A Personal Take on Herpes: Stigma, Risk & Safer Sex

This is a great article:  http://thewisdomcube-blog.tumblr.com/

Here is a great article on massage as ritual.   A great starting point.  http://www.submissiveguide.com/2012/06/massage-as-ritual/

I need to have a safe sex chat with you.  I have genital herpes (HSV-2).   When I tell this to people I get one of three responses:

Camp 1:  guys stop talking to me - they just disappear (really?  really? at least have the decency to let me know you aren’t interested if we have been chatting for a while)

Camp 2:  guys say it isn't a problem for foot massages but there will be no sexual play that involves my genitals

Camp 3:  guys are ok with it (because they really want the sexual play and/or because they are well educated)

I rarely get outbreaks.  I take suppression meds every day to protect my partners.  And I never play sexually with someone without making sure they are aware of the risks. 

If this hasn’t scared you off yet, I encourage you to do some research so you will know the risks.  Some website I find valuable:

http://umm.edu/health/medical/reports/articles/herpes-simplex

http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-basics

http://jid.oxfordjournals.org/content/198/8/1098.full