking me if I were smoking when I made my picks for this weekend, all I can say is "hahahahahl...I nailed it". So now my superbowl pick is going to be Arizona
more later |
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Completely new topic. How many of you are aware of your carbon footprint? Ok..so how many of you even know what it is? Yes to some degree it is an overused term. Fortunately, BDSM is pretty eco friendly, the most ecologically damagaging thing we do is in the tanning of our leathers.
I am by far not an ecological extremeist, however, there are a few things that I do that shows my green. I have changed out all my light bulbs to CFLs. I have all energy star appliances, and my new thing is buying sustainably grown coffee, that is organic and shade grown. I don't remember if I can mention names here, but it is an online site, and their coffee is awesome (they won't roast your beans until you order it, so by the time you get them they are super fresh, only way to get them fresher is to roast them yourself), so email me and I will tell you the link.
Yes of course I recycle, though around here, there isn't as much recycling as I would like to get done.
Let me know what you do to be or pretend to be environmentally savy |
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Wow!!! Talk about upset weekend in the playoffs. Philly beats NY awesome, that makes me feel a little better about the ass whipping the Eagles gave the Cowboys a couple of weeks ago. AND Tennessee lost, so much for the favorites making it to the the Superbowl.
I am going to have to say Steelers and Arizona in the Superbowl, with Steelers taking it. Yeah, I only picked Arizona because I really hate Philly.
Yeah, my journal will get back to BDSM one of these days, right now, just gotta journal things I am finding interesting.......... |
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Ok..this is just a rant and has nothing to do with BDSM, unless you like having stores treat you like garbage.
I went to a pet store to get an aquarium (I want an 80gallon system), so I know I am looking to spend about $600-800 for the system. yet, no one seems to want to help. I went to two different stores (same company) and was basically ignored at both. In one store the the three people working in the aquarium section didn't even bother to ask if they could help with anything, the other store, they just told me I couldn't do what I wanted (they had a system I liked if I could have changed out the stand), but then did not bother to try and help me set up a system that I want. I am more than willing to pay the difference. It is not like I am trying to get something for nothing, I would have been fine with paying full price for putting the system I want together (the deal on the system I was looking at wasn't that great)
I hate poor customer service. You would think in this economy when sales are scarce that customer service would improve.
Ok..enough..I just needed to vent |
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Happy New Year to everyone!!!!! Yes, with the Holidays I was a little lax on my journal entries, however, based on responses it seems that I was correct, most would prefer the coal and switches to the oranges and nuts. I am still trying to forget the pitiful excuse of a football game we saw last Sunday (so one of the reasons I have not posted, is once I post about the game, it is real, I keep hoping to wake up to discover that game was just a bad dream).
So, I keep seeing this commercial for a new TV show called 1000 ways to die, and in it it has some guy dressed in latex laying on a spanking bench getting spanked. I usually hate stupid "reality" shows (yes, they say this is a reality show) but this one may be just what I need for some fresh new ideas on how to torture,,,,errr...I mean train a good slave, the electric shocks to the ear lobes looked hysterical. Once this show starts, it may be regular fodder here.
Other than that it has been quiet on the home front, no willing human christmas trees this year, which just sucks, my favorite holiday fun didn't happen.
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Ok..holiday thought for the week. If Santa brings coal and switches to the bad little boys and girls, and oranges and nuts to the good boys and girls, I am missing the encourangement to be good.......... |
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Ok, after a pitiful excuse of a football game last week the 'Boys have regrouped and beat those pesky Giants.
Ok more journal later |
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ok..based on a couple of email conversations (I am so glad people are actually reading, not only my profile, but my journal entries as well), I have decided what my next couple of journal entries will be. I always assume that everyone on here, has been around a bit, or have searched the web way too much. I take for granted that there are some true newbies on here, that are unfamiliar with some of the terminonlogy. So my next couple of entries will have to do with terminology
oh yeah, maybe if I embedd this in here it won't be so annoying, I think I need to take my bullwhip to the 'Boy's locker room after that pathetic loss Sunday.
Ok...so now for the term of the week (btw, if you have any terms you want to ask about in complete anonimity, send me a mail, and I will define it here (and send you a private response).
