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| I wanted to take some time and rework my profile. I was bored with what I had. Hopefully it inspires some conversation out of someone and maybe a new friends or two.
What should you know about me from the beginning? Well BDSM is a key part of my identity, for one. That being said, I'm the type of person where just about anything goes. There is very little play I won't do at all. There are some things I don't particularly like, but I will use them as a means to another end if that's what we've discussed. Granted, I'm not going to do anything to put another needlessly in danger, but I long ago accepted every type of play is a calculated risk. Some have minimal risk, some have a bit higher risk. That being said, I will not do any play I do not feel comfortable with or prepared to handle mishaps should they occur.
Being an all around creatively evil bastard is fun and all, but that's mostly the fantasy part. The reality side is where I'm the one who's in control. That's where I live 90% of the time and I willingly -- and eagerly -- accept that responsibility. It's a subject I could discuss at great length (and feel free to ask!) because I've put a lot of time and energy into learning about it and figuring out what works best for me. I would best call myself someone whose end-goal is the notion of ownership, but I don't expect to put a collar on anyone before it's been well-established in the relationship. I do take my relationships very seriously and I'm completely open for intellectual discourse on why I do it the way I do. Just don't expect me to be your Dom unless you show you can actually provide something to my life worth having. :)
If that all sounds reasonable and/or exciting to you, there is much more to be learned about me; all you have to do is tell me about yourself. Just send me a message and I'd be happy to make new friends. :D
-MrE
"Real learning requires the willingness to question the status quo"
"No one is going to love you if you don't love you."
-Jack Rinella
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Strong women make for strong partners. |
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The mindset I want out of my partner, one that I am willing -- and eager -- to put a lot of time and effort into cultivating, is for her to shift her thoughts ever so slightly to think that she's doing everything for me, because I want her to. I want someone who has a job and is happy with working. I want someone who has her own interests, desires, and passions. I also want her to enjoy those things while in the back of her mind know that she gets to enjoy them because I allow her, and that I could put an end to it at any time. Will I ever want to? Highly unlikely. Doesn’t matter. What's important to me is that I have the power to.
That's what gets me amped up. And that kind of mentality would extend to everything from hair, to clothes, to shoes, to piercings or tattoos. I want it all. All the power, all the authority, all of the say in what gets done. I want to own my partner to her core. I want to know that she is there for me, all of the time, to do what she can to make me happy and make my life better. And in return, she gets me, my strength and my determination to build a good life and a good family for myself.
But I don't want someone weak and easy to control. No, I want someone who has something to contribute to my life. I want someone I have to convince that my way is the way for her. I want to have to fight tooth-and-nail for that control. Because when it happens, when my will wins, when she realizes that she's mine and that she lives her life with me, for me, then I will have something I never want to let go, and someone who will never want to leave. That's my ideal. That's my fantasy. That's the theme that has stuck in my head longer than any other fantastical desire. Ever since I was but a child, before I even knew girls had different parts, what’s what I’ve craved.
I'll take the bad days with the good. I can weather any storm and any force. I'll make the decisions I believe to be the best for what is needed in a situation and I will fix my mistakes along the way. And it’ll be a team effort because that’s the only way it’s going to work. I need a girl with her own goals and desires, because then the submission is genuinely worth something. And the number 1 goal: to make me happy and make my life better. |
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It's funny to me that the more I get into science, the more I try to figure out. Like last night, I caught myself trying to picture the process by which alcohol is broken down in the body into CO2 and understand why it's so calorie intensive. :) |
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Do people just assume knife play = blood? I've never drawn blood in any of the dozens of times I've done it. I don't even like blood. Knife play is all about the sensation! |
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http://rh.greydawn.net/browse.php?c=MrE2u |
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I don't get why so many people want to find "Daddy". Why is the whole daddy scenario so prevalent??? |
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I have a new test for people who want to chat with me. Watch: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFD01r6ersw if you find it entertaining then, by all means, message me.
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This is a compilation of things that have been swirling around in my head in need of a place to go. It's a description of my "perfect" slave. I fully admit that there's a good chance I'll never find someone with all of these things, but the only way to find what I want is to know exactly what I seek.
* The most prominent trait for my ideal slave is that she be internally driven to submit and to please me. I don't want to have to force her to obey and do what I ask with every situation. I realize there will always be times where reactance is in affect, but I won't take that as the norm.
* She must have a desire to learn and grow as a person as well as the ability to stimulate me mentally. I crave intellectual discourse and I love to learn and analyze. She doesn't have to be completely left-brained -- I would actually prefer she be a bit more artistic to balance me out -- but she needs to be able to hold her own in a discussion.
* She must be able to act autonomously. Autonomy is a hugely important characteristic to me. Once she understands how I want things down and how I make decisions, I expect her to be able to make decisions as I would when I'm not there to make them. I'm not going to micromanage someone. If I don't like something, it will be redone to my desires -- clothes, makeup, shoes, where the dishes are, how the bedroom is cleaned, etc.
* Good communication skills are paramount to a healthy relationship. My slave needs to be able to tell me when something isn't working or when there is a problem with the relationship so I can fix it. If there's a problem, I want her to bring it to my attention and give me several options on how it can be remedied. I will be making a decisions in 30 seconds of it being brought to my attention.
* She needs to understand that she belongs to me. I see my "perfect" slave like a car project. I'm going to build her up, make the settings I need, program her engine (brain) to behave how I want it to and I'm going to enjoy the hell out of her. She will only be shared under very specific circumstances and anything that goes wrong will be my responsibility -- external accountability on my part, but she will be tweaked and detailed for poor performance by myself and my tools.
* Pride. It's an interesting things. I want her to be proud for the things that she accomplishes and my household, just as I take pride in my work, but she won't be refraining from things that are right out of her "sense of pride." Being too proud to ask for help or to apologize for a mistake only lead to more trouble and stress for all involved.
* She must be able to handle her own problems and life. I don't want a slave who comes to me because she needs to be saved from the real world. She had better be able to stand on her own feet before she kneels at mine. I'm not going to fix her, I'm going to enjoy her.
* Lastly, obedience. My relationship ideals are militaristic in their feel. I'm an officer, she's and enlisted. I make the decisions, she does as she's told. If something can be improved, I expect her to suggest it, but it's my decisions whether or not it's followed through. I don't care if she likes the command, I still expect her to do it. If it's a real problem for her, that's where good communication comes into play. She will not be saying "No, I won't do that..." she will, instead, be saying "Sir, that is something that I am not at this time capable of doing" and give the reason(s) why.
I am in control, I expect her to be able to give up full control. I don't see this is a short-term situation, this would be for a long-term relationship. If we're going to be investing the time into each other it takes to build this kind of relationship, I don't want it to end once things get settled in. I fully expect it to be a life-long endeavor and I want someone to join me on the ride.
-MrE
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