Its like a needle in a haystack. There are so many, but only one will do.

I've met the sweetest man on this forum. Very well mannered, educated, interesting, focused. This is quite rare on a site like this.

I feel very happy that I found a needle on a haystack. Lord knows I had to get through enough weeds to find someone I could converse with on an adult level.

I am reading this great book called Kushiels Dart, and have found it quite interesting and have decided my newest mantra is 'love as thou wilt'
I am wilting as we speak..lol. I love this book, it is so well written. I would like to live in a world such as this. So aristocratic and full of intrigue.
I imagine we all want to escape our hum drum lives, and many use the internet as a sort of vacation from everyday life. Its when we begin to believe that this is real life that we get lost.
I have a life, albeit, its not as exciting as the one portrayed in books. I work, eat, sleep, yearn, rinse than repeat...lol.
I was in a chatroom, not really participating, and I was watching a Dom explain how he believed a 'Master' should behave, and how one does not. He had such an idealistic view of D/s I believe that he didn't have a clue the reality of a relationship.
We all want the romantic 'sweep me off my feet' love affair that never dies or dwindles, but few really know how much work goes into those types of relationships.
I work at my relationship very hard, and try to ensure that he is happy, content, and filled with as much kinky fun as we can squeeze into a day. Sometimes its hours of kinky play, others its a movie with a foot massage.
I guess we all have ideas of what the 'ideal relationship' will be, its when the reality and ideal are so far apart that we become disillusioned....
Good luck everyone and I hope that each of you find the ideal relationship that you seek! Just remember that sometimes no Knight or Mistress in shining latex comes to rescue you!

Communication, a lost art?

I think sometimes as I read the newspapers, which are littered with spelling and grammatical errors, that this world relies too much on Spell check!

I go to chatrooms on occasion and find the screen littlered with 'how r u's' and 'hey asl' and 'rofl' I get whispered alot with 'hey ur so betiful' or some other abbreviated watered down dribble.

Don't get me wrong, I use abbreviations as well as sometimes mispelling words. BUT The difference lies in those that simply use abbreviations because they are too lazy to type the entire word. You is three letters.

I know that people use abbreviations for various reasons, ie. they learned to text thus it spilled over to chat, or whatever. But I want a conversation. I want to conversate with intelligent people and somehow cannot imagine having a conversation consisting with 'hey how r u? oh i'm gr8, what u doing, oh nuttin"

So if you type like that, please please DO NOT CONTACT ME!

This is personal preference, I am not saying that your stupid, or you don't know how to spell. I am saying its slothful! Yeah I said slothful! Go google it haha.

The many myths about the Dominant woman
1. She is always ready to 'play'
2.She wants to own more than one slave/sub
3.She walks around in thigh highs and corsets ALL the time.
4. She is cruel all of the time.

Just a few I was thinking of today. The first one is a myth. Most dominant women put great thought into each and every scene. Its never a fly by the seat of your pants type of thing that she lets you believe it is. Its usually something thats been simmering for some time. For me, I usually think about a specific scene for atleast two weeks before actually implimenting it. Considering I enjoy pony training this is not so unheard of.

The second is another myth. Women are creatures of habit, and more than likely would trade a stable full of so-so slaves for a soul mate/slave. I do not want a stable, I do not long for more than one when I can own one who surpasses all of my desires of him.


The third is actually something I heard a noob say. I laughed because I am a Dominant woman and sorry to disappoint I do not walk around my house in fet wear. This does NOT mean I am not dominant with my slave all of the time. It simply means I am out of my costume because lets face it. I have a job, and if I ever showed up to work in my fet wear I'd be at the very least fired, and at the very most jailed lol

the fourth myth I can only speak for myself. I am sometimes cruel & sadistic, but I am not thus all the time. I do not just own a quivering slave. I own a MAN! (Well when he is not in her girly clothes) I own a human being with feelings and emotions and more importantly a mind of his own! I nurture those things in him since that is the reason he is mine. If I were to be cruel and unjust all of the time I am sure he would not be mine for long.

For me, the perfect D/s relationship, involves a great deal of give and take, on both sides.

My slave is my 'dirt hole' (inside joke)