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WHAT I BELIEVE
I carry the utmost respect for those who follow protocols, rituals and formalities, but for me... D/s is first and foremost a commitment of the mind, with an emphasis on trust. BDSM is what we do (actions); D/s is who we are (mindsets). The relationship, the energy and the exchange are far more important to me than physical desires (although hella fun!). Mental and emotional bonds will create the dynamic by which the behavior is defined. It all begins and ends in the psyche; the body is a mere conduit. How the mind processes sensation, desire, humility and need is what turns an otherwise straightforward encounter into a rich, intoxicating experience.
A submissive mindset cannot be molded, shaped or forced into being. It is the primordial fabric from which the individual is cut, and each design is unique. If this fabric is of a different colour, no amount of dye can change it. A submissive can learn new ways to express what they intrinsically possess, they can be trained in new ways that best suit their Dominant, and they can gain clarity by speaking with others, but it must emerge from an internal will and desire to serve.
I believe submission the epitome of self-confidence. It is the greatest demonstration of strength; something to be cherished, nurtured, and respected. It engenders power and inspires pride, yet its vulnerability is sacred. Domination is a privilege that cannot be assumed, but its seduction can be exhilarating. A Dominant should seek to discover the best in their submissive, in turn, bringing out the best in themselves. Anything less is a farce and an insult to the lifestyle.
ABOUT ME
I’m often asked when I realized I was a Dominant and for me… that’s like asking when I realized my eyes were brown; it’s just part of who I am. My power and grace stem from within. They're intrinsic to my being and neither designed nor dictated by something I read or by what others deem appropriate. That stated, I first came across the term, “S&M” in my late teens. Soon after, I learned about BDSM and the concept of D/s. I spent the following decade researching, learning and soaking up everything I could from some of the most generous, gracious and talented people within the community… Dom/mes and subs alike.
On this journey of self-discovery, I found my greatest passions ignited by rigging and suspension (have been studying Shibari for seven years now), sensory deprivation/sensation play, psychological torture and percussive play.
26 years in and I continue to learn and evolve as a person and as a Domme. I’m finding my curiosity pique in CBT (have never engaged a male submissive before), predicament bondage, and edge play. I’m not comfortable calling myself a sadist, but a small part of me is greatly intrigued by a masochist’s needs.
I don’t have any submissive tendencies, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t bottomed (yes, there is a difference). The mini-masochist in me rages from time to time for release. Pain is freeing. Also, I never subject anyone to something that I haven’t personally experienced, from floggings to branding (self-inflicted and NEVER again!). CBT should prove an interesting process for me. lol
ONLINE
No need to call me “Miss” and please don’t call me “Mistress.” Ishara is preferred (Ishara, Ma'am if you're more comfortable with titles). It's the Hittite word for "treaty or binding promise," personified as a Goddess of the oath. As such, Ishara could inflict severe physical penalties upon those who tarnish that oath. In Hurrian and Semitic traditions, Išḫara is a love Goddess. I don’t consider myself a Goddess; I simply pay homage to Her.
I hold the mutual exchange of power, within this lifestyle, in the highest regard and I take nothing without consent. As such, I assume no dominance over subs to whom I have no claim. There's no need to kneel, crawl or bow to me. A simple "hello" will suffice. I won't go ballistic and embarrass you in main chat if you PM me, but please, please, please… try to make it interesting.
WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR
I have nothing against it, but I'm not interested in online "play" or “cybering.” If that's your only goal, please look elsewhere.
Far too many submissives, especially those online, believe that Dommes are only looking for a subservient, powerless pup they can bend to their will. Obsequiousness is usually fake, short-lived and terribly annoying. Basically... BE YOURSELF and let the relationship evolve naturally while getting to know me as a woman before submitting to the Domme.
Intelligence, engaging conversation, confidence, humour and charm are huge turn-ons. I'm looking for a partner who’s naturally submissive and understands the difference between compliance and surrender. One with a discerning approach and enough self-respect to recognize submission as something of immense power and value; not something to be offered to just anyone simply because she’s a Domme. I love a good challenge and I ADORE witty brats who know where the line is. I'm most compatible with straightforward, animated personalities.
If you’re new to chatrooms… deference and respect, to those due, are key if you wish to catch my attention (and the attention of most others).
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