I've recently found myself searching for a way to "defeat" the fantastical elements of my desires. By this, I mean that it has always been difficult to separate what is pleasurable in my mind with what is pleasurable in reality. For instance, the idea of being locked up in a filthy, damp dungeon cell while bound in heavy shackles and surviving off of the minuscule portions of tasteless gruel that my owner would leave for me has been a long lasting fantasy of mine--but how would it feel in reality? Probably not that great.
In reality, the more "tame" of my fantasies--being a slave in a domestic setting, for instance--are far more realistic, and frankly speaking, more possible.
I believe that finding which interests actually work in the real world is one of the major advantages (there are several) of a BDSM relationship shared with someone you trust and respect. |