Difference between a submissive, a slave, etc…
What is the difference between a submissive, a slave, etc…? I have been asked this question many times, by many curious and new comers to D/s and BDSM. And I have heard many stories from both Doms and “subs” where their “situation” went wrong simply because of a BIG misunderstanding of these basic terms. Many newcomers do mistakenly (mis)represent themselves as a sub or slave when they truly are not one, giving false expectations to the Dominants. (especially the Real Doms that do know what a sub or slave is, and the differences.) Inevitably problems will naturally arise from this misunderstanding. From a Dom's point of veiw; It is like saying they want a Porshe and going out and buying one. But then getting home and finding out what they really got was a VW with just wrong nameplates put on it! The truth of the matter eventually realized is the VW is not going to ever perform like a real Porshe will, so this is eventually disappointing, frustrating, and it is just not what was wanted!!! So when it comes to their "toy", the Doms either try to make a non sub person into a sub.. (let the battles and problems begin!!!) or they just drop the "toy/sub/slave", in which breakups really rarely go well right??? So to help everyone avoid these misunderstandings and situations I have put this information together here for everyone. Doms do have the obligation and responsibility to know and understand these differences themselves, even more so than a "sub"! And out of full fairness some "Pretender Doms" do misleadingly call their "toy" a "sub" or "slave", for purely their own ego or self validation. Which does perpetuate the confusion and the problems.

Anyways, I have looked all over online, and I have not found a single truly comprehensive, or even fully correct, answer to this question anywhere to reference. Actually all of them that I have read seem to MISS THE MOST CRUCIAL AND IMPORTANT DISTINGUISHMENTS IN THE DEFINITIONS… So I will attempt to clarify these for you, because this far-to-common and basic misunderstanding does cause the problems, confusion, and a bad image for the lifestyle(s).

The List of Basic Type/Roles and the Definitions:
The Toys– Sexual playthings/playmates of various sorts. It does not matter what kind of sex you have, or how you have it. It can be fetish/kinky or vanilla, hard and rough or sensual and passionate, role played in any form, and so on. (Which none of that alone makes a submissive or slave). Toys can and often do roleplay any of the other "types" as they want... If they are in a subservient mood, they play a submissive.. if they are in slave mood, they play a slave... etc.. (As long as that is what your Dom wants too)But if at the end of the day you do not intend, or do not stay in that sub/slave role, that pretty much ensures you are a toy. I do want to emphasize Toys are exemplary and awesome beings. They are extremely versatile and you can mix it up allot with them. Toys are "No Lesser" than a sub per say. So don't put negative connotation on it! They are just different, even better in some ways, and are (to be)appreciated in their own rite! They have many of their own unique pros/positives that a sub/slave just doesn't come with! Toys should be just as proud to be a Toy(/who they are, etc...) Being a Toy is being your own person, but (vanilla) ppl wont believe what YOU like and YOU let happen in the bedroom!!! *Wink*Now here's kind of the Important Quirk of it for the Masters. A Primary Tenet of being a Master over a sub/slave is; to NEVER let a sub/slave manipulate them or take (back) authority, power, control, or "self" from them. So that is one reason why its important to have (you and) the Master understand you are a Toy from the beginning. You may temporarily (like to) roleplay into a more submissive/slave role for them at times, but the Base Line you want to be able to return to yourself, is still a Toy. Then A Master can easily and permissibly allow you to return to the Base Line of Toy (and must allow it) without breaking that primary tenet!
Here are some basic common subcategories for toys.
*The Pacifists – As indicated, simply 100% willing and sexually passive… Likes to be/feel “taken” or “taken advantage of” But for them it about self… TO ACHIEVE THEIR OWN fulfillment and sexual gratification foremost. Toys often says things like I like to be dominated, controlled, etc… "Do what you want to me!" or similar... That’s a pacifists mentality… But that’s really not the definition of being a sub/slave.. Keep Reading on for differentiation.
*The Victims(ized) – Similar to the pacifist but likes/needs the unwilling/unwanted/helpless/victimized elements included. Likes to feel like things were indefensibly forced upon them. But again this is for their OWN fulfillment and sexual gratification foremost. A victim also says things like I like to be ravished, taken, dominated, even raped.. or I like things out of my control etc… Again this is not being a sub/slave.
*The Sluts – Simply the Promiscuous/Slutty as all hell. They like to use the submissive “excuse” or seductions often. But fact is they are still about their own reasons, desires, indulgences and gratifications. They just love and want the sex! But this is a TOYs mentality.. not a sub or slaves!!!
These are all a Toys mentality.. nothing above defines being a sub or slave!!! Rolepalying a part is pretending to be something else that is real, but pretending does not make you the "real something"!

