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MistressCaligari
Happily married middle aged male sub. I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm not looking for cuddles, I'm not looking for sex. I am certainly not looking for an 18 year old "findomme" who thinks her mere existence is enough to make me bow down. Thats not domination, darling, thats laziness. For me domination is a verb not a noun. Its an active exchange of power between two people, that happens mostly in the mind. Spanking and bondage and everything else are just manifestations of that dynamic, but without the mental connection its just acting.
1/5/2017 11:46:28 AM
Seriously girls....WTF?

99% of you have literally NO clue what you're doing.


12/5/2015 2:14:04 PM
On a findommes profile

"Dont waste my time" = "Dont ask me to actually do anything to show I deserve your tributes"

You little girls really do make me laugh
10/28/2015 3:01:31 AM
Can I ask all the 'findoms' on here a question? What do you think the pig gets out of it? Clues in the name right? We're inferior to you. We're less than human. But...so what? Why should I give YOU money just because I'm submissive and you've got your hand out? Why YOU in particular? Have you seen how many of you there are on this site? I can pick and choose. You can't. You need to offer something I can't get elsewhere if you want me to spend my money on you. And no that doesn't mean pics or anything sexual. I'm not buying an orgasm here. I want the experience of knowing I can't afford what I'm about to do, knowing im going to be terrified of my wife ever finding out what I've done, knowing that by any rational standard what I'm doing is literally insane and STILL not being able to stop myself from doing it. That Ladies is what a real Findom does. Maybe think about that next time you've spent all night unsuccessfully trawling for $20 Amazon gcs and maybe think about raising your game a little? Just a suggestion
2/13/2015 12:49:02 AM
How long has it been now? Years since we started talking. Years even since that coffee. Years of potential, years of possibilities. No more than 30 miles apart all this time, but always so much distance between us. I ran, so many times. I hid.

But I always came back. I couldn't not come back. And now I'm back at your feet - or will be soon.

Princess.

I ache for you.

I need you.
2/6/2015 12:16:13 AM
So to make it clear I have absolutely nothing against Findom and Findommes. On the contrary I'm a big fan of it. But findom DOESN'T mean giving you money just because you exist. Its about domination, and the experience of being dominated. I don't have to obey everything you say without question, and if you ignore me then I'm just going to walk away. But if you put the effort in and actually dominate me then I'm more than happy to gift and tribute. Is that unreasonable? If you think so, then I guess we don't have much to talk about.
11/26/2014 2:20:24 AM
Apparently having an opinion on what makes a good Domme makes me a 'disrespectful little shit'. Always nice when people engage with the arguments at an intellectual level.
11/26/2014 12:55:01 AM
Yes Im submissive. Yes Im inferior to you (if youre actually a domme and not just some silly teenage girl with a wishlist). And yes Ill do what you say. But that doesnt mean you can get away with giving nothing back. I do this because of the amazing feeling I get when a woman dominates me. Active. There is effort, and skill - real skill - involved in dominating someone. Just like submitting (verb...doing word remember) involves a lot more than standing there saying Yes Miss and doing what youre told. Theres a whole world of difference between telling someone what to do and dominating them. There are some truly amazing and mind blowing dommes on here. Sadly theres a whole lot more people who think they dont have to do a thing or give anything back. Meeting one of the good ones makes you realize how big the difference is.
11/26/2014 12:44:15 AM
No I dont want to give you money. No I dont want to buy something off your amazon wishlist. No I dont want to create a slave profile on some $25 a month scam site. Still want to talk to me? Thats what I thought.