The pursuit of happiness is a false trail. if you cannot be happy in your own skin, in your own soul how can anyone else? If you cannot make yourself happy how can you ever make another person happy? When I was young, I was once told by a very wise woman, you must be able to live with yourself before you can ever expect to live with someone else.

Make the happiness of others your priority is a glorious thing, but never forget your own happiness.

Another day, and I honestly believe another day wiser. It never fails to amaze me why people insist on playing games, on playing false. Life is too short for this kind of shit!!!

Oh well, at least it will be Christmas soon!!!

When you look at yourself in a mirror, do you like what you see, or do you judge your body and use the word to tell yourself lies? If you believe that you are not attractive enough, then you believe a lie, and you are using the word against yourself, against the truth.

Miguel Angel Ruiz

When a man makes a mistake.

All men make mistakes, but when a real man makes mistakes, what makes the man? Is it denying responsibility? Is it blaming someone or something else? Is it simply denying a mistake was ever made? Or is it something else?

What makes him a man is being able to see the mistake that he has made and accepting responsibility for it. What makes him a real man is being able to pick himself up, brush himself down, get back on the horse, wiser, knowing that he now has the experience to not make the same mistake again and most importantly resolving to learn the lesson and NOT make the same mistake again. What makes a him a great man is the ability to perform all of the above and then turn around and make good the mistake.

Sorry is a word that must always be said. But it is never the line that brings it all to an end. It is what he does after the fact that makes him a man. Nothing else.

Not sure that I will ever be in a position to repay the debt I owe the individual that led me to the realisation that I was a dominant man. Suffice to say that the full explanation of how I discovered that I was dominant is a very long and difficult story, but I will try to keep it as brief as possible.

I have for many years worked in a high profile environment where the need to make critical decisions, quickly and precisely, dove tailed very nicely with my need to be in control of my surroundings. At a young age I rapidly rose to a position within a US multinational, where I had a large number of employees (100+) reporting into me, and found that I was able to influence and direct with ease. However I didn’t at the time realise this was because of my own strength of personality and my own deep desire to lead.

At home, everything was run as liberal society would expect. With my wife, everything was a partnership and all decisions were made as equals. I genuinely believed this was how things should be and it always baffled me how I could be so successful at work where I was paid to take the lead, yet things seemed to be so difficult at home where I consciously took the decision NOT to lead. Life for most of our marriage seemed to be a constant battle with, my wife at times fighting for the reigns because she felt I was dithering and not just getting on with things.

In short, after 20 years together our marriage had come to a complete halt. I spent some time away from home and connected with an old friend who clearly and unashamedly identified herself as a true submissive, and in the three months we were together she taught me a great deal about myself, and my true nature. While I gratefully welcomed this insight into my own being, I was a truly saddened that I didn’t come to this realisation before my marriage died.

So in short, even though I am a leader, I had to be led to this point of discovery rather than discovering my true nature on my own. To the one who led me there, all I can say to you is, thank you.

A little something to ponder:

I am looking for someone special. A woman who knows when to be strong and when to be meek. A woman who will let her man lead but fight hard when the need arises. A woman who will give all of herself to her man and hold nothing back. Beauty is something other than just the flesh. It comes from the soul.

I want to possess you completely, love you passionately, stand by your side in life and in front of you in times of danger. I want to take joy in offering you my protection and take pleasure in you anticipating my needs.

I want you totally, absolutely and completely.