my opinions on contractual slavery vs. relationship based slavery
As a slave I have served in both situations and I believe that M/s relationships work best in the long term if there is an emotional bond between Master and slave outside of a contract. I'm not saying that if a M/s relationship has a contract as part of their dynamic it is doomed to fail, I just think that there needs to be attraction between the members or the trust will break down. The contractual relationships that I have served in may not be typical, but it has been my experience that if the only thing holding a slave to their Owner is an agreement on a paper that no matter how trusting the slave is, the M/s dynamic will fizzle and burn out in a very short time.
I have served in two contractual dynamics and one relationship based one(my present one.) In one of the contractual ones it was almost like clockwork, another girl would come in, fall in lust with the situation, sign the contract, but by 7-9 months they were leaving crying over how shocked they were that the fantasy didn't play out the way they wanted it to. I argue that there needs to be real affection between Owner and slave for trust to be built up and maintained enough to last, and that looking at the M/s dynamic as more of a marriage than a contract will limit the impetuous slave from running at the first rain cloud or the Owner from tossing Their hands up in the air with disgust and throwing the slave out at the first inconvenience presented by them, whether out of their control or not.
Admittedly I am jaded from my own experiences but I draw these conclusions from casual observation as well. In my current situation I feel unafraid of being tossed out because I get sick to the point of not being able to do my chores or have an expensive accident. I am still very much aware of my collar and position and know who is holding my leash so to speak. It is through this security in my collar that I am driven to be very grateful and respectful, even in the quiet of my inner thoughts. (not to say my inner brat doesn't whisper in my ear at all but its a lot quieter and easier to gag lol.)
To slaves wishing to join my Owners house, its a wonderful home and a great life. Master and Mistress are incredibly understanding and strict but fair. slaves in Their house are treated like members of Their family not just like the car in the garage or the sofa. My input is sought after and even occasionally acknowledged. Master and Mistress do not treat Their slaves like they are stupid or dumb and acknowledge their humanity. In this acknowledgement, slaves are not penalized for genuine mistakes or for becoming ill. slaves here do not need to feel afraid to come to Master and Mistress with concerns and frank honest dialogue is actually encouraged.
Master and Mistress take Their position as Owners very seriously and do everything in Their power to build up and improve Their slaves, not tear them down and berate them so slaves need not fear humiliation or degradation, that is outside of play. If a slave has a need, it will be met, and more often than not a want or two will be granted. As a slave here, you can count on being treated as a human being of value who is worthy of attention and care. You don't need to fear being tossed out on your ass for bullshit reasons and as long as you are honest, respectful, obedient, discrete and follow the rules you wont have any issues to speak of.
An example of the care given to slaves here would be the story of my arrival. When Master and Mistress first contacted me I was in serious trouble medically. I had been abused by an irresponsible Dom on a play date that offered no after care and my ass was very infected and cut deeply. Without even knowing if I was going to accept Their collar, still in my two week trial period, Mistress tended to my wounds and nursed me back to health. She daily changed my bandages, cleaned my gashes and kept me from the very real possibility of dying from the infection. Master and Mistress paid for my bus ticket here so that I could come earlier than planned after seeing my wounds on cam and I was shocked by Their generosity and kindness. Later I got a complete makeover that included a whole new wardrobe, a hair cut, and Mistress and I had a "spa day" where She dyed my hair, helped me apply face masks and toners and really made me feel special and spoiled.
Chiefly, any relationship whether contract based or relationship based, is dependent on the compatibility of the Owner(s) and slave(s) and there has to be an agreement on what each party is looking for. If someone is a part of a solely contract based relationship that has stood the test of time, I applaud them and want to know their secret.
