*I am now FLButtSlut in name only, as I have returned to my home state of NJ*

I am a 42 year old, divorced single mother with an insatiable craving for anal penetraion for starters. I like knowing that my body has brought pleasure. I enjoy that feeling immensely.

Now, gentlemen (and I use that term lightly), don't go saying to yourselves, "mmmm, slut, pound her ass, great" and start thinking that I am bending over and offering that precious tight hole to anyone who expresses interest. I'm not. I am also not looking for someone who wants to have the pleasure of owning my body and nothing else. I am looking for that "right" relationship. The one where he owns my body, and never lets me forget that I am his slut or that I will please him sexually on command. Sexually, I can most likely easily become a slave for the right man (and no, that is not a sexual slave without limits, so don't even ask).

How submissive am I everywhere else? Good question. I used to believe that my submission needed to end at the bedroom door, but over time and through exploration, that does not seem to be the case. I do seek to be more submissive than just sexually, but I do not care to be a slave, have a 24/7 total power exchange or let someone run my life. A big choice for the "doms" (you know most of you don't deserve a respectful capitol "D") seems to be food and clothing chosen. I believe during that time I spend with the right one, he can certainly control my clothing choices. Other times, I am still my own person. Does that mean I won't submit to any rules? Of course not. I have found that I do desire a situation where I relinquish some control to him and be expected to follow the rules he creates, but those rules will be decided from discussions between us. This will be a new experience for me. I have been in this lifestyle for quite a few years, but not to that extent. I am most definately a novice, but also an informed one. I want someone who is experienced. I do not care to have the "blind leading the blind" with another novice. I want someone who will understand that there is always a learning curve (not that I expect mistakes to be overlooked). I desire someone who obviously has an incredibly high sex drive (and yes, a lot of this IS about sex) and expects and demands my body for his pleasure often. I desire someone who is very strong and forceful (sexually). I don't want it to feel as though I am being raped, but I don't want there to be any mistaking the fact that I must submit to his sexual demands (within the limits we have agreed to). When I do break the rules that have been laid out, I do understand that I will be disciplined, and that I am not going to enjoy that discipline. I don't want discipline, I need it. Knowing that certain things/behaviors from me will not be tolerated and that I will suffer consequences are my necessity.

On that note, I do so love being spanked. I love having my ass cheeks reddened as foreplay or just because. I was recently reading an article somewhere that talked about how you discipline a sub who enjoys spankings, because you risk them enjoying the punishment. Certainly for a deeply devout pain slut, this would be true. I am not a deeply devout pain slut. Spanking/paddling and such during sexual activities thoroughly excites me, and even when a belt is striking my ass hard and sharp, I am enjoying it. However, I have a wooden hairbrush in my drawer that I have been spanked with literally once, as in one stroke. Boy, did that one (not nearly as hard) stroke hurt! If you put me over your knee and spank me while telling me what a slut I am, I will drip with pleasure. If you put me over your knee and admonish me and tell me how I have disappointed you while wielding that brush? Let's just say, I'm not really having a good time. Of course, when the time comes to discuss rules and such, disciplinary measures and punishments will be discussed as well.

I want the one that we share common interests with both in D/s and vanilla. Intelligence and humor rate high on my list of priorities. Superficial men need not contact me. For those idiots who think that subs having requirements makes us less submissive? Put down your crack pipe and get a grip. Everyone has requirements and as the submissive is the one who is typically setting the limits, knowing what her requirements are make a great deal of sense to someone who isn't a complete moron or so obviously clueless to the realities of how D/s works. If you are one of those, don't write to me, I don't care what you think or want.

Married men who can't honor the commitment to their wives for whatever reason are the most vile creatures on the planet to me, so unless you need me to personally clarify that for you, don't write. For those who DO grasp the concept and thoughts that I have written here, I would love to hear from you. The relationship that the right one and I share will be quite exquisite.

Looks are not the most important thing, but they are important. Of course, they are also subjective, because we are lucky that not everyone finds the same things attractive (unless of course you are Adolf Hitler!). You might notice that my sense of humor can get a bit "different" at times. Not something that is going to change anytime soon, nor do I want it to.

Age is another subjective important factor. I have little interest in men a great deal older or younger than me. I'm sorry but I just am not typically attracted to men who are old enough to be my father, and men who are much younger than me don't share the same life experiences making it difficult to find the common interests that are necessary.

If you are actually still reading this, you might be calling me superbitch. That's quite alright, just means we probably are not well suited to each other. If you are going to write to me, you should have read my entire profile. If you haven't then I have no interest in you because you obviously don't want to take the time to get to know me.

I am NOT looking for play sessions only, I am NOT looking to relocate. I am NOT looking for someone who is looking for those things obviously, so please don't make a fool of yourself by writing and showing you haven't read my profile. I don't suffer stupidity, ignorance or massive egos lightly, so if you have one and write to me, you must be prepared for the response you get, and you must apparently be secretly looking for someone to let you know exactly how unimpressive you are, because that is exactly what will happen. Of course, for those who don't read the whole profile, you don't even know that is coming, and so....oh, well, you will receive exactly what you deserve. You should have an understanding of what I want in a relationship (important word, boys, pay attention to it!) and not think that you are going to change those desires to fit yours. Yes, I am a very strong and intelligent woman, so you should be hoping to find one, not looking for one to "break", because with me, you won't. So am I, in reality, superbitch or not really submissive? Nope. I am who I am, but not looking for people who want to play games with me (I've had enough of that), and submission exists in all sorts of degrees.

I know that eventually, I will find the right one. I have the patience to wait until that happens. If you honestly believe that we could perhaps be a good "match", then by all means write and let's get to know one another.

One other thing...I have taken the time to write a profile, you should have too. I don't really care to play 20 questions trying to find out basic information about you.