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| My philosophy regarding BDSM as a top/dom seems to differ slightly from the norm. To me, it isn't so much about the elements of obedience and the control that stems from it; It's more about removal of control from the sub through the use of restraints, allowing elements of helplessness and distress to be predominant. Hence, activities that require immediate and constant voluntarily compliance (eg mental bondage, humilation play that doesn't involve restraint, etc) don't really seem to tick that well for me, while things that would make the sub want to struggle on some level, like teasing, clamps, forced orgasms etc do.
To put it another way, it's not so much about what they can do for me as it is about what they let me do to them.
Theres also something to be said about mixing bondage with the mundane. There's something about the sub being entirely reliant on the dom to carry out activities like eating, turning on the TV, etc that has a certain element of eroticism to it that cannot be found in normal sexual play.
Currently seeking a partner.
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