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| I have no interest in submissive men. No you are not the exception.
I joined this site to meet intelligent people despite the odds.
I found out that this site lived down to it's reputation.
Perhaps someone will surprise me.
With a refreshing intelligence.
A side of wicked wittiness.
And actual integrity.
I do not engage in BDSM play or casual sex with strangers.
I absolutely will not help you cheat on your partner.
I am not interested in long distance relationships.
I don't have any interest in cyber or phone sex.
I delete poorly written, "text speak" emails.
Intelligence, wit, and integrity are hot.
I think geeks are especially hot.
Do you know The Doctor?
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I had a rather ridiculous email exchange on this site earlier today. I can't help but wonder why anyone would waste their time sending such inanity. The exchange is below. His name has been changed to protect his stupidity from being known.
*************
From: Too Far w/ Too Much Time on His Hands
Dated: 7/31/12 8:20 PM
People that write things like "get to know me" often do not want or cannot be known...
From: MoreToAdore
Dated: 7/31/12 8:25 PM
What did you hope to accomplish by sending me that?
From: Too Far w/ Too Much Time on His Hands
Dated: 7/31/12 8:26 PM
i achieved it, you read it...
From: MoreToAdore
Dated: 7/31/12 8:28 PM
Well, I guess if you set your goals that low it's easy to achieve them.
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I of course blocked him so as not to be pestered any further by his need to fill his empty hours. Seriously, you'd think an adult would have better things to do with his time. That's what I get for the uncharacteristic behavior on my part of checking my Bulk Mail folder. I have mail control settings for a reason. Note to Self: Pointless prattle from men several hundred miles away should be left in my Bulk Mail folder to never see the light emitting diodes of my screen. Also, ellipsis abuse should be punishable by scrotal hair waxing.
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Been meaning to mention the Kalamazoo munches were a bust. Everyone seems to know everyone else already. Unlike my regular munch group, they don't seem interested in new people and getting to know them. I just don't see getting to know any of them well enough to invite them to our parties. Oh well. I've gotten used to mostly staying away from a couple of people I'd rather not have to see at my regular munch. I'm good at avoiding people in a crowd. All the regulars at my munch know me and greet me enthusiastically. It's pretty awesome to walk in a room full of people and have most of them yell my name and be all happy to see me. I don't know what I did to earn such a great reaction, but I feel pretty damn lucky to get it! Yay life! |
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I get a lot of email about my mask from mask fetishists. The funny thing is, it's just something I bought from a leather worker at a pagan festival. I bought it as "art" along with a much larger piece of the moon in clouds for my wall. When I joined CM, I didn't want clear pictures of my face on my profile, and the mask was a great way to somewhat conceal my identity.
Since then I've bought a couple of feather masks, and made a tissue and feather one as well. I'm still not into masks as a fetish, but I do enjoy them as a hobby. Since others seem to appreciate them so much, I'm considering getting some pictures of me in a few of my favorites. It sounds rather fun to dress up and take pictures. I'll have to find some time to do that. |
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The new year has had a somewhat rough start. One of my dogs passed away and I'm just getting over a really aggressive case of pneumonia. Well, I guess that just means I got the worst stuff out of the way and from here on things should get easier.
Now that I can breathe again and am feeling stronger, I'm really looking forward to seeing my munch friends again. There's a new "Kinky Craft Night" with some of my munch friends. Newlykinked1 is going to teach me to crochet. I'm starting with a nice, simple scarf. Also, I think I might get some of my old crafting stuff out and do that too when I need a break or in between crocheting projects. I could actually return the favor of being taught a craft by teaching a couple to others.