TPE (total power exchange). Generally used when discussing Owne/slave relationships. It means that the slave will give up contorl to his mistress, she will get to make all the decisions, unless she decides to have him make one.
Now here is my warning, and I am sure I will get some hate mail on this, but that is what the delete key is for......DO NOT JUMP INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND LET THEM CONTROL YOUR FINANCES. DO NOT GIVE ANYONE COMPLETE CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES. You should always have the ability to leave a relationship for whatever reason, with your retirement, life savings in tact. Yes, I know there are some of you out there that suck at managing your own money. There are ways they can control your spending make sure you take care of bills, without giving them complete control. For instance, I had a slave he put the majority of his paycheck in a savings account that only he had access to, an agreed upon amount was put in a joint account for bills etc (he had a debit card for the joint account for emergencies only), he was on a budget, at the beginning of the week, he would get an allowance. I had my own account with my funds in that he could not touch. However, in case of emergency he could also draw from his savings account by going to the bank. I would keep track of the funds in his savings account, but I could not access it (yes he was reprimanded if he took funds from his savings).
But I have seen too many people lose their life savings, their retirement accounts (as though the stock market isn't currently raping those enough) etc., because some dom (males and females) thought they should have complete control. Think long and hard before giving up your lifetime security, giving up your right to have an orgasm is one thing, giving up your right to financial security is completely different.
Ok...that should be my longest yet, yes I am long winded...have a great week everyone |
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Another long week.....the next couple are going to be very long. And I really hate the long nights.
So, my latest annoyance, are the subs that contact, you spend a week getting to know them, decide to have lunch, or dinner, then they never show up, or follow through. What is the problem here? Is it really that hard to keep up with dates and times? It is not going to increase your odds of getting a beating on the first meeting. It may, however, increase your odds of never experiencing the ecstasy of submitting to me.
Now, back to the fun part of my journal entries. BDSM in popculture. I have discussed TV, music, and movies, this bright and cheery afternoon, I want to mention video games. I discovered that one of the kinkiest groups of people are gamers. I have been playing WoW since original release day (currently I am on a hiattis, just got burned out, and time has been an issue, those that play know the time committment it requires), however, not only are the players kinky, but man the game has BDSM pretty well entrenced in it. From the Mistress's of the night in the ZA instance, to my favorite weapon of all time "Staff of Dominance". I love the little succubusses that would run around cracking their whips and moaning. What other games etc have you played with some heavy BDSM underlying themes? |
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Thanks to those that enjoy responding to my journal, yeah I know it is not deep and introspecitive, but that's ok, it is fun, and that is equally important
And the 'Boys win another one. Something to be thankful for, that and the fact that I am NOT a Lions fan. Talk about being a sports masochist, poor Lions fans.
So in my last Journal posting, I discussed BDSM in mainstream TV. Seems like the current winner of TV handling the subject well, is CSI: Las Vegas.
So now for movies, in the last several years there have been lots of movies that have delved into the topic. Some just scratched the surface, some went deeper. Some were comedies, some were very dark who dunnits.
You can't tell me that Michelle Pfifer's (yeah I know I butchered that spelling, but I am being lazy and not looking it up) Cat woman wasn't a little bit kinky, I think that is about when I decided I was going to learn to use a bullwhip.
Other relatively current (which means my lifetime) movies that I enjoyed. My favorite is probably "The Secretary" yeah it would have been better with a female boss and male submissive, but oh well, it handled the topic well. I am probably one of a dozen people that enjoyed "Exit to Eden" yes I know it was far from the book, but it took the topic and put it in a lighter topic for the mainstream, but did not make BDSM look like only bad evil sick people are into it. "Little shop of Horrors" (play and movie) has some pretty heavy BDSM undertones, that are hysterical, gotta love the dentist
The next two are those that I think are great movies though they tend to put BDSM is being evil/bad and only deviants partake. These two are: Nicholas Cage's 8mm, and John Travolta in "General's Daughter"
So what are your favorite BDSM movies?
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So has anyone else noticed that my journal entires get longer and longer?
Another tic in the win column for the 'Boys so all is mostly right in the world.