The Submissives – This is what most people claim they are. But many of those really are the aforementioned Toys. A submissive is SubServient, and the first level where someone does Choose to submit actual Power/Control and SELF to another. (different than just willingness/wanting) BUT as a submissive you relinquish A LOT, if not virtually EVERYTHING, to the Dom. Not just body, but MIND, BODY, and SOUL; which DOES INCLUDE a great deal of your own “WILL” and “SENSE OF SELF” to a good degree! Submissive's are a SERVANT whose foremost primary concern, and reason for being, IS PURELY ABOUT- TO WHOM THEY SERVE! NEVER THEMSELVES BEFORE WHO THEY SERVE!!! (exceptions of safety, health and well being of course) A submissive obeys and caters to the Dom/Master, not the reverse! (unless the Dom wants to reward sub etc…) And further, a REAL submissive will also naturally and instinctively find and take Immense Pride and Honor, ALWAYS, in SERVING AND PLEASING their Dominant. What the subs feel themselves about (doing) something is a far secondary, even to themselves. This is how real submissives truly are; how they grow and find fulfillment in their lives. They will not feel diminished or put down when fulfilling their duties to their dominant. Quite the opposite; It is feeding their natural needs/desires. Now Submissives do get to keep a good bit of “Self”still, they are allowed their opinions, beliefs, and so on… But again, the dominant trumps all that. Unless the Dom expresses the Dom wants them, then subs are to keep those things to themselves until/unless the dominant asks or instructs different of the sub! Submissive’s usually operate on the low, medium, and high protocols mandated as the Dominant sees fit/dictates. A real submissive says things like “I want to Serve and Please you”, “Your wish is my command Sir”, "How may I be of service" and so on… A sub does not express self recognition of their want(s) unless asked or given permission. That is a Real Subs natural mentality! So this is the major distinguishment… and why many are not really submissives as they think/claim. They are TOYS out for self and their own gratification first, or even equally… which is perfectly Fine and Wonderful!! Again, Toys are great, and great fun! But there is no Dedicated sense of service, or ownership, or responsibility to their Dom. They Won’t or Cant take pride in serving. And that is the (big) difference; and that is exactly what the Toy categories are for and why they exist for you. (so do try use this correct term) They are definitively more accurate definitions for many, and they Do Not-Will not- give misleading and false expectations to potential or prospective Doms!!! And they wont be unknowingly or mistakenly putting themselves in a category, or situation, they themselves self do not intend to be in or want to be in!

The Slaves – A Slave is a submissive/servant (but not the reverse) but to a much greater degree. A Slave is actually owned property and Not allowed any real sense of self at all. No opinions, beliefs etc.. other than what the dominant dictates they are to believe. Slaves are usually “obligated”, or even "indentured", for one reason or another, one way or another, And Yes it can also be a choice. But either way it is non revocable later by the slave. A slave can only be released by a dominant, or be taken/rescued/claimed by another dominant. Slaves can also be, and are often, bartered, traded, sold, rented, loaned/borrowed, etc…. as property or commodities are. (as some submissives are as well) Slaves must always assume and operate under High protocol at all times, unless instructed medium by their dominant. (Low is usually never used/allowed)
Sub categories of slaves:
*Sex Slaves – For sexual purpose/use only
*Service Slaves – domestic servants, house boys/girls, laborers only.
*Hybrid/All purpose Slaves - sexual and labor use. (sometimes financial too)
*PayPigs/Slaves – financial slaves… Slave works to give money / support the dominant. Sex is not mandated or even on the table in many cases.
Slaves say things like “Slave is here for Master” etc.. Slaves (and some subs) NEVER refer to themselves as I, Me, Myself, etc… They call themselves ‘Slave’ or whatever “name/word/sound” designation your master gives you. That is a true slave’s mentality!

The Pets – Is simply a PET… they are none of the above. Yes you can train and “command” a pet retrieve your newspaper and your slippers etc.. But that’s just it. It is that type of Pet “love and obedience”. You feed them (usually on the floor) , you companion them and they companion you.., you exercise and walk them, and you “play” with them…. just as if they were your pony, dog, cat etc… Still a “Dom/Sub relationship” but with the human over animal behavior and protocols in play, versus human servants. Remember animals are primal and are going to do what that type of animal does!!!