There's another play party coming up in Kzoo the weekend before Valentine's Day. The dress theme is "red". I'm all set! Also, I want to start going to the Kzoo munches. There's a couple of people from the Lansing munch who go, and more importantly, a few people who don't. It's not that much farther away - 10 minutes. Thought I'd just check it out. Hopefully with my partner. Should be fun! I can't wait to be completely better and back out socializing again! |
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Still busy as always. My mom and brother are here for the holidays. It's going to be a little crazy this weekend. My family was supposed to leave tomorrow, but have decided to stay until Friday when my partner and his wife/my husband's girlfriend are supposed to arrive. This could get interesting.
It's also going to be an interesting New Years Eve. The friends who have hosted the party for our group of friends for years moved away last winter. Another friend is hosting this year, but down in Detroit instead of Lansing. Also, my partner's wife/my husband's girlfriend is going to spend NYE with her other boyfriend and girlfriend, so it's just me and the guys. We're also invited to a NYE/play party, so we have to choose which one to attend. My friends who are my chosen family will be at one, and my munch friends will be at the other. There's a little bit of crossover between the two groups, but I still have to choose.
It's a tough choice, but damn I'm lucky to have so many friends who love me! It's so awesome to be me most of the time. (Well, except for the whole degenerating spine thing.) I can't wait to see what the new year brings! Last year brought all kinds of wonderful things, including my life partner/Dom. Who knows what kind of surprises await me in 2012?
I do know a new year means my insurance rolls over, so I can finally get more physical therapy for my back. Once again I'm going to squeeze the absolute most out of it I possibly can! Mmm... I can't wait to use all that state-of-the-art equipment and strengthen my back muscles plus all the rest. I'm hoping I can hold off the next spine surgery for as long as possible. Not to mention it might help me be more active with less pain. I really miss hiking. Maybe if I can get back to that I can take my partner with me on some of the beautiful trails I miss so much. I would really like to share that with him.
A new year, new hopes, new possibilities. I'm ready! |
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Busy, busy, busy! Had my partner and his wife here for Thanksgiving weekend. There was gaming, geekery, and gluttony! It was so nice to be able to spend several days together.
Tonight is the munch! I can't wait to see everyone. There's supposed to be a couple of brand new folks as well as semi-new people returning. I shall continue to corrupt everyone with Cards Against Humanity. Mwa, ha, ha, ha, ha! |
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Went to The Fetish Playroom last night for their "Christmas in November" play party. There were 10 of us from the Lansing munch and we ended up closing the club. We're built to last! lol. I had a great time. I'll definitely be going to their future events. |
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What is it with these Doms who aren't willing to attend a munch to meet?? They contact me, I spend time emailing with them, getting to know them a little, but when it comes down to meeting in person, they always have a reason they can't go to a munch. I don't think it's unreasonable for me to think that me, my peace of mind, and my safety are worth someone making the time to meet me at a nice, safe, public, munch. It makes me very suspicious. It's also a deal-breaker.
In other news, it's my birthday month! I kicked off the celebrating yesterday with a trip to the Ren Fest with my husband and my partner and his wife. We saw some really funny shows and had a really good time. This coming Thursday is another munch, which always feels like a celebration. I haven't made weekend plans yet. I have some ideas though, so we'll see what works out.
I really love autumn. I'm looking forward to some nice, long, drives to enjoy the fall colors. There should be some great parties later in the month closer to my birthday and Halloween. Fun! |
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Wow, it's been a long time since I've written. Life has been busy! Let's see... the transmission in my car died on Valentine's Day. Nice, eh? Happy freakin' Valentine's Day. Everything still went as planned, just delayed by a couple of hours. So here I was, trapped out in the middle of nowhere with no wheels during the day. It worked out fine since I had some serious internal processing to do. My car was repaired last week. The processing is ongoing.
I mentioned in an entry just before xmas that I had met someone on a vanilla dating site who is poly and kinky. We've been seeing each other for over eight months now. As I said before, I met B.'s wife, K. and I really like her. B. met my husband, D. and they get along great. In fact, they get talking so much I've had to jokingly ask if I can have my date back. We've all spent a lot of time together at this point. My husband really hit it off with K. and they have been seeing each other since mid-June. None of us have ever been in this situation before - both spouses seeing the same couple. None of us swing or do the couple swapping thing, it just sort of turned out this way. I really couldn't have hoped for things to go any better. We're all still dating other people, of course. Ah, the joy of being poly and not having to worry about jealousy and possessiveness.
