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Kinkster4funofit

I found attracted to this lifestyle many years ago, and have been active for most of the last several years. I've been in everything from casual play relationships to 24/7 Master/slave live-in. My last F/T relationship ended about a year ago, and I have been meeting! quite a few very nice and wonderful subs since then, but none has "gelled" with Me. I'm more of a Sensualist than a Sadist. I prefer to tease and torture with kink, over endless floggings and beatings. I know how to train a novice into a sub, and a sub into a slave. I really enjoy a sensual spanking, tenderizing an ass to a bright red, with lots of rubbing and finger-teasing along the way. I own a decent array of implements for fun, and am building My own fucking machine and play furniture. I'm a big guy, but not a 'bear'. (Little bit of hair on chest only, not the back.) I run my own handyman/contracting business, so I can build almost any kind of bondage or play apparatus (apparati?) imaginable. I like to socialize, and go to scene clubs, like the Phoenix Club and Woodshed, but not so much now, due to distance. I prefer private parties and play in more intimate surroundings. I welcome meeting an exhibitionist sub again, because that can be big fun. I have learned to like to be on cam, too, sharing techniques and just being kinky. Submissive women welcome. Kinky, sexy, warm-hearted women preferred. I'm an aspiring writer, with 3 books underway, a novel with a sequel being typeset, plus another book on recovery. I would love to extend My efforts into erotica, and have quite a vivid imagination. My last sub loved to be on cam, and I am considering creating some BDSM training videos. If this interests you, look Me up, send a message. Same name on F.L. website.
6/25/2012 5:03:26 AM

Wow. I just realized that the reason for My last entry is that I have had My ass handed to Me by 3 women in the last half-year, all due to My shortcomings as a man and as a person. In My recovery life, I am challenged to correct the character flaws that have plagued Me all My life. In doing so, I must become aware of them in a way that I can HEAR, and GET, and ACCEPT.

Having these recent experiences has opened My mind like nothing before. For any sub/slave still reading, it is My intention to address My shit now and forever onward. I am NOT a 27 yr old gazzillionaire with perfect features, manners, and style. I never will be, but I can be a better Me.

That is the quest. The only quest worthy of My time and effort. Thanks for being patient while site is under development.

6/25/2012 4:57:44 AM

What a weekend of rain! But I got started on 50 Shades of Grey. It is fairly tame, as I was warned, and written by a female in the typical bodice-buster genre style. 

Why is it that women, especially, put out these fantasy guy books, where the hero is so danged good looking it makes the heroine weak in the knees? This makes it hard to find the One in real life, I think, because we come somewhat less refined/rich/articulate/handsome/all that.

I write, too, with 2 books in the can and another underway, so I know a bit about character development. My characters are based on real-life people I know, so they are far from ideal. The conflicted schoolgirl (should say college student) in this book is an unkissed hottie at 20. How rare is that? How realistic is that?

Maybe it rings true for the less-than-perfect female reader who may identify with the unkissed part, who knows all too well the longing for the feeling of connection. I'm sure that's what sells books.

But it sure sets up some unrealistic expectations. We men cannot all BE Christian Grey.

2/22/2012 10:33:17 AM

Just a moment to jot down some thoughts. So much has gone on lately, it might be best to let go and sit aside for a while, but that is not my way. I will continue with my search, but in a different way. Hence the name change to the current. For now, I'm not looking to IMMEDIATELY move into a real-time, full-time relationship. That would be unfair to the lady, since I have so much in the air right now. I did that last time, and learned.