So new topic (yes I know I could be posting these in the forums, but I much prefer this, much more intimate): Do you think that BDSM is becoming maistream? We see it in all sorts of pop culture. This Journal entry is going to concentrate on TV, I will do movie discussion next time. You can go back to the '80s with "Night Court" Dan Fielding was definately a kinky boy, there were some undertones with Hotlips in MASH. SUV touches upon it on a regular basis, but it always comes off as BDSM is bad, CSI from what I understand has handled it better. So you tell me, what are some TV shows that have delved into BDSM, which ones did you like, and which ones made you say "do they even know what the hell they are talking about?"
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So again awesome responses to the music question!!!! now I need to step away from the music questions and comments for a sec and discuss a few of my pet peeves with this site, and really any of the online BDSM meeting sites.
First: your profile is just that YOUR profile, it really should tell someone a little bit about who you are, and if you don't want to do that, I understand, however, that means you REALLY NEED to send a note of introduction, not just something that says "Hi, want to meet?" because the answer to that is I have no idea, I know NOTHING about you or if we have similar interest. Do not expect me to say "yes, let me hop in my car and head right on over!!" or "here's my address when can you be here?"
Second: I understand being new, we were all new at one point (and for me that was before many of you were born). However, at least have some idea of what you want, what areas do you want to explore first, what is speaking to you so deeply you must answer it. Introductions that go "Hi mistress, would you teach me" generally get responses like "teach you what? Math? Biology? Quantum physics?" similarly change teach to train, and I will offer to train you to sit, beg, play dead, roll over (yes I know you puppy types have your tails a wagging at that one). You really should have some sort of starting point, what are your fantasies? Cleaning my floor? anal play? bondage?
Third: And I thought I had made this very clear in my profile, but it is not JUST about SEX, though yes, sex is a heck of a lot of fun, my desires are TPE, which means we get to do it when I want to how I want to and as often as I want to. It does not mean that if we meet, and I choose to spank you or play a bit, that you are going to get off, in any form. If you are just looking for kinky sex, please keep reading other profiles, there are plenty out there that that is all they want.
Fourth: "NOT INTERESTED" means leave me alone, for whatever reason I am not interested, doesn't mean I am a fake, does not mean you are a fake, it just means I am not interested. It does not mean if you bug me enough I will change my mind, it does not mean I will change my name because you changed your CM screen name, it means LEAVE ME ALONE
ok...enough of this rant, next topic coming soon. |
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So based on my previous entry, many responses have more issues with my Cowboy Fanaticism than my occassional showtune obsession. I finally got music uploaded to my laptop, which of course, brings about a whole new topic. Much of what I uploaded, I originally owned on albums, yes vinyl (yes, I am dating myself to some degree) yet, I still love to listen to those songs, because they speak to me on many different levels. So todays topic is going to be the one musical artist whose songs spoke to me at such a deep level that he shaped much of who I am (well, outside of bdsm). I don't think until this weekend when I was uploading his CD's did I realize just how much one artist influenced who I am.
Much as being a Cowboy fan (and they won yesterday with Romo back) cannot be a hardlimit for my future slave/submissive, he must also be able to appreciate the music of John Denver. Calypso and Jaques Cousteau were very much of why I chose certain career paths.
Ok so John Cougar Mellencamp and "hurt so good" helped influence my outlook on BDSM but that is a different topic all together.
So those that are interested, is there a song/artist that influenced you ? |
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So tonight was one of those nights, where any submissive/slave that might be serving me should have ear plugs. I managed to get showtunes stuck in my head and couldn't get rid of them. I decided, I might as well just sing the songs, instead of sing/hum the parts I don't know, and started looking up the tunes. the following lyrics are from Andrew Lloyd Webber's Phantom of the Opera, I think they are relevant here:
Close your eyes -
Start a journey through a strange new world
Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before
Close your eyes -
And let music set you free.
Only then can you belong to me
Floating, falling, Sweet Intoxication
Touch me, trust me, savor each Sensation
Let the dream begin, Let your darker side give in
To the Power of the music that I write,
The Power of the Music of the Night!
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Some observations I have made in my very short time on this site so far.
1. Just because I choose to meet with you does not mean you should expect anything more than a meeting. (I find it amusing that even when there is obviously no connection some still expect that I am going to take them home and beat them, use the strap on..or whatever)
2. Just because there is no connection, or I am not interested does not make anyone a fake.
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