I've been going to the Lansing munches fairly regularly. I missed the last Sunday munch because we were driving back from our yearly camping trip in NY. That was a great time! I got to see my far flung friends who drove/flew in from out-of-state and even one who flew in from Britain! It's always great to spend a week and a half with my friends/community/family catching up on each other's lives. Anyway, the Sunday munch isn't much to miss when it's hot out because the A/C there doesn't work. I like to be kept refrigerated. The Thursday munch tonight should be great though! Life is good! |
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Call me picky, but using "text speak" ("u" instead of "you") in emails and not taking the time to spell check, etc. is a major turn off. I love intelligent men. My attraction to a man is directly proportionate to his intelligence. Obviously there has to be physical chemistry, but all the chemistry in the world is instantly canceled out if someone doesn't have the intellect to back it up.
Also, it sort of says to me the person doesn't feel I'm worth the time to type out a simple three letter word. Yikes. I mean, if you're too lazy to type out three little letters, what other things might you gloss over instead of taking the time to do it correctly? Personally, I try to make a good first impression if I'm interested in getting to know someone. I don't think it's asking too much to expect someone contacting me to do the same. |
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I finished my physical therapy last month and I haven't slowed down since! Every day when I wake up and realize I can walk and I'm not in agony anymore it's a great day! Anything good that happens after that is just icing on the cake. Except for a couple of dark weeks where the pain was constant and unbearable, I managed to get through a really horrible time with my positive outlook intact and in some ways improved. I honestly don't know how I got through that and emerged alive and relatively sane. Wow. I'm a lot tougher than I thought! And I'm grateful beyond belief.
I've jumped back into life and have been busy almost nonstop! Socializing has been at the top of my list now that physical therapy is over. I spent so many months in pain and unable to see friends or date. I missed being social so much! I've been going to munches throughout P.T. - at least once I could actually get around on my own and drive.
I've met some new people and someone special in particular. I've actually had much more luck on the vanilla dating sites than I have here or on the other BDSM site I'm on. (The one that starts with "F" that this site automatically deletes the name of when I type it in my journal. Idiots.) I think it's because on the vanilla sites you tend to get to know the person before jumping into talking about sex and kink. Here it seems to be more about hooking up to "play". Yeah, I'm all about play, but with someone I actually know and trust! Preferably someone I have a deep, meaningful relationship with. I have nothing against being close friends and play partners, but what I've wanted all along is something more. I just didn't know if I'd find it.
I think I have indeed found what I've been looking for. We've been spending time together, getting to know each other, and just having fun. I've met his wife and think she's awesome. He's met my husband and they get along great. They've introduced me to a poly social group they know and they seem like great people. Who knows what new and wonderful relationships might come from that? Gods I love being poly! It's been phenomenal getting to know one another so far and we haven't even gotten to the kinky part yet!
I feel so incredibly fortunate to have my life back!
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Physical Therapy has been great. I'm finally working hard and feeling challenged. Unfortunately, I'm doing so well I'm about to reach the end of what the insurance will pay for. Sadly, I can't afford a gym memberships there. I have an elliptical machine here at home, but I'm going to miss the top notch weight equipment they have there. Just when I was getting strong again. **sigh** |
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Had a P.T. appt. at 7:30am yesterday. Friends who know me well as a "go to bed at 2:00am - 3:00am, get up around 11:00am" kind of girl would faint to hear I got up at 6:30am for any reason. It was the only opening they had available so I took it. Yes, I'm THAT dedicated to my physical therapy.
