Equal in worth, equal in value, complementary in power.  Your submission is a gift to me.  As you submit to me, so am I a shepherd to you.  I am the captain of the ship and I have the last word always.  However, a captain is a fool that does not listen to his first mate.  I require your input, feedback, opinion, and dialogue.  Decisions aren't made in a vacuum, but as we collaborate together to create this space between you and I unique to ourselves, our thoughts, our interests, and our loves.