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omightyqueen
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I am a sadistic male dominant located in Nashville with several decades of experience at all levels of play and community involvement.
I believe that sex is a fundamental part of the power exchange.
I thought about expanding this, but realized it is accurate. I am much more complex, but how do you express that? It is not one size fits all, afterall.
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In a sex magick forum the debate arose over Ongoing Relationship Energy (ORE) and New Relationship Energy (NRE), the power and merits of each.
I will confess to being easily swept up by NRE. A chance to walk down memory lane, exploring paths that I know well with a new person.
ORE is harder for me, since it requires constant effort to push the boundaries back in order to create the energy that keeps a relationship alive. There is incredible comfort in ORE, but that comfort can be corrisive to a relationship as surely as NRE.
Taking an existing relationship for granted is among the most toxic things to inject. Yet the toxin exists in everything that brings us satisfaction in the relationship.
The question is how do we avoid the toxins and enjoy ORE fully? |
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This comment stopped me for a moment to ponder "am I poly or open?"
Upone reflection- the initital thought was poly, but I slowed down a moment to think more on it. And the final conclusion was that I am poly.
Why? I believe that I am capable of loving more than one person romantically and intimately at the same time. A parent can love multiple children and aren't expected to have a favorite, so why can't I?
The interesting thing, my partners for the most part are not poly. Which definitely makes a complex and friction filled existence for me.
But again, like a parent that loves even the unruly child, I still love my partners, poly or not. Would it be better if everyone loved everyone in return, yes.
Yet as a mathematician (who is very endured by statistics and probability) I know that given the rarity of two people falling in love, the odds of three people doing so is even higher...and four...five...six? Compound this with the reality that some of my partners are not even bisexual...and others only situationally bi. Well...
But I can be poly even if they aren't, in my own self view. I believe that the universe made me this way for a reason.
I have spend decades crafting the sadistic, grawf exterior, which those nearest to me see right through apparently. I basically want to make those I care about happy... sometimes reality interfers and my own selfish/self-preservation urges overtake me... but none the less a smile (even if not orgasmic) is a my best reward. |
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Been a long week, for myself and everyone I know. School is heating up and conflicts in my personal life are causing immense stress. On the positive note an acquaintance through other aspects of my life has discovered D/s and came out to me (she guessed based on my comments I was into kink). It is fun to watch things unfold for a newbie, but I have to wonder if she is as well grounded as she thinks she is. Your first D/s relationship is indeed powerful magic. Speaking of sex magic, I just finished the Art of Sexual Magic and the Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand. Interest reads the former was better than the later, but both offer a great program for vanillas.
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Just to be clear... I have herpes... along with 20 to 40 percent of the sexually active population (defined as anyone that has had sex, ever)... It is a hard thing to work into a conversation sometimes, but something I always do before I had sex.
Don't think I am the only person you are going to run into that is effected. Many don't know they have it, and many that do aren't honest and depend on safe-sex practices to protect you. So look around, sadistically if you have had more than five partners you most definitely have been exposed to someone. If you have had 20 or more partners... well do the math...
Now think how many people you know... and apply the same one in five guideline (some credible sources place the number as high as one in two). It is not a particularly easy virus to catch or transmit, and requires sexual contact during a particular time. Casual contact is not sufficent to spread it...
Why am I coming out so strong... recently I had lunch with a lovely young woman and it became a sore spot (no pun intented) when I flirted shamelessly before having the "talk". I knew that sex was not going to happen then, but I still mentioned it for future discussions... now I feel like a leper since this woman has withdrawn entirely without any given reason.
Plus this is for all those busy bodies that feel the need to spread information about my health status, suggesting that I won't be honest and ethical enough to do it on my own.
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| Age: 24 |
| New york,
New York |
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