Finally, at long last Karri actually worked me a little. I could feel muscles waking up and saying "hello again". I had to strain a little a couple of times. I did some supervised twisting from side-to-side - something I've been afraid to do since my spine surgery. I'm healed now though and she taught me how to do it without twisting the wrong way and injuring myself.
Tomorrow I have Mary, my previous physical therapist who got me walking straight upright again. I'm pretty sure she will work me. I'm going to tell her to kick my ass. My insurance is paying for my P.T. and they have excellent equipment in that place. I want to get nice and strong again, and in much better shape than I was before my surgery. Hopefully that way I'll be better prepared to deal with future back problems as they arise. I'm going to make the most of this opportunity while I have it!
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If you follow astrology at all, there is something very interesting going on. Venus is in Retrograde from 10/8 to 11/18. Just to make things even more interesting, it's happening in Scorpio. Google it if you're interested in what it means. I'm not really into astrology, but it can be somewhat interesting from time to time.
One of the expected results of this current astrological event is that people you thought were long gone may come looking for you. There can be complete role reversals. Circumstances you thought were one way can do a complete 180°. If we really are subject to such influences, life could get extremely interesting very quickly. Mine is already heading in that direction.
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In my last post I wondered what the men on Collarme with either minimally filled out profiles, or those who haven't bothered to write about themselves at all are missing as far as details. Well, now I know. They also don't bother to read MY profile.
They miss basic things like the fact I'm looking for someone local who is close to my age. More importantly, they miss the fact that I'm NOT a slave, or even a sub. I'm what I would call a "bedroom bottom". I explain this clearly in my profile.
They also miss the part where I ask them to please be a gentleman and not email me telling me all their kinky desires. Personally, I would think basic manners and common decency would make that obvious, but I've been proved wrong about that repeatedly. Their moms must be so proud.
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I've noticed that a lot of men on Collarme have either minimally filled out profiles, or haven't bothered to write about themselves at all. To me this is a big red flag. If you don't pay attention to details like that, what more important details might you miss in other areas?
Also, I've been contacted by a few local men here who don't attend the munches. When I've suggested they do so as a way for us to meet in a safe, comfortable environment, they always have an excuse why they can't or they don't respond at all. Another even bigger red flag!
While I may have a desire to please, it doesn't overrule my desire for personal safety when meeting someone new. I am very cautious, and if you can't understand and respect the need for that, you're not a Dom I want to meet.
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Wow, it's been a while since I thought to write. Life has been busy! My camping trip wasn't what I expected, but it was exactly what I needed.
I partied hard a couple of times and I spent a lot of time thinking, meditating, and journaling.
Mostly I had the wonderful opportunity to spend quality time with local friends and catch up with friends I only
get to see there every year. I reconnected with a friend I haven't seen
in 2 years, which was awesome, and once again, my friend from MA brought
along a friend I ended up really hitting it off with. I think I've made
more friends through her than anyone else I know!
All in all it was amazing, unexpected, and as always, a learning/growing experience. Since then I've held my annual fund raising event which was a huge success as usual. It gets bigger every year. We hit 600 people this year, 100 over my goal! Yay! We raised much more than I expected in this economy in MI.
A couple of my long time friends and a couple friends I've known a few years go to the Lansing munches. I've started going with them to hang out more than anything. Just trying to get back into being social after my 6 months of back-related hell, surgery, and recovery. I've met some interesting and fun people. I like that we have 2 munches a few weeks apart instead of one a month like a lot of groups.
I'm actually organizing the next Sunday munch so we can all go on a hayride and have a bonfire afterward at one of the local cider mills. Still looking for the best deal with the most fun included.
I'm now walking without a cane, have a last follow-up visit with my spine surgeon in a couple weeks, and one more round of physical therapy left. After that I should be able to get completely back to life as usual until the next time I need a repair. lol. Good thing I have a sense of humor.
Life is good right now. Things didn't work out with the mystery man, but I'm getting to know someone new slowly and carefully. We'll see how it goes. As always I'm cautiously optimistic.