The P.O.S 's – indescribable really… Those taken and truly abused past all respectable forms of true and legitimate domination. Classification is less than anything else on the face of the planet. Just as unworthy and discarded like nothingness. More worthless than what you “flushed” down the toilet this morning… (sorry but it defines correctly the term and emphasizes the point) Please don’t ever let yourself be(come) a P.O.S doormat!!! This category also serves another IMPORTANT purpose… It is how those in the lifestlyes differentiate between a Plain and Simple Abuser and What a Real Dominant is and does. If you ever find yourself under someone taking you here… Sub, Slave, or Toy, get yourself away from them! Any Real Doms will tell you they are not one of us (a real dom), in any sense... and they are nothing but purely bad news for everyone!

Further differentiation or distinguishments:
So if your fantasies, dreams, or even encounters are about you being taken, dominated, controlled, ravished etc.. but what really gets YOU off/excited is what is Happening TO YOU, or being done to YOU… THEN YOU ARE A TOY! (Not a sub or slave) Now if in those dreams, fantasies, or encounters it’s the sense of pride in servitude, or being truly owned, and obediently SERVING and PLEASING your Dom however they desire (regardless of own self or wants)… is what fulfills you or gets you off then you are a Real sub or slave. (Do not call yourself a sub or slave if you are not there to serve and please selflessly!!! A Dom expects this of a Sub/Slave, as it is the true definition of one!)

How you spend your Time has nothing to do with being a sub or slave.. I read many articles saying that if a slave still lives a normal day to day.. has a job, has control of their life to any degree, they are a toy or maybe sub, but not a slave… Well that’s not really true… at all! Really its purely wrong and absurd. Life does have it’s practicalities.. People do have to work, pay bills, raise offspring, live!!! Sometimes both in the relationship.. That does not demote a slave to sub if they have to take time to work, or promote a sub to slave if they don’t work etc.. Slaves/subs can work, have jobs, family, responsibilities etc. and should always take care of those responsibilities! They are just “part time” slaves, or “part time” subs, versus 24/7 slaves/subs, or lifestylers etc…

Now to discuss “limits” and how they differentiate…
*Toys always seem to have their limits. This is understandable because again they are about and aware of self greatly. Their likes/dislikes trump a Doms in their minds because of their independence. Its allowed, acceptable, and again understandable because they are not truly subservient.
*Subs are commonly allowed limits as well. (soft or hard) but understands those limits are going to be tested, pushed, or even crossed. It’s just the nature of serving, and being “progressed” as a submissive. This is mostly at the discretion of the dominant, but again the sub is given considerations.
*Slaves – typically have no rights to set limits being owned property… But again this is at the discretion of the Master. For purely devoted and dedicated slaves, limits are counter-natured to themselves and their very purpose, even existence. That all said… COMMUNICATION, UNDERSTANDING, AND TRUST ARE THE CORE ELEMENTS TO ANY CHANCE OF A SUCCESSFUL, TRULY FULFILLING D/s, M/s RELATIONSHIP!

Many people make the argument.. "but I am a submissive person.. or I like to be submissive, or dominated" (in the bedroom).. I do understand your point. But the word Passive is really more accurate, because you cannot look at the word submissive by itself, as the Webster dictionary term in this context! You must consider this term IS IN the context of BDSM, and in the direct unbreakable conjunction with domination. There is no defining the"s" without the definition of the "d" considered and taking affect.. One does not exist without the other! And the definition of domination/Dominant, means (one who) to Impose(s) authority, will, and rule over another. So as "a submissive" you have to submit a good degree of own self and will, which includes SERVING. It is just passive otherwise. And conversely with domination now properly defined.. Isn't the word Aggressive more accurate for what many are as "doms", and/or what toys really want? Again if there is not actual taking of, and submission of, self and will, or there is no Imposition of authority and rule, then there is no actual domination/submission by the very definitions! It is just aggressiveness and willing passiveness. Which is really not being a Dom, or a sub.

For my last point and very important one.. Outside of the misunderstanding situations, it is also important to acknowledge that it is also a (dis)respect issue when someone does misrepresent themselves. If you are a toy, be respectful to the subs by not “self including” yourself in their earned status/category. Same goes for a sub to a slave… Each classification has it’s requirements, distinguishments, and achievements/honors. Now understand the FACT those are real accomplishments they have achieved. (levels of obedience, servitude, loyalty etc…) . Is it fair or respectful for someone to just claim such a title or designation so willy-nilly? Just because they say so, want so, or think so!... Of course it is not fair, and NOT right!! It is disrespectful to just disregard the standards, benchmarks, and goals they have lived up to, and the achievements they have made. Doms call them “subs” and “slaves” honorably in acknowledgment and appreciation of their achievements. It does mean something real, it is worth protecting that, for us and them!!! If you don’t understand or accept this reasoning then YOU shall start calling me; "The supreme and most benevolent Master of the multi-verse and all that is in them!...." Just Because I Said So - and YOUR reasoning says I can!!!

Respectable and PROPER Doms will acknowledge its their foremost responsibility to first understand these differences themselves. (and DOES NOT CLOUD OR REDEFINE THEM! Especially for purpose of their own ego!) Second, make sure the underling understands the differences just as clearly. And third, operate on (and within) the Appropriate and Understood level for the underling!

There are other categories, such as switches, and other situational conditions where someone can be a mix of the above… For example.. Poly household/situations can have more complex hierarchies.. a sub can be a Dom too.. One can be a Sub to their Dom but then also owns/has their own slave at the same time… and so on…

I do hope this is informative, clarifying, and helps All sides understand better so problems and horror stories are avoided!!

Slave Postures/Position Protocols
Preface; All slave positions are designed and intended to work with, or against the body’s natural postures and adjustments. They force the slave to fully concentrate on their position and body itself constantly. The intention is to increase the slave’s attention levels as well as their concentration. They also counteract the slave’s natural instincts of self protection by exposing the body and its vulnerable regions. This induces the feeling of being helpless and emphasizes being under someone’s control, mercy, and trust.

Basic Positions:
**Standing Surrender Position - No Gorean Name.**
The slave stands normally but their legs are spread a part shoulder width or more. Their hands are folded/fingers interlaced behind the neck or head with their elbows spread wide. Back is kept straight, shoulders held back with chest pushed out. Head remains held up at all times but eyes are to be directed to the floor. By this the body and especially the chest, stomach and pubic areas are fully exposed and unprotected.  Position is good for restraints, inspection, and punishment.

**Kneeling Surrender Position – A "Nadu" variation in Gorean**
Similar to the Standing Surrender however the slave kneels sitting on their ankles or feet, knees are spread apart at least shoulder with or more, and the hands are folded behind the neck or head with their elbows spread wide. By this the body and especially the chest, stomach and pubic areas are fully exposed and unprotected.  Position good for inspection and punishment and is more stable for the slave, But Slaves ability to "run or bolt" is drastically hampered.

**Standing At Attention (or Waiting) Position  **
The slave stands normally but their legs are spread a part shoulder width or more. Their hands are folded behind their back. Back is kept straight with the  shoulders held back and chest pushed out. Head remains held up at all times but eyes usually are to be directed to the floor. By this the body and especially the chest, stomach and pubic areas are fully exposed and unprotected, but is more comfortable for the slave.  Position is good for restraints, inspection, and punishment.

**Kneeling At Attention (or Waiting) Position - "Nadu" in Gorean**
This is the most basic slave position. Slaves will spend most of their time in this postion. The slave kneels sitting on their heels or feet with knees spread wide open shoulder width or more. The hands rest on the thighs with palms facing up. This position shows their submission and will to serve. This position does allow the slave a way to communicate obedience and  a want to serve/please at the moment.  (psychological effects) Since this position is often construed as a slaves offering. It is NOT commonly used for punishment, but can be! Various hand and head position alternatives are also used.

**Kneeling Modestly (or Relaxed) Position - "Tower Slave" in Gorean**
The slave kneels upright sitting on their heels or feet as previous, but with their knees together/closed. The hands rest on the thighs with palms facing Down.

**Kneeling Worship Position – No Gorean Equiv**
The slave kneels as previous sitting on their feet, but legs are closed and butt is low.  Slaves face completely down, chest as flat as it can to the floor. Their arms are spread out and forward above their head, palms flat to the floor or crossed flat above head. In worship the slaves head and hands are facing their Master directing their worship to their Master.