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I'm so excited about my camping trip tomorrow I'm not sure I'll be able to sleep! I thought for a while there I might not recover from my spine surgery in time. I'm so incredibly grateful to be well enough to go! I plan to have an obscene amount of fun!
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My insurance company declared my car totaled. Car shopping has commenced.
My recovery continues to progress. I'm doing so well that I'm leaving on my annual 9 day camping trip early Saturday morning. I can't wait to see my friends and be in a place where "my type" is considered the ideal of beauty! I'm hoping the Viking Camp will have their annual Beat & Greet so I can mingle with fun and interesting people. I might go "incognito" in my leather mask.
I'm about to embark on another grand adventure of personal growth, meeting new people, and making new friends. I will return relaxed, refreshed, full of self confidence, and, as always, changed in some way. I can't wait!
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What kind of complete idiot goes to their spine surgeon for a post-op
follow-up and gets into a car accident afterward? Why me of course! Arg.
No humans injured. Two REALLY smashed cars. Not technically my
fault, though I went through a red light and T-boned the other car. The
rubber grip came off my brake pedal as I approached a red light at an
intersection, and my foot went with it. I did manage to swerve enough to
hit the front passenger quarter panel instead of either doors where
there were passengers present. Then some frantic flailing ensued while I
continued trying to hit the brake pedal which was now sans rubber grip
and jammed between my foot and my sandal as I tried to slide my foot
back onto it.
I did manage to cross all lines of oncoming
traffic and pull into a mini emergency lane right on the corner (Which I
assume was there for just such an occasion.) and get myself out of
traffics way without hitting anyone or anything else. At 5:30pm. During
rush hour. Go me.
I'd prefer to have not needed to take the aforementioned evasive actions in the first place. Who makes the glue that holds the rubber grips on Ford Taurus brake pedals? I would like to
find Inspector #"IwasBusySneezingInsideMyColonWhenYourBatchOfGlueWentBy". Once this is accomplished, may I please be allowed to perform a
rectal-cranial removal on them, (No anesthesia, and YES, I AM going to
use these enormous retractors!) then glue their every conceivable
orifice closed (With MUCH better glue than they used on my brake pedal.)
to prevent repetition of their cranium once again going missing in
one?? Pretty please?
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About that post last December where I said, "I'm a BBW and there will be no miracle picture saying I recently lost weight here's a newer picture of me". Um... nevermind that post. I'm still a BBW though. Newer pictures soon.
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Well, recovery from spine surgery hasn't been as fast or easy as I had hoped. I am however up, around, and driving to physical therapy 3 times a week. I can walk short distances with a (cool sun, moon, and stars) cane. I need wheels for long distances though. I'm just happy to be out and about again.
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Getting micro-surgery on my spine 3/12. Then we'll see how fast I can recover and get my life back!
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I've had to put my life on temporary hold for a month or two while I get treatment for some back problems. *sigh*
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I've been getting a lot friend requests from total strangers lately. Let's examine those two words, shall we? They are what is known as "antonyms". A stranger is the opposite of a friend. Therefore as a stranger, I do not belong on your friends list. I have to have met you, gotten to know you, and like you enough to consider you a friend to be on your friends list. I'm not here to help you look like a "playa" by being one of the 50 women on your friends list. I'm here to actually meet people face to face, get to know them for the amazing, unique individual that they are, and maybe consider them a real friend or more. Please, don't waste your time sending a friend request unless you are actually a friend. That word means something to me and I take it seriously.
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I'm a BBW. No matter how many pictures you request of me, I will be fat in all of them. There will be no miracle picture titled "I recently lost 60 pounds, here's a newer picture of me". If you're that concerned about getting an exact idea of "how big", I'm probably not the lady for you, and you're probably not the man for me. I prefer men who prefer BBWs. I enjoy being someone's "type" rather than being with someone who "looks past" my weight because they like so many other things about me.
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