**Kneeling Whipping Or Usage Position – “Slavers Kiss” in Gorean**
The slave kneels similar to the worship position. However the slaves legs will be more open for stability. The slave can raise their hindquarters with their head remaining low, (Slaver’s Kiss) Or they can raise their head and shoulders sitting much like a pet dog or cat does. Arms may also be positioned like worship, or can be held to the sides, grabbing their ankles or not. This keeps the arms out of the way for the Masters whipping to come. For Whipping the slave initially positions themselves either perpendicular to (sideways) to their Master or facing away from their Master.

**Kneeling Submission Positions - "Bracelet" in Gorean**
Slaves again kneels as previous, but remaining upright with their arms are folded behind them on the small of the back.

**Kneeling Restraint Position **  - "Ko Lar"(collar) in Gorean for some reason?
The slave kneels in front of the Master with their hands stretched out before them with wrists typically crossed awaiting restraints. Hand positions may be out in front of the head position or directly above. The slaves head will be lower than their hands and their eyes will be looking down.

**Kneeling Collaring Position - "Leasha" in Gorean**
Slave kneels before their Master, back straight, shoulders back, chest out. Head will be up but turned away form the Master, in order for a collar and/or leash to be placed on the slave. Hands are to be placed behind the back and wrists crossed. For those with long hair, the hand on the side slave is facing may be placed behind their head or neck holding their hair out of the Masters way.  The other hand should remain in the small of their back. Similar to the Kneeling Surrender position but intended to allow easy collaring/leashing and slave restraints.

**On All Fours/Quadruped Position -"She-Sleen in Gorean**
(think human furniture, chair, table, foot rest, or upright doggy-style position)
The slave falls to their hands and knees with their head down looking at the floor but their hindquarters thrust high for viewing and/or their Master’s pleasure. This position is very universal and versatile in purpose.  It also has certain animalistic aspects as well as the aspect of servitude, or even ification, humiliation. If you use your slave as a chair/foot rest, make sure that you don't put too much pressure on the spine or kidneys. Try to put weight as close to the slaves butt or shoulder areas as possible (the supported areas) to begin. Be responsible to what your slave can handle and give them time to develop strength and endurance!

**Bowing Submission or Leading Position - “Hair and Leading” in Gorean**
The slave stands, her feet flat on the floor, and bows gracefully at the waist so that long hair falls forward. The slave then places their arms behind their back crossing their wrists and remains stationary.  In the Leading position the slave will first walk up from behind their Master bending at the waist, crossing their ands behind them as before.  But the slave then places the side of their head and shoulder into their Masters hip so he made walk/lead the slave by the hair or collar. The head/hip placement provides direction and stability for the slave while moving.

**Belly Prone & Binding Position - "Bara" and "Belly Prone" in Gorean**
There are variations, either open or crossed.  Gorean "Belly Prone" the slave lies flat on their stomach face down. Arms to the side and their and legs spread wide open awaiting their Master. "Bara" the arms are behind their back and wrists crossed. The legs are closed and crossed over each other at the ankles -ready for immediate binding.

**Back Prone & Binding Position  ** "Sulu" in Gorean
Similar to Belly Prone however the slave lies on their back face up. Legs are typically expected to be open wide and straight. (not bent at knees) Slaves arms to be close to the body palms up/down. Open/spread arm and Raised hips variations are also used!  (called Sulu-ki when hips are raised)

**Back Submission Position - "a Sulu-Ki" variation in Gorean**
Slave lies on her back with their knees bent, raised fully, and spread wide. The slaves hands then reach forward and grab their ankles pulling their heels to the back of their thighs or butt as much as possible. Variations allow the slave to raise their hips/waist to give even greater open access to their entire genital area.

**Backside Presentation Position**
The backside is very much exposed and with that wonderfully positioned for a spanking, floggings. etc... The slave stands but bends over with hands grasping around the ankles. Legs are to be spread as much as possible. In this position the entire backside area is very exposed and unprotected. This position also very useful for "inspections", penetrations and so on.. But it is quite unstable, so be careful when using it for punishment or intercourse.

Master's Creed
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Above all else a Master Cherishes their submissive, in the knowledge that the Gift the submissive gives them is the Greatest Gift of all. 
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A Master is Demanding and takes full advantage of the power Given to them, but knows how to Share the Pleasure that comes from that Precious Gift.
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A Master is in Control of themselves First & Foremost, so that they may Control others.
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As a Stern and Demanding Master, They can cause their submissive to Cry real tears. As the Consummate and Caring Lover. They will Kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.
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In times of trouble, a Master will leave the roles behind to be a supportive Friend and Partner. Never forgetting that this is a Loving Relationship between two caring individuals.
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A Master is quick to Understand the Differences between Fantasy and Reality. A Master would Never ask a submissive to put them before their Safety, Well Being, Career, or Family, just to satisfy their own ego, wants, or pleasures.
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To win a submissive's Mind, Body, Spirit, Soul, and Love, a Master knows they must first EARN their Trust.
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A Master will show their submissive Humor, Kindness, Compassion, Warmth. And above all Respect and Appreciation.
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A Master must always show them that their Guidance and Tutoring is Knowledgeable, and Deserving of their complete attention. That Master is a person they can Learn from, and that they can Trust their direction.
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A Master is Romantic enough to be Protective and Chivalrous when called upon, They will fight for their submissives Honor and Dignity. A Master proves to their submissive that they are someone they can not only lean on, but truly depend on as well.
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When at comes time to teach their submissive the lessons of obedience. They are a Strong and Unyielding professor. A Master will accept nothing less than the sub missives best at achieving Perfection.
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Never does a Master use Discipline without a Good Reason. W hen they do punish their submissive, it is always with a Knowledgeable and Careful hand.
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A Master ls Always Open to Communication and discussion; Always ready to hear their submissive‘s wants and needs.
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A Master is Patient; taking time to truly learn their submissive and their limits.  And also knowing that as their Trust in them Grows, so will they together.
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A Master Never has to demand ritual behavior from their submissive. their submissive responds to them out of the Want of Serving and Pleasing the Master. Compliance should only come from the Want to please and serve, Never the Fear of Punishment!
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A Master understands the Fragile Nature of Mind, Body, Soul, and Spirit, AND Never violates the Trust Given to them.
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A Master is Secure enough to Laugh at them self and the silly absurdities of life. they are also Open Minded enough to Learn new things and Strong enough to Grow.
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A Master's true tools are their Mind, Body, Soul, Spirit, and their Love.
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A Master understands that each partner Gains Most from Pleasing, Respecting and appreciating the other.

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Both Master and Submissive must know that above all, Love and Trust are the only Bindings that ever Truly Hold.
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Master's Vow
As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity. I am a dominant being. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all others. Yet, to you I am Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.
You are a submissive. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a submissive and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.
We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally submissive. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.
You are sure, strong, and proud in your servitude. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a Master to stand strong and be a Master. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a Master. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.
What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to be. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other submissives and all the treasures of the earth.
Within the bounds of our relationship...it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you.
That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary.
What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

Submissive's Creed
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm. I will not try to manipulate my Master. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should. I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to or comfortable with and expanding my limits.
I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being. I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill thier wishes and desires. I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused, I know that submissive does not equal "doormat".
I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives, I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been I will take the time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.
I will be responsive to my Master, I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist them in their responsibilities as my Authority, I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Master to know thought or feelings which I do not share. I will never think myself a "better" submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another. I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a submissive. I know that my actions reflect upon my Master, and will do my best to help others see them in a positive way, I will not intentionally embarress or displease my Master.
Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honor, I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or sub~human. I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.

Submissives Rights
... to set limits and expect them to be respected.
... to trust providing I have earned it.
... to expect you to belive that I am an intelligent, caring, and loyal person.
... to ask for your attentron withhout having to misbehave to get it.
... to expect you to administer your punishment on me with sincere care and great caution.
 ...to question your motives should you deny my requests of you, And I promise  to do so respectfully.
... to speak up if feel our relationship is not giving me what I need.
... to tell you all I need in a respectful manner.
... to expect you to understand my reasons for doing so. and the right to expect you to listen with an open mind and heart.
 ... to walk away from our relationship, respectfully, if we cannot come to a common ground on these or any issues.
... to expect tenderness, love, and understandinq after a scene is completed. Should it be what I need or simply desire.
... to ask you for that tenderness if I've simply had a bad day or if I just feel the need for closeness. I understand that there will be times when you will disraqree about this - when you will\will not want a scene and vice versa.
... to voice my opinion and expect you to listen to and truly conslder my reasoning. I expect you may have the final word but I expect you to whole-heartedly consider my feelings whatever they may happen to be.
... to expect you to understand that deep trust often leads to love, And I expect you not to repel me when/if I tell you that I love You. For as my Master I will love you, should our relationship move ahead.. should our trust continue to grow.
...to expect you to tell me at any point if you do not feel you can return those feelinqs so that I may decide what I want and need. For it is your pleasure that adds to my own, and makes it real and mine, that adds